If you feel aversion, reluctance, and remorse afterwards when kissing, caressing, and making love, you should not just look at the couple’s relationship to find the cause, but consider whether you have a psychosexual disorder and seek medical attention if necessary.
Sexual cleanliness can occur in both men and women, but is more common in women, especially intellectual women. Some people have an unscientific attitude toward their reproductive organs or physiological phenomena, considering them ugly or dirty, most commonly women who believe their menstrual blood is unclean and feel dishonored by menstruation.
After marriage, some wives resent their husbands’ genitals as “dirty” and even more disgusted by semen, and even by their husbands’ smell, sweat, and secretions. There are also women who subjectively classify their sexual behavior as: “good” or “bad”, couples making love will also regulate their behavior by this standard, they hate their husband’s hand “touching in places that should not be touched
Sexual cleanliness is a psychological disorder that can disrupt sexual harmony. The actual fact is that the actual person who has this kind of psychological disorder thinks that his or her own or each other’s genitals or sexual behavior is dirty in nature, and often in love with the same time can’t erase the consciousness of “dirty” feeling. In the midst of the constant conflict and pain, not only do they become sexually dysfunctional, but they also cause sexual impotence in their spouses.
Sexual cleanliness is also a product of traditional cultural influences, with feudal consciousness such as the three virtues, male superiority and female inferiority, and the prohibition of copper sex being the root cause of sexual cleanliness.
There are three manifestations of sexual cleanliness:
1. Carnal cleanliness, i.e., an unscientific attitude toward one’s own flesh, especially reproductive organs and physiological phenomena, or finding them ugly or dirty.
2. Carnal cleansing of the opposite sex.
3. Spiritual cleanliness of the opposite sex, i.e., aversion to sexual behavior, sexual mannerisms, or sexual speech of the opposite sex that is actually normal.
It is not easy for people to recognize this as sexual cleanliness, and it is not easy for them to understand where their own or each other’s sexual cleanliness comes from, and they tend to think that each other is “not loving me, or not really loving me”, and that their own sexual cleanliness is just “not loving me”. The other person’s sexual fetish is “not loving me, or not really loving me”, and their own sexual fetish is just “hygienic”, or even “elegant”.
In fact, sexual cleanliness is a condition in which the person, despite intellectually acknowledging that the other person’s genitals and sexuality are clean, i.e., meet hygienic standards of sterility, always involuntarily feels psychologically that the other person is “dirty” or always associates it with the other person. “, or always associated with certain things they think dirty, belongs to a psychological disorder. If you force yourself or the other person to do it, it will cause more conflict and pain.
People who are sexually clean don’t see sex as an integral part of their marital life, but rather as their “duty” or a task to pass on to the next generation, which will naturally This naturally diminishes the good feelings in sex.
In fact, sex itself is very noble, but it has been distorted and misunderstood by some people, especially those with a strong feudal consciousness. The men and women should have a correct understanding of their sexual organs and be actively involved in the couple’s sex life. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on a lot of things.