I love you so much, why don’t you love me? I believe many people will have this question. In fact, I love you, and you love me between, there is no necessary connection. I love you, so I am willing to give, which is my business. The real giving is giving voluntarily, without expecting anything in return, not necessarily that you must love me for me to love you.
Men: Why am I so nice but no women like me
These men say they keep getting lumped into the friends section and think that really sucks (actually want to be lumped into the not just friends section). Women like bad men, and we are so nice and genuinely good to women, why don’t any of us want them? Are they really as good as they say they are? Digging a little deeper, in their eyes, women are supposed to shave their legs, and after certain actions, the other party is obliged to sleep with me. At the same time, the so-called “no”, not do not want, but need a little more convincing “to”. Even without even looking at these deeply problematic attitudes towards gender encounters, they are just plain wrongly misunderstood about the reasons for rejection.
One self-proclaimed nice guy replied to an article saying, “So women just give it up when they have money. This statement, I believe, is also the current perception of many men to women, and even a man said, I just want to find a woman who can marry me naked in a first-tier city in China.
First of all, women definitely do not want money, because without money in this society is certainly not possible, this is a very real thing; secondly, just because you are so biased, one to think that women just want money, two to think that the function of women is to give on, you can not call is a good man. Third, there is no necessary causal relationship between naked marriage and not loving money.
In fact, there is no woman in the world who doesn’t like nice people, no woman who says, “Yeah, my God, I hate nice people, I get weak in the knees at the sight of murderers and robbers or animal abusers and would follow them to the ends of the earth. It’s definitely not because you’re a nice guy, even if a woman has a million and one reasons for not liking you, or breaking up with you, or not wanting to go out with you. It may be that your appearance does not meet his requirements, it may be that you are boring, it may be that you are petty, it may be that you simply lack basic respect for women, it may be that the two do not see eye to eye. But definitely not because you’re a nice guy, so women will dislike you.
Also, a lot of people are being nice because the other person is pretty. For example, the blind date to see each other beautiful eyes glowing, if the other side looks ordinary on many picky, this and good people have a relationship? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers, but it is not a good idea to use good people as an excuse to hide their own vanity and superficiality.
Women: we reject because we don’t fit, not because you’re good
Do women reject men because they’re nice? Many people make this “I’m a nice guy” complaint because they are rejected by super positive girls. Those super positive girls don’t like you, not because you are a good guy, but because you simply have no common ground. If she is a shallow and addicted to material life, then she will naturally be with someone who is shallow and addicted to material life. If she is a person who likes literary style, she will naturally choose a talented or literary type of man.
Then again, don’t say, “I’ve given so much to her, and she’s so heartless. Because you gave so much for her, not because of pure and flawless unrequited love, but because you harbored other intentions for her. Since you don’t love her and chase her the way she wants to be loved, or you don’t take the time to get to know her inside out, what is it going to take to impress her? Think carefully about what a woman is seeking in a relationship. Your pain is not from unfulfilled love, but from what is not being sought, similar to a concept where you feel good about spending so much money to collect points, only to find that the time for the event has expired.
First of all, posting articles on the internet all day long about how “good looking guys do so much better and good guys do so much worse” does not help your love life at all, so if being a good looking guy is so good, why don’t you go and put more thought into your appearance? Secondly, on the one hand, you think you have a good heart, although poor, but inside you deserve to be loved, but on the other hand, you judge all women, “ah, this breast is too small, that one is too fat”, is very inexplicable. There are a million reasons for rejection, and “you’re too nice” is just a sugar coating wrapped around a bitter pill, and it’s a big mistake to suck on the sugar coating and consider it a cure.
The thing about “giving” is that it means more to the person giving than to the person receiving it. The average person is so calculating about their own giving and so accustomed to the giving of others that there would be nothing to complain about, but giving is troublesome because many people believe that giving deserves a reciprocal response.
I’ve loved you for so long, I’ve put so much effort and time into this thing, I’ve spent so much money chasing you, so the other person should respond with love, this thing has to work, there should always be something in return. In fact, this is not the case at all. The fact is, it’s not the same thing at all. When you wake up one morning and suddenly find someone who wants to give to you, anyone would be confused and often the sacrifice that you think is so great is not so great in the eyes of others.
Giving is in some ways a form of violence, an emotion that is forced on the other person regardless of the recipient’s reaction. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem of the problem.
I don’t think it’s wrong to give, but giving is not an equivalent exchange. We love a person, willing to do something for him, is reasonable; but the other party appreciate not appreciate, that really is not our control, not to mention the reason we use to blame each other. I’m sorry if you give and ask for something in return, but you can’t control what others think, but you can control what you do.
If no one is pushing you with a knife and you don’t feel like you’re getting what you deserve, you can just stop doing it, right? The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
If you love someone, give for them not so that they will return the favor, but for the sake of your own love for them, you can’t help but give. If the other party loves you, you feel his love, naturally will be more happy and give. Here, the other party’s love, not the inevitable return of your love for him. Do you, understand?