A young woman said that she and her husband had been married for more than five years and were living a relatively harmonious married life. Because they live in a relatively isolated mountain town, their knowledge of sex is very limited, so there is no way to know whether other people’s married life is as desirable, pleasurable and satisfying as theirs. However, recently she was reading a book on sex when she learned that couples making love had the wonderful feeling of being immortalized, a feeling she had never experienced before. Since then, every time she makes love with her husband, she hopes to fully appreciate the taste of the orgasm described in the book, but unfortunately, despite all her efforts, the orgasm she was hoping for never came. In the end, even the pleasant pleasure she used to feel was gone, which was very distressing and confusing. She wanted to know how high the orgasm was. What was going on?
This is indeed a question that many couples are confused about and for which there is no standard answer, so we have to start at the beginning.
“Brief death”
The classic book on the physiological mechanisms of orgasm describes it as the briefest stage of the sexual response, lasting only a few seconds. It is the release of the energy of sexual desire through involuntary muscle spasms, resulting in waves of pleasure. The most erogenous organ in women is the clitoral head, followed by the clitoral body, labia minora, and the outer 1/3 of the vagina.
In her sexology report, the famous sexologist Hayter described the female orgasm sensation as follows: “My body feels suspended and floating, full of power, a rushing spurt of fire that strongly engulfs everything, wonderful to the point of extreme ecstasy that is almost beyond human capacity.” “I felt extremely excited – my breath caught – while my head became light and airy, as if I were in a dream world, with distant sounds and time like standing still.” ……
Nice, a woman’s orgasm begins with a sensation called “suspension,” where she seems to be hanging in mid-air for a moment, usually one to three seconds. This “suspension” is equivalent to the “inevitability” experienced by men before orgasm (when men can’t stop ejaculating). As the clitoris is constantly and rhythmically stimulated, the extremely sensitive nerves send impulses to the spinal cord, where they are immediately rerouted back to the orgasmic muscles in the pelvic region. The “suspension sensation” thus radiates away from the clitoris and into the pelvis. When this happens, the woman gradually forgets everything around her and doesn’t even know where she is – like a light fading out on low power. Her nervous system uses most of its impulses to initiate a massive burst of muscle contractions, which squeeze the stagnant blood out of the dilated blood vessels around the outer walls of the vagina.
This loss of a woman’s perception gives her a sense of loss of control. It is because of this sensation that a woman’s orgasm has a more desperate name – a “brief death”. For some women, especially those who are experiencing their first orgasm, this loss of awareness can be frightening. At this point, if they fear being looked down upon by the man for losing control, this perfectly normal orgasmic response can be psychologically stunted, preventing the orgasm from reaching its maximum intensity.
At this stage of orgasm, no two women react exactly the same, even though their bodies experience similar physiological changes. Some women are calm; others either moan or scream; some arch their backs or bite something nearby, such as an arm or pillow. When sensation begins to return – in a matter of seconds – almost all women feel warmth, first in the pelvis and then throughout the body.
Is it abnormal to have multiple “bursts” of orgasm
A young woman in her first marriage frowned that her husband was a very gentle and understanding man who was very successful at sex every time. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. This is because every time her husband “finished his duty”, then with infinite comfort and pleasure in her side to breathe, while she wants him to continue to stay inside her, bending over her, she feels that she still has a rushing torrent in her body roaring, hoping that her husband can continue to do once. The first thing that happened was that she wondered if she was hypersexual and felt that she had become an unashamedly lustful woman.
After a woman’s last contraction during sex, her body rapidly loses sexual tension, a phase Masters and Johnson call “fading. If they don’t fade immediately, but return to plateau and are repeatedly stimulated from plateau to orgasm, this phenomenon is called “multiple orgasm,” and every woman has the potential to do this.
Multiple orgasms during sex are not a sign of sexual deviance, nor are they indicative of “hypersexuality,” “bestiality,” or “unfemininity. The survey found that some women admitted to having multiple orgasms. The survey found that some women admitted to having a psychological burden of guilt, fearing that having such feelings would tarnish the purity and sanctity of their marriage. The issue of experiencing orgasm is a question of the couple’s sexuality, sexual maturity, preferences and choices, and the art of making love.
The reason women have the ability to have multiple orgasms is that their pelvis is full of intricate blood vessels, and the contractions of a single orgasm rarely drain all the stagnant blood. The woman is still sexually motivated after her first orgasm, so to speak, and can continue to contract, without much stimulation, so that she can bring the tension back up to the point of orgasm again and again. In fact, the intensity of any orgasm she experiences depends on the amount of blood filling the veins in her pelvis. Sometimes the filling is low and the orgasm is therefore low; sometimes the filling is high and the orgasm reaches its peak. It is at these times that a woman is very likely to experience multiple orgasms. Sometimes, due to anatomical differences, such as the underdeveloped network of veins in some women, these women have difficulty reaching orgasm. This problem seems to disappear after they give birth to their first child. Indeed, for many women who experienced orgasms before pregnancy, orgasms come more easily after childbirth, sometimes with multiple orgasms the first time they have sex. This is known as the “pregnancy effect”. This may be related to the increased energy and number of pelvic veins during pregnancy.
If the venous congestion that builds up during sexual arousal and plateaus is not released by orgasm, women can experience irritability, feelings of failure to have sex, and even severe back pain. For example, many women have back pain during their menstrual period when they are unable to have sex because of rising sexual desire. Often women with multiple orgasms need 3 to 5 orgasms to fully relax their entire body.
People are so varied that it is sometimes impossible to measure one situation by a fixed standard. How high is the orgasm? The actual answer is not necessary, as long as you can be fully engaged in gender life, so that both husband and wife feel pleasure, to achieve this, it is enough, and why go after any feathery feeling? The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re doing.