Family urging marriage, friends around the pair, single for a long time lonely …… under the stimulation and pressure of various pressures, the remaining women are likely to flash the marriage thing. But marriage, after all, is related to lifelong happiness, must be completed in quality. Understand the following 8 things, from true love is not far away.
One, know your own needs
No matter what we do We all need to know where our needs are, and identifying them is the key to finding the right coordinates and knowing where we are, which is the key to doing things successfully. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Before looking for a partner, you can not know his height, fat and thin, but must know whether his smile is warm; you can also not understand his professional hobbies, but must understand the direction of his life values; you can even not care about his wealth status But you must anticipate his ability and know the bottom line that you can accept. Of course, not that you have to be precise, but at least you should have thought about it, pursued it, and chosen to struggle with it. Maybe you don’t have to know exactly what you really need, but you must know what or what kind, is completely, absolutely, simply impossible for you to accept. In fact, it’s the same kind of knowledge about your own emotional needs in marriage.
Two, learn the necessary changes
A significant portion of leftover women The reason why they will be left is not really let others left, but left by themselves. They are called persistent, infatuation, to the bad is stubborn, deliberate feelings, do not know to seek change, always hope that others completely in line with their own wishes, but do not know or can not accept the changes required of them. In this way, even small problems have become big problems. It’s really rare that one person changes and the other doesn’t, and if they do, it’s only love, but never marriage.
Maybe you think that you should prefer relationships to relationships, but “preferring relationships to relationships” isn’t about being hardcore, it’s about learning to understand your own needs and knowing what’s right for you. The actual fact is that you will know what you are looking for, so that you can do targeted waiting with your needs. There is a realm called for love and change, which is a kind of rather lack than insist on the victory, is a kind of love in the heart of the water to the willingness. The actual life of many leftover women do not understand this truth.
Third, treat your feelings without being condescending
Feelings are not a commodity It is a commodity that must be sold cheaply when it is cheap. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the market. See if the TA is calm and relaxed, not arrogant, not humble …… leftover women are the same, leftover women’s emotions in their own hearts, never that your age can just find someone to marry, and never that because you look pretty with status, you can arrogantly ignore where many people are. Both of these situations can only lead to the same result, which is leftover women continue to be left.
The fact that men must beg women with a hot face on their cold asses, and the fact that women must find a man to marry and get married at a discount for how old they are, are both harmful residuals of marriage. The truth should be: leftover women when self-improvement, leftover women when awakening, leftover women to not be humble, not only to have the courage to prepare to fight single, but also need to be humble to adapt to the environment of calm, married or not married is just a change in the state of life, and not a change in the value of life.
Fourth, forget about the past and be kind to the present
Talk about the leftover women’s Another state of affairs. In reality, how many women are left because they have been drowning in the past and cannot extricate themselves? Women are “lovey-dovey” animals, “lovey-dovey” often make them for the old love, so they are addicted to the past memories and illusions. This is a very negative and dangerous sign in life. If you can’t forget the past, you can’t treat the present well, and you can’t grasp the future.
Of course, it’s not about forgetting the past, it’s about putting the past behind you and living happily every day, and being able to show your youthful, beautiful, confident and happy side to the people around you. The only way you can make yourself a good infectious and opposite sex in the present and future love marriage.
Five, don’t believe in love, look at character
This There must be love in the world, it’s just too rare, and it’s because it’s rare that it proves the preciousness of love …… Love is something that can’t stand the test of two things too well, one is time and the other is purity. So, you can believe in love, but please must not count on love, love this kind of thing is never reliable, if there is something else on the man can let women rely on, it is only the man’s character.
A man’s character determines his loyalty, determines the attributes of his money status in front of you, determines the base of your marital happiness, it is like the 1 at the top of your happiness index, everything else is just 0.
Sixth, don’t blindly seek romance, focus on reality
Don’t blindly seek romance, not saying that you should give up on romance. The actual fact is that you will be able to get a lot more than just a few of these. Romance is just a flower growing in the soil of reality, it needs fertile soil and warm sunlight, and the flowering period is not too long. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
And of course, it’s never true that “it’s better to send your wife roses than to send her leeks”, roses are always a woman’s favorite, as long as you don’t expect men to send them every day “The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Seventh, don’t flash your marriage, and don’t run away
Leftover women face When it comes to marriage, it is always easy to go to two extremes. Either simply flash marriage, a gas, a foot stomp on the overnight to marry themselves; either, left and right, looking ahead and back, fearful, a relationship to talk about a five or six years. The former, needless to say, throughout the reality of marriage, the phenomenon of flash marriages and flash divorces abound, flash marriages do not flash divorces from then on tangled with more than very much, but flash marriages can really flash out of happiness is very little. The latter, love long run, the starting point is good, but also the performance of responsible marriage, but also to improve the stability of future marriage. But there are two things that women must understand:
First, men are sprint speed runners. In this long run, perhaps the woman is enjoying, while the man may be torture. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Secondly, the total amount of love in a person’s life is actually rationed, and the long run of love will make you drink it all up before marriage, and when you get married or after, it will be easy to starve and cry for help.
Eight, the nature of marriage is still a contract
How much does marriage really weigh? The answer to this is actually very simple, pick it up and it weighs a thousand pounds, put it down and it’s just a piece of paper, this piece of paper is a marriage certificate, its essence is just a contract, it’s a contract then it can be established or destroyed. This is not to say that the light, but I hope that we (especially those who want to successfully enter the marriage of marriageable women) understand that we do not need to take marriage too seriously, marriage for women, is not as in the past, three from the four virtues, married chicken follow the chicken, divorce is not only men can propose the “repudiation” patent.
In the matter of marriage, as long as women are self-sufficient and self-supporting, there is no question of who is higher or lower. Even if you can’t get through, it’s not possible, women can also choose to divorce, you can tear up the paper contract, you can find your own happiness again, there is really no need to make yourself carry an excessive burden. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on a lot of things.