We all know that although there are many traditional mothers-in-law these days, it is not uncommon for them to have a problem with their daughters-in-law from the very beginning. Therefore, for the daughter-in-law, if you want to have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, you should do a good job of preventing the relationship from deteriorating from the beginning. So what are the specific ways to prevent the deterioration of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? The following is a detailed explanation.
(1) Don’t argue with your mother-in-law no matter how unreasonable she is
Even if your mother-in-law is at fault, if you ever start a war with her, it’s your fault. This is not to be an ostrich, although you are a new generation of women, can defy all the stereotypes, but please do not forget that this is in China, this society still can not tolerate disobedient people, although quarrels with the mother-in-law is not necessarily considered disobedient, but in the eyes of the onlookers, as a late daughter-in-law spiteful and mother-in-law, is disobedient! They will think you are not educated! The person you’re talking about is not just you, but your parents. Do you want to hear your parents being talked about because of you?
(2) Don’t talk bad about your mother-in-law in front of your husband
We don’t like it when our mothers-in-law badmouth us in front of our husbands, and likewise, as mothers-in-law, we wouldn’t like it when our daughters-in-law chew in our sons’ ears. Especially nowadays, many men are very foolish and filial, even if he knows it’s his mother-in-law’s fault, he’ll say you just put up with it! (Unfortunately, it seems that many daughters-in-law, including myself, are now encountering such a gnashing of teeth husband! In this case, your badmouthing your mother-in-law will not serve your purpose, and it is more likely that your husband will be disgusted with you. After all, the heart to heart, if you love your parents, your husband also in front of you to say bad things about them, you can guarantee that you will not jump up eight feet high? But this is not to say that we have to put up with the mother-in-law’s domineering, then we need to use their own wisdom, you can create an opportunity for your husband to see with his own eyes how your mother-in-law is bullying you, if possible, may be when the husband shed tears of aggression, the rest, well, leave it to the husband to do a good job. If your husband is still so insensitive, then don’t be polite and double the anger your mother-in-law gives you on him! The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
(3) Don’t talk badly about your mother-in-law in front of outsiders
Some people may scold me, is there any mistake? The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the public. Yes, this seems to be difficult to do, look at the forum sisters of the blood and tears of complaints, you know the world do daughter-in-law how many tears of sorrow ah! And usually when their friends get together, the most talked about seems to be the evil mother-in-law at home! Chinese daughters-in-law suffer! But here refers to outsiders are specific, that is, people who know both themselves and their mother-in-law, in the forum to whine, but if in front of these people bad-mouthing your mother-in-law, you are not afraid that one day your words will be added to the vinegar to her ears? The family shame should not be publicized, but it is more important not to be treated like Mrs. Xianglin, who despises you. Even if you know that your mother-in-law is bad-mouthing you in front of outsiders, don’t return the favor with a tooth and an eye for an eye, if you do so what is the difference between you and your mother-in-law who has a long tongue? A smart daughter-in-law will do this: If my mother-in-law says bad things about me in front of people, I’ll say good things about my mother-in-law in front of people in a high profile way! Don’t worry that this will confirm your mother-in-law’s accusation, please be sure to believe in the saying “justice is in the hearts of the people”, your mother-in-law has been mean to you, but you are repaying your grievances with virtue, which is right and which is wrong, it is clear? The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are doing.
(4) If you live with your mother-in-law, don’t run back to your mother’s house because you’re angry
(4) If you live with your mother-in-law, don’t run back to your mother’s house because you’re angry
When I wrote this article, I was actually envious of my sisters who had a mother’s family to go back to, because my mother’s family was out of town, so I basically had no mother’s family to go back to, but that saved my parents from worrying. Although sometimes aggrieved to run back to the mother’s house, the husband low voice to pick you up home feeling is quite relieved, perhaps your parents will not scold him, perhaps the most will condemn him with a look, but you have thought about the feelings of the husband did not? If the number of such a number of times, each man will be annoyed, decided to stop spoiling you later this problem, this trick will not work. Especially if you live with your mother-in-law, don’t use this trick at every turn, if your mother-in-law throws you a sentence: out of this door and don’t come back! Or your husband wants to show his authority in front of his mother-in-law to say this to you, are you ready to walk out of the house without a second thought, or are you ready to meekly put down your bags and go back to your room and cry? Even if you can walk out the door and eventually return, but you are not afraid that the first thing your mother-in-law will say to your husband is “divorce her”?
(5) Respect your mother-in-law as much as you love your mother, but not in return
Many times, we as daughters-in-law always think that as good as we are to our mothers-in-law, they have to be as good or even better to us. In fact, I think respect for the mother-in-law is more from the heart to the mother-in-law’s respect, after all, the mother-in-law is the eldest, is her hard work raised your husband, on this point, should respect mother-in-law, love mother-in-law, just like love their own mother. But you can’t ask for your mother-in-law like you ask for your mother-in-law, and you can’t ask for your mother-in-law’s return, because she gave you the most cared for son in her life to take care of you is to give you the greatest return. If you think this way, then many mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationships can be good. Especially modern young women, who are highly educated, should understand this truth deeply. Only love and respect from the heart, without any stigma, can be exchanged for a good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship.