When you are single, you always try to find the right person, and when you have him/her, you let people lose themselves in love. What went wrong and where did we go wrong?
When you meet love, you faint and mess up
“Love is romantic, no one falls in love rationally.” Is that so? The world’s most important thing is to be able to see the world as it is. The first time a woman enters society, she reads too many Japanese and Korean dramas and love novels as a teenager and has no chance to act them out in reality, so she accumulates too much longing for love.
Because of too much longing, there is a possibility of receiving signals by mistake.
If you’re not sure what the difference is between friendship and romance, you’ll be confused.
The remedy: take a deep breath, talk, dance
Socially new people, naturally, don’t yet understand the rules of the game for adults and their way of socializing. It’s simple, let yourself go easy, slow down a bit, and respond with honesty and generosity. Everything starts with friendship, for one thing, it is easy to relax and get to know each other. Two, you don’t allow yourself to be unnecessarily distracted from your performance.
Two of you are not Siamese
“Every day, you are aimlessly put together, and you feel so funny even if you don’t mean it, you are walking, sitting, lying down, and lying on your back. Huang Shujun’s “Love Syndrome” sings this way. It is true that when we love each other, we hope that the first thing we see every day is him. Like Siamese children, the only way to do so is to live together. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
The right remedy: it’s better to live together than to forget about each other
Living together is a big deal. If love is so deep that you don’t see each other for a day, then you should live together. The newest addition to the list is the newest addition to the list. This is the best way to give love a way out, which is to have a third space: your own social circle, career, and friends.
Three convinced that you meet the best
The Japanese writer Junichiro Watanabe, analyzing the sexual instincts of men and women, used an interesting analogy: men have hunting instincts, gaining confidence by conquering women in numbers; women have settling instincts, feeling the need to organize a family with the person they love when they meet him. Young women are prone to treat the man they love as the last man they will ever love, and if they fall out of love, they are often unable to extricate themselves, self-harm, or even self-sacrifice.
The self-destruction of the girl in “Half Seawater, Half Fire” after her love injury, the tragedy of “Norwegian Forest” when Midori could not get over the death of her first lover, the gloomy Qin Hailu in the Li Houlin incident, the public tears of Zhou Yanhong ……
The right medicine: love, life
In fact, love cannot escape from the great law of nature that there is life and death. The fact that the relationship is dead does not mean that your life is over. There is no need to blame yourself for loving the wrong person, who has never made a mistake. We have to be bad girls in love, be frivolous, and occasionally flirt with other dudes. Create a little tension and moderate jealousy, beneficial love. Men are definitely aesthetic animals, keep your charm, your mystery, your femininity, he naturally can not leave you. Never be submissive to him, never treat him as your only one. The fact that you are too devoted to your gaze will only scare him away.
Four Don’t be his mother
“To catch a man’s heart, you must first catch his stomach.” A woman in love naturally takes over the baton of taking care of him from her mother, starting with washing a pair of socks for him and progressing from laundry, washing sheets, cleaning the room, taking out the trash, cooking dinner, and finally upgrading to a full-time nanny. It really takes a lot of sacrifice to infiltrate your lover’s life this way. He can’t leave your care and be with you, but he’ll flirt with women who don’t love housework and can dress up, and he’ll appreciate talented women who aren’t adept at cleaning the house but talk elegantly.
The right remedy: life is wonderful when two people work together
Men and women work together, and everyone on earth knows that. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. He does not appreciate, you will be more heartbroken. It is better for two people to share the work than for two people to work together. The meal does not have to be cooked all the time, a smart good housekeeper must only be able to cook a few good dishes, and to do, depending on the mood. Men want women – the living room is a noblewoman, the kitchen is a housewife, the bedroom is a slut …… one person in multiple roles, point to the best, do not have to be so involved in each. The key is to pick and choose what you like to do.
Five focus on him and forget about yourself
When you first fall in love, the easiest thing to forget is yourself. The first time I saw him, I was in the middle of a conversation with him. The love song always praises people who love to forget themselves. Forgetfulness is a rare experience and a lazy act. Falling in love is a game that takes two people to make, both of whom have to be creative. What are your own ideas? Nothing, I am happy as long as he is happy! Such a love is bound to be easy to love each other and too difficult to get along.
The right remedy: Honey, please be yourself
Because without yourself, you are lost. Become the you he wants, but your charm is draining from his heart a little. He likes your occasional wild caprice, and you turn yourself into an obedient lady. He liked the way you handled your work with confidence, but now you are changing your work schedule for him. When you go home, you keep him company, listen to the music he recommends and watch the discs he chooses. Gradually, as if brainwashed, your tastes become the same as his. When he says we feel like brother and sister, that’s a sign of an irrevocable breakup! Give yourself a space and give him full freedom. You keep it different for you, and he definitely has an interest in digging you up.
Six don’t rush to meet his parents
Fall in love with him and hold on to him, how? By the way, meet both parents to confirm the relationship. Fresh in love, like naive children, there is an instinct not to let go of what is beloved, and will go out on a limb to find insurance. Meeting the parents is, in a sense, the intention of marriage within both parties. If he’s young, he’s not ready, his career is just getting started, and he doesn’t want to stabilize the relationship too early; your rush to get him to meet your parents, or your rush to meet his parents, will only make the relationship say goodbye early.
