Playful enough to stay out at night
When my husband and I got married, both of us were almost 30, and each of us had basically formed our habits. His greatest characteristic is good friends, three days a small gathering, five days a large gathering. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re getting into. I could not stand it and he had a big fight, the more he fought the more he did not love to come back, simply in his buddies that sleep. The more I argue, the less I like to come back.
Tricks:
Blame is better than touch: when he comes back late. Don’t argue with him, prepare his toiletries, make some snacks, and leave a note for him to eat something, wash up and go back to sleep so he won’t be unrefreshed for work the next day.
Treat him the way he wants to be treated: don’t rush home from work every day, men are not as patient as women, let him have a taste of waiting too.
Say what you feel: Tell him how you feel, not blaming and crying, and let him know what you really think.
Never loved housework
In the bathroom, the shampoo The bottle of shampoo is tilted upside down, the bottle and the cap are in different places; the soap box is full of water, the soap is lying squarely on the glass countertop; the towels are messy on the side of the shelf, dripping with water; the bath towels are in a ball, curled up with their hands and feet on the washing machine; the dirty socks stuffed in the shoes; the jacket hanging with the pajamas …… just 10 minutes ago. Ten minutes ago, I had everything tidy up! At home, I’m busy doing chores while he sits graciously drinking tea and watching TV.
My husband is four years older than me, which gives me plenty of reason to think that big men should give way to small women, that men should stand up for themselves.
And I’ve always believed that once a man is married, he should take on the burden of the family and act like a big man. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. But unfortunately, I thought I was married to a “big” man, and after waking up from my dream, I was utterly disappointed.
Tips:
Sitting on the sidelines as appropriate: To hold a man accountable for his actions, put him on the sidelines. The first thing you need to do is to put his clothes, socks, supplies and so on in a separate place, and leave him alone once the cabinet door is closed and what kind of mess it is inside. If you can hold on, you can win.
Set a work cycle: Tell your husband that you have a very important matter to deal with these days (e.g., writing a paper for a promotion, a proposal, etc.) and that if you don’t do it right, you might get “fired. If you do not do a good job, you may be “fired”. So, the housework will be taken up by him more. After this time has passed, he can be properly allowed to relax. Then, find an excuse for the next cycle in which the chores are still his primary focus.
Men would prefer to be the type of person who grows up in their bones – who doesn’t have to carry the burden of the household, who doesn’t have to change his innate inertia, who is always free to do as he pleases. ……
Overindulging in the internet and gaming
Pushing open the door of my house, I began to sigh as I saw him sitting in front of the computer again. I calculated that on weekends, I wake up at 10:00 am and start browsing the Internet for news; then I go to BBS, play games, and play online; after lunch, I continue to repeat the morning “work” until dinner. In the evening, the computer then and the computer to leave, 11:00 at night in the United wandering; 1:00 in the middle of the night, but also in the network military chess kill; probably to about 3:00 in the morning, before closing to sleep …… and so on, in front of the computer time is a total of 13.5 hours / day, every weekend is almost all spent in this way.
On a normal night, he always hogs the computer too, and if he had to choose between me and the computer, I’d be the one to lose.
Tips:
Proactively design outdoor activities: with friends, but also with family. You can organize more outdoor activities with your family to enrich his life, and he may not just be obsessed with the Internet.
There should never be two computers in the house: in case he has no worries about hogging them.
Spending money like water
Husband loves to save face, every time his friends are in The first time I saw him, he was obsessed with the lottery, football, basketball, sports, lottery, none of which he left behind, and the money he spent on the lottery each month was dizzying. I discussed with him: “Let’s save some money every month in the future. “The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
Tips:
Download an electronic home financial management software It will make it easy for you to see where your money is going.
Sit down once a month and talk about spending adjustments, for example, you can discuss cutting back on extra spending or making plans to save money on big-ticket items.
A AA with him: Draw a line in the sand with him financially and let him know how much money is at stake.
Playful to the point of staying out at night
When my husband and I got married, both of us Both are almost 30, each has basically formed the habits of life. The most important feature is that he is good at making friends, three days a small gathering, five days a large gathering. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re getting into. I could not stand it and he had a big fight, the more he fought the more he did not love to come back, simply in his buddies that sleep. The more I argue, the less I like to come back.
Tricks:
Blame is better than touch: when he comes back late. Don’t argue with him, prepare his toiletries, make some snacks, and leave a note for him to eat something, wash up and go back to sleep so he won’t be unrefreshed for work the next day.
Treat him the way he wants to be treated: don’t rush home from work every day, men are not as patient as women, let him have a taste of waiting too.
Say what you feel: Tell him how you feel directly, instead of blaming and crying, and let him know what you really think.