Two people who have been in a relationship for a long time seem to have less and less passion. At this moment it is necessary to spice up the feelings of two people. The best way to get the most out of a relationship is to be jealous. The principle of jealousy is very simple. When a toy that we didn’t want to play with as a child and put in a corner to make dust was taken by another child, we would be very unhappy to take it back. It’s still the same when you grow up. If one day you suddenly find that the person youhave been with for so long that it’s tasteless and discarded, suddenly someone pursues him and adores him, suddenly someone says to you, “Hey! Your boyfriend is great!” In your mind, your boyfriend suddenly becomes very nice!
There are books that teach people how to fix men, when the best way to fix men is to fix yourself.
I. Live your life to the fullest
Men are most afraid of living The more a woman who has lived a more exciting life than he has, the more crisis-aware she is, the more she surprises, anticipates and challenges him, and the more he appreciates that woman.
On the contrary, if you think that if you fall in love, you should squat at home like a yellow woman, call him every day for three meals, desperately call him home late at night, do not take care of yourself, the focus of your life is only him, then you are no different from the doll that was put in the corner to generate dust when you were a child. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
So try to expand your circle of life, your circle of friends, learn new things, enrich yourself, keep yourself motivated and charming, be kind to yourself, eat when you have food, drink when you have wine, and meet when you have beautiful men.
I often wonder why many girls who have boyfriends feel like they’ve been put in jail, cutting back on friendships, becoming social ghosts, and meekly going home to wrap their little feet on their own whenever their boyfriends say they can’t go anywhere. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
One friend’s boyfriend told her, “You can’t go out with the queen, she knows so many people, I’m afraid it’s going to be messy.” Turns out it was her boyfriend who proved messy, not letting his girlfriend go out and giving her access to the door, then cheating on himself with several women.
The other one was even better, telling his girlfriend, “You can’t go out drinking, bars are messy, you know?” As a result, she was home and I met her boyfriend in front of the bar.
I’ve always believed that it’s the people, never the place, that’s messy. To put it bluntly it’s just that these men don’t have the confidence.
You can play healthy in very messy places, and you don’t need to be in any very messy places at all to do anything bad, you can be at home.
II. Give him face outside
A man loves to save face. He’s jealous of you, but never says jealous. To you live a wonderful life, not to hook up every day to engage in ambiguous deliberately make each other jealous, this boring game to play more than three times will become a nymphomaniac. I admit that a little jealousy is good for your health, but only for a short period of time.
If you’re afraid of being the one who is “more in love” and out of balance in your relationship, try to live a great life, be busy, distract yourself, go out with friends as much as you can. If you’re not waiting for him to ask you out all day, you won’t be the one who ends up “out of balance”.
Or else, you’ll do the same thing he does if he’s always inconsiderate. He is always inexplicably late, and you try to develop your own nightlife, even if it’s just visiting a bookstore and watching a movie. He always has a lot of female friends, you can also make a lot of male friends. He always has no choice but to go to a hotel, and you have no choice but to go to a nightclub.
If you’re not used to it, go wash your hair and do your face and shop for clothes, pour a beer at the convenience store downstairs, and pretend in front of him that you just went to a club and there’s a penis to talk to you.
Everyone can change the trick, as long as the goal is achieved, men just owe it to people to scare him, both to do a good deed every day and to improve the relationship (when he appears to be in crisis, you become the most legitimate girlfriend), hey, why not?
Three, the more men control, the farther they run
I never believed in strict wife-control It works. Wife control is all about men running farther away in the end. Many men say, “I hate it when women control him.” The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
I once knew a leading “life-threatening caller” who left a record of forty-five missed calls on her boyfriend’s phone in five minutes, and it was the talk of the town. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The result is otherwise, my boyfriend can still have an affair with three women at the same time under the daily life-threatening Call chase, so it reinforces my determination to save money on my cell phone bill.
The man said, “At first it’s really sweet that women call a lot, then it’s just a sweet load, and in the end it’s just a load.”
You can do a little experiment. If you call your boyfriend at a set time every day and then “intentionally” forget to call several times, it won’t take long for the man to call himself and say. “Why didn’t you call?” The tone of voice is as if we were just together when the cautious fear of disappointment, listened to can not help but at the other end of the phone to cover their mouths and laugh.
I used to think that women who were good at cursing men were good, but then I realized that in the end, it all turned out to be an inertial earworm.
Four, men respect women who know how to respect him
Maybe more I have seen too many men who are with other women just after speaking to their girlfriends to report the call. It is very strange that the more the girlfriend loves to control, the more the boyfriend wants to cheat. Bad men say, “That’s the challenge.”
So give him a challenge, too!
V. Please focus on appearance
Unless you poke a man blind They’ve been visual creatures all their lives. Never believe them when they say, “I think you’re so cute fat, no need to lose weight, this is just right.” How can it be so coincidental that the ones he looks at twice on the road just happen not to be fat girls?
And don’t believe them when they say, “Don’t dress up too much, don’t wear short skirts, you’re the most beautiful in my heart.” And how is it so coincidental that the ones he looks at twice on the road happen not to be Obasanas who come out to take out the trash without makeup?
So, please focus on your appearance. Even if you have a good head, a high level of knowledge, a great temperament, and a great conversation, no one can tell that you have the above advantages when you are wearing no makeup, glasses, shark clips, and Obasan pajamas and flip-flops.
I have always despised men in my life who don’t let women dress up, they always say, “I don’t like it when you dress like this for people to see. ” Some women still foolishly think how much men love and value her, but in fact men simply treat you as his property.
A confident man actually wants his girlfriend to dress beautifully, and he’s not afraid that people will notice you or that you’ll threaten him if you’re looked at more. Why shouldn’t you make yourself pretty?
If he loves you, he should want you to think you’re pretty too.
Don’t be afraid of men being jealous of you. The prettier you are, the more he’ll feel like the male dog who pissed on you to assert his sovereignty, “Hey! This beauty is my woman, you stay away from her!”
Isn’t that jealousy, you say?
If love is only a habit, the best spice is to let him experience the joy of jealousy. How to fix men? Get yourself right first!