The right remedy: love is neither fresh nor insured
A love “marriage” is the same as a love “faint”. The newcomers to love are prone to the common disease of “being together because they don’t understand, and breaking up because they do”.
Rather than meeting your parents, you should travel together, discover each other, and get used to each other. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are getting into. He is not your MR.RIGHT, you still need to test him slowly. The first thing you need to do is to get the man by the elders, it is not impossible, but what you expect may not be what you want.
Seven sex should be watered down
Love-fresh people facing sex can go to extremes, either they can’t wait to try it or they must establish a relationship before they do it. Men will hold on to women they care about for a while, and they like to have a challenging pursuit game. If you take the initiative and give it away, to put it mildly, you are lowering your status in his mind. The two have been dating many times, and each time the feeling is so sweet that you both believe you are the only love for each other. But you just won’t take the extra step to try, and over time, you find he will be skeptical of you. When exactly is the best time to have sex?
The right medicine: sex doesn’t mean he’s responsible for you
God made Adam responsible for taking care of Eve because Eve was one of Adam’s ribs, Adam’s private property, and Adam’s responsibility to bear. Do you believe such classical arguments? You are obviously born of parents, highly educated, working in foreign companies company quality white-collar. You fall in love with a man, he must be responsible for you. Such words are essentially discriminatory against women. The first thing to correct is that sex is not a thing that men take advantage of, much less a thing that women are at a disadvantage. Are all women masochists? So fond of that masochistic thing. Sex is the sublimation of love, and when you feel your body is ready to accept him, then do it.
Eight asks him if you’re important, or if your buddy is important
Love that he’s there for you every day, trying to create a world of two with your tenderness and affection. You have only him in your eyes, and you are not lightly ill with love. You also ask him to have only you in his eyes as well. Do not like his buddies, always want to take him to the bar, to that kind of place, either to get the girl, or pick up girls, can not see what else to do; party, a bottle of beer after a bottle, cigarette after cigarette, the room is sloppy like a doghouse; during the World Cup, he simply eat and sleep with his brothers, leaving you out in the empty room …… “No, between the boyfriend and me, you must decide.” You issued an ultimatum, and he still did what he did. Finally, you had to say goodbye.
The right remedy: when they party, you get your sister-in-law
Men who value friendship are, in general, more trustworthy and just as committed to the woman they love. Do not interfere too much with men, do not like their parties, you can not participate, but there is no need to cross accusations or nonsense. Men are all about saving face and love freedom more than anything else. In front of his brothers: First, you can not sing a tune with him (how much men love to praise themselves, as long as it is not excessive, you can laugh in your heart, no need to show it.) Second, you can not accuse him, do not bring the two to the outsiders; third, you can not ask him to leave, when he and his buddies are seeing each other happy. If you really don’t like men who value friendship, then change the type of man.
Nine dare not tell him the hidden truth
While there are fewer and fewer men with virginity, there are still many men with love cleanliness. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the public. When you say “you are nothing like so-and-so (your ex-boyfriend), he never yelled at me.” When, his eyes will certainly burn with the fire of fury. Love fresh people like to make comparisons, and what men hate most is women’s comparisons. Instead of vaguely talking about the past, let him know more about you now.
The right remedy: Speak up, memories
Who doesn’t have a past? Even women who are emotionally a blank sheet of paper had a crush on someone when they were students. Having had a relationship, a sexual experience, or even a bad sexual assault, does one deserve to be disqualified from falling in love? Love is acceptance in its entirety, love is tolerance, love includes loving the other person’s flaws, not changing them. The girl with the gray memories, to commit to a new relationship, easy to not confident. If you are not confident, you cannot renew yourself. Love is for both parties to bloom like a flower and burn with brilliant passion. If you love deeply, you should have an account of both sides of the past. However, when you confess, he will not be when the fallen boyfriend. If he runs away, then congratulations on weeding out an unqualified boyfriend.
Ten likes artistic, unique, alternative guys
They have long hair, multiple tattoos, leather jackets and tattered jeans year-round; rave about motorcycles without a license, and keep to themselves, ignore mortals, and are grumpy. They can draw pictures you can’t understand, spend an entire afternoon playing guitar, singing loudly, and occasionally selling songs in subway tunnels. They’re fun, but they don’t know what compassion is, and with them, you can only live a chaotic and wretched life. Girls also like those rich boys, taking their generosity, their insight as personality. Often this type of personality boys are prone to “end up in a mess”. There is another category, amazing words, often the whole point of the mysterious philosophy, blindfolded you. The more they can attract girls, the more confident they will be.
The right remedy: some men are ironically unavailable
Unless you just have to have it with him once, unless your nerves are super strong, unless you are as good a love collector as he is, then you’ll have to go through the motions with the above men. To have a normal, healthy life, we still need a responsible, financially strong man who knows how to appreciate you. The last point is the most important, women are for love, not for abandonment!
Love is like a battlefield. Victory and defeat are commonplace, and this is the mindset that should be held when new to love. But we don’t want to be the injured forever, we should get up from where we fell.