A 30-year-old woman who has never been in a relationship and has always lived with her parents, asked me after listening to my advice if a single woman would think I was a bad woman if I moved out of my parents’ house and rented a room and went to a bar to dance at night. I asked, “Are you a good woman and do you have men to reward you?”
Two girls, A and B, a 26-year-old and a 24-year-old, were recently featured in the marriage page of Shanghai’s white-collar favorite, the Shen Jiang Service Guide, and A wanted to marry in two years, either not to talk about it or to be a happy woman in one step, and B thought, “To be successful in one relationship, you can’t waste time dwelling on it, and it’s best to finish the baby before you’re 28. ” A said she is a traditional girl, hope to keep the first time to the wedding night, B said parents often admonished “before the wedding can not do bad things.” There is a super talented netizen analogy – never swam in front of the pool, one said: either I jump in once and swim to the other side, or I will not swim. The other says: I want to go straight to the swimming competition and get the gold medal. The parents said: Don’t get in the water if you can’t compete in official swimming competitions.
Thirty years ago, when the mothers of the post-1980s and the post-50s were young, such “good women” and “disciplined women” had no problem getting married. The woman of that era as long as the “rules” men as long as honest on the line, everyone’s expectations of marriage is to make do with the life. Take the hit TV series “Crave” for example, Liu Huifang is a “good woman” typical. But the interesting thing is that she put honest and generous love her Song Dacheng do not want, but to find a Shanghai man Wang Husheng, and later has not been a good life. The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product, which is a new product.
Today’s times are different, men and women have higher expectations of marriage than mountains (both material and spiritual), and women who are in their twenties and still don’t know anything about relationships between men and women will be on the road to dating and marriage for a long time, which is very hard. Some people say, this is good ah, as long as you meet similar men will be good. Such love stayers will only meet through blind dates, and guess what happens when they meet?
They will dislike each other and say-no feelings! A female netizen left a message: “This is how I planned to get married successfully after one relationship, and it is easy to be happy with a simple pre-marital relationship experience. “I am very worried for her, a lot of such thinking “good woman” is unilaterally happy, her husband has been outside someone! Once in love to get married couples have? There must be. They have never had a crisis? Impossible. Marriage is not the end, do not think that everything is fine when you get married. Both parties are first-time lovers and the divorce rate is high.
I made a joke the other day when a user left a comment saying that he didn’t see anything wrong with the idea of the two girls in the Shen Jiang Service Guide seeking marriage, and that I would marry them if it were me. I when he was a man, said don’t if ah, they are recruiting it you go ah. As a result, she said she was a woman! Women often make the mistake of not knowing what men want and taking it for granted that men think the same as they do. So, really listen to what men have to say.
Do men like a good woman with no relationship experience? A single uncle was invited to speak: “I’ve been in love several times, I’ve had a heartfelt experience, I’ve had three people tossed around, I’ve wandered in the doorway of marriage several times but I missed it hard, and now when I want to find someone to marry, I’m more concerned about whether the girls are sexually stable, whether their perception of each other is similar, whether their values are the same. I do understand what kind of person I want to find to live what kind of life, but also hope to find a woman who generally knows what she needs to pursue, so that she will not be confused most of the time not tossed. Without me, she can live a good life; with me, the two of us can live our lives without too much internal conflict and good communication.” -According to this uncle, that white paper good women have no chance, where they can understand so much ah.
In fact, a quick comparison shows that “bad women” are particularly confident and opinionated women who can control their own destiny, and even if they make a mistake in their choices, they can adjust and turn it around in time. The “good woman” can only rely on a good life, once the situation is not as good as it should be, it is reduced to a lifelong grievance.