Recently, the German magazine Women’s Health published a letter from a woman to the German sexologist Dr. Reiner, in which she complained of her confusion. She said that when she was reunited with her boyfriend after a long time, he just took her hand and she was so excited and eager to make love. But her boyfriend was “uncomfortable”. The woman asked, “Isn’t it true that women need to be aroused for a long time before they can get into their roles? Is this normal for me?”
Foreplay and caressing time confusion
Dr. Lerner says that there are few women who are confused by foreplay and caressing time. We emphasize that women need prolonged caresses because women have sexually sensitive zones throughout their bodies, and it takes longer for women to become sexually aroused compared to men.
Women’s slow sexual arousal can be shaped
But women are not born with slow sexual arousal, it is shaped and can be changed. At some point, a significant percentage of women don’t need more affection than men do. This is when a man’s delay in getting to the “point” can annoy them and even ruin the mood for sex altogether.
Go with the flow
Dr. Lerner emphasizes that every aspect of sex needs to be in tune with the partner and go with the flow. Too much emphasis on caressing can drive a wedge between the minds of both partners. Some men’s caresses don’t come automatically, but rather they’re a way to show their “gentleness” and hold back their desire to make each other feel better.
Creating a sense of alienation
They are often disappointed to find that they become more passive and may not be interested in sex even when the other person’s desire is aroused, inevitably creating a sense of alienation. The woman is also sometimes looking for a burst of passion.
Love is a natural outpouring of life force
So, Dr. Lerner concludes, “Sex is a natural outpouring of life force. One cannot truly enjoy sex when it is like operating a machine tool, where every detail is regulated. Only by going with the naturalness of sex can couples have the best sex life.
Don’t stick to the rules and regulations
So when you make out, don’t stick to the rules and regulations; instead, paying close attention to each other’s feelings is the only shortcut to a sexually blessed life.