In this era of increasing competition, everything is about speed, and even the marriage that used to require a slow frying of the fire before it could be consummated can be “lightning”, as long as the two feel passionate about being together they can immediately register for marriage. However, couples who enter into marriage quickly have different experiences, either happily or going their separate ways ……
Cheng Dong: I got married in a flash and I was happy
I have had a lot of relationship experiences, but each one of them was never interesting after the passion died down. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
I think it’s a good idea to have a good relationship with someone who is in love, but after we’ve been together for a while, I don’t see any hope for future marital happiness.
Time flies, and I’m 32 years old. The first time I saw a woman, I knew she had no potential to be a wife, but she was happily married to someone else. At this point I had to make a reflection, is it all my fault? I am determined to take advantage of the opportunity to never let happiness slip away the next time I fall in love.
That time, I was invited to a high school to give students a pre-test stress counseling session, and I was met by the assistant principal, Yu Rou. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. She discussed with me from time to time about the psychological problems of the students, and the extension of words brought us to the issue of love. At that moment, we were both a little gloomy. Yu Rou was sad to tell her emotional experience: “I graduated from graduate school and became a teacher at this school, because of my age, lifelong events are imminent, but when I entered into a relationship with several young teachers in the school, but repeatedly failed. I knew the problem was with myself. Back in high school, I already had a perfect hypothesis for my future husband, he should have A, B, C, D, E and many other advantages, in love with different men, I will use this standard to him, the results are often disappointing, each time there will be a few mistakes or missed options. This left me at a loss in the relationship and in the middle of the relationship, my heart withdrew. After I was promoted to the position of assistant principal, used to the traditional male strong female weak thinking, no one took the initiative to pursue me anymore.”
I laughed and said, “You are making a mistake. Your hypothetical may not definitely fit you. The key is to find the right hypothetical for you in the process of constant experimentation and reflexion. For you at the moment, the key is to let the mind really quiet down.” Yu Rou nodded thoughtfully.
Since then, Yu Rou and I have been seeing more of each other. The first time I saw this, I realized that she was meticulous in her work; in her life, she had fiery emotions. Since the last failed relationship so far, I have never met such a woman who moves me. I decided not to give up this opportunity, so I launched a frantic pursuit. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the market.
That night, after we saw the movie, I walked hand in hand with Yu Rou. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the market. My heart was touched, and Yu Rou also noticed my expression: “What’s wrong, want to get married?” I an impulse: “Then you marry me!” Yu Rou asked with some doubt: “Are you telling the truth?” I said firmly: “Of course it’s true!” What I didn’t expect was that Yu Rou agreed readily, “Okay, then, I’ll marry you!”
When the news broke that we were getting married, it raised questions from many of my friends and family: “You’ve known each other for less than a month, and you’re going into marriage so easily, do you really know each other? Don’t let passion get the better of you and regret it later!” My attitude is very frank: “know three years and know a month, in fact, there is no difference. A lot of real things, even if the other side and then cover up, will reveal a little crack. Years of experience tell me that Yu Rou is a good girl.”
In this way, we walked into the marriage amidst all the doubts. “The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public. I am lucky to have met you.”
Unbeknownst to me, Yu Rou and I have been married for more than a year, and we have had our share of conflicts in our marriage, but that is just the norm in marriage, and many couples who have been married for many years are experiencing it, which is fine, the key is that we can understand and care for each other. I am confident about the future.
Jiang Xi: Flash marriage brought me endless damage
After graduating from college, I went to work as a clerk in a company.
The company’s employees are very hard-working, and they never get involved in factional struggles.
Xue Wei graduated from a prestigious university, a few years older than me, and worked in the company’s sales department.
The company’s sales department is a few years older than me. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
But Xue Wei never made it clear to me that he liked me. The day the boss took the initiative at the weekly meeting: because the company’s employees sit on the job for years and exercise very little, many of them suffer from mild or serious occupational diseases, so it was decided to hold a small sports event, and I hope that the whole company will sign up enthusiastically, and those who achieve the top position in each item can have the reward of a vacation. The company’s first-ever “The Best of the Best” was the first of its kind.
One Sunday, the games began in the rented school yard. The company’s first-ever “The Best of the Best” is the first of its kind. Xue Wei patted me on the shoulder and said, “You are so beautiful in sports.” I bowed my head shyly. Suddenly, I realized that my shoelace was loose and just wanted to look down to tie it, but Xue Wei lowered his head and quickly helped me to tie it. At one point, the company’s colleagues burst out in good-natured laughter, and some good people teased, “To show love, you don’t have to do that!”
