In the psychologist Freud’s doctrine, it is believed that men are born with some degree of Oedipal complex. It seems that in their subconscious, the wife is to replace the mother as a life partner, but the wife is different from the mother, girls should be alert to the spread of this complex in their husbands. Oedipal men have not finished weaning spiritually. Here are four tips to teach you to quickly unlearn your husband’s Oedipus complex.
I. Make your husband understand that he has an Oedipal complex
Many people suffer from severe cleanliness, causing serious problems for everyone around them, and being completely unaware of it themselves. As a wife, you have the obligation and the right to let your husband know that he has some degree of Oedipus complex. But the way to inform requires a flexible and more roundabout approach, preferably with the help of a third party, or by adding your husband as a friend yourself using an unfamiliar chat number to convey your thoughts to him.
2. Be willing to point out your husband’s weaknesses and help him regain his confidence
Dare to point out your husband’s shortcomings and help him recover his psychological grayness, while properly handling the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The Oedipal man will never allow his wife to say half a word about his mother is not, that will make him feel a sense of guilt. It is fatal for a man to live for a long time in the envelope of his mother’s love and not have a little bit of his own opinion about the big winds and waves in society.
Three, develop his ability to be on his own at work
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Work is one of the most important parts of our lives and is a basic prerequisite for independent survival. The man will inevitably encounter difficulties at work, and at this time the man will even complain, because they want all the people should be like parents to hold him, care for him, as a wife, must give him some basic truths about life, to train him to have the ability to stand alone when things go wrong, taste the success after the setback, he will slowly find himself.
Fourth, take the initiative to cultivate the relationship between husband and wife with him
In marriage Talking about equality between husband and wife, even to a large extent to men to be in a proactive position, but Oedipal men they do not know how to deal with the relationship between husband and wife normally, because of cowardice, so choose extreme ways to cool the marriage. As a wife, to take the initiative to cultivate feelings with him, let him understand early: emotions should be built on a platform of mutual respect.