On the third day, I was asked by Xue Wei to go to a coffee shop. The first time I saw it, I was in the middle of a conversation. I stammered and didn’t know what to do, after all, happiness came too suddenly, while Xue Wei and I did not really enter the beginning of love, although both sides have always had a good feeling for each other. I said doubtfully, “We haven’t really started dating yet, isn’t this a little fast?” Xue Wei asked me with a sincere face, “Do you like me?” I nodded affirmatively. “That’s good, I like you too. As long as there is love, nothing is impossible.” Xue Wei said firmly. And so, half willingly and half doubtfully, I was put on the ring by Xue Wei and became his bride.
At the beginning of our marriage, we got along well, but as our wedding leave ended, we went back to our normal work routine. The company’s sales work makes it necessary for him to travel frequently, and three months into the marriage, we have spent no more than twenty days together. I have a few complaints about this, but I can still understand it.
Just then, I got pregnant. I had a strong pregnancy that prevented me from even working properly, but I’m glad I had a good boss. My boss, who is also a woman, sympathized with me and gave me a month’s long vacation, and also gave Xue Wei’s job adjustment in due course so that he could take care of me more. Xue Wei travel time is less, home more days. I thought he could share the household chores that I had always done, but I was disappointed that he had been accustomed to do away with the grandfather, not only did not share my household chores, but on the contrary, there were complaints about my three meals not being timely. I can’t help but be angry when I have to do housework when my body is already seriously unwell, and my character is docile. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
That day, after a big fight, Xue Wei said to me seriously: “Before marriage, I always thought you were a woman with a gentle personality, who did not care about the trivialities of life and would make a good wife. But after the marriage, you have become a nagging, complaining woman all the time. I can’t stand it anymore, I demand a divorce ……”
My parents learned of my recent marital situation and rushed over in a hurry. They were adamant that I abort the fetus, and although I had a thousand reluctances, I agreed to do so.
On the operating table, I was tormented by both physical pain and psychological pain, and I was screaming inside: “I’m sorry, my child, don’t blame my mother for being too cruel. ……” On the third day after the surgery, Xue Wei came back with the divorce papers for me to sign. I guess he already knew that I had aborted the fetus and was relieved. I signed the papers with tears in my eyes, and Xue Wei showed his ugly face: “This house is mine, and you have to move out within two days.” The father, who had gone to war and experienced gunfire, watched his daughter suffer such humiliation and, in a fit of anger, picked up the stool in the room and smashed it down on Xue Wei’s head ……
The father was eventually sentenced to prison for intentional injury. And Xue Wei’s bad behavior also made his boss righteously angry and fired him without hesitation.
Today, I am still immersed in self-recrimination. My hasty approach to marriage not only hurt myself, but also my family. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Review: Some people call men and women who get married in a short period of time “flash marriage men and women”. The article shows that flash marriage does not mean that the marriage is unstable, Cheng Dong is an example. The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product.
Because of the flash marriage, there is no time to make a comprehensive understanding of each other’s family situation, spirituality, personality, etc. When you enter the marriage, you find that the other person in the marriage is too far away from the husband or wife you imagined before marriage, which sets up obstacles to future marital happiness. If the two of them are unable to make timely adjustments at this point, the marriage will undoubtedly go bankrupt.
So what kind of people are prone to flash marriages? The psychologist Jung pointed out that people have different brain preferences when it comes to observing and receiving information from the outside world. More than half of people prefer to use their five senses to feel, focusing on objective facts; the other half prefer intuition and imagination, focusing on the connotations and connections of things and on the future. In a relationship, people who prefer to feel the real thing generally do not flash, they usually need to go through all aspects of understanding, the heart will feel solid, only to feel safe. And people who prefer intuition once touched, there will be a lot of passion and imagination, especially two people who prefer intuition, will imagine each other as the perfect other half and flash marriage, thus neglecting to observe each other’s quality, how capable, etc.. Therefore, it is best for people in love to understand their own personalities and brain preferences so that they can build on their strengths and avoid their weaknesses. For example, people who prefer intuition should pay more attention to observe some facts to avoid blindness and impulsiveness.
In short, it’s too risky to trust a lifetime of happiness to a person of the opposite sex whom you’ve known for only a month or even a few days. When young love men and women feel the current of passion passing through their whole body, please bury the over-inflated passion and patiently cultivate the warmth of togetherness, so that we can really see each other clearly and then join hands towards marriage. (Reviewed by: Chen Weiwei)