But look at those who are hurt in their relationships and can’t help themselves, being tricked by one man after another love loser, most of them belong to such a group: small women. They live in their own world of love, pay too much to men, but always unable to get the appropriate return, or men do not love her, or men dumped her, or men are not warm to her. The reason for their repeated failures boils down to one thing: they never use men’s thinking to consider a romantic relationship.
1. Women think: love equals all of life.
Men’s thinking: love is only 30% of the equation, the remaining 70% needs to be allocated to family, career and interests.
Most women have been longing for love since they understood it. They long for the shape and character of their lovers, for every possible storyline, so when love does come, they are always thrilled and fall into a mind-boggling equation like the first fulfilling ideal of their lives: lovers love = life.
The bricklayer: 18 year olds who give everything to love and can use “youthful indiscretion” as a cover, and 25 year olds whose lives are still shaped by love, oh! Please forgive me if I can only understand that the left brain is not fully developed. The reality of life is muddy, not only sweet chocolate, beautiful roses, but also appalling housing prices, all the way up the sauce and vinegar tea; elderly parents and their soaring high blood pressure year after year. To live for love to die for love to be together every day? What useful social value can be created by being together all day long, girl? The main character of the idol drama, in addition to the standard equipment of the famous building and luxury car, must have a strong smell of lewdness when he says “I love you” to the female character every day.
2. Women think: “Breakup” is just my threat.
Man’s thinking: saying “break up” means it’s really over.
90% of girls like to use the word “breakup” to measure a man’s true feelings for them. When a man is late for a date, when a man forgets his anniversary, when the whim is to make a little sex, a clean “break up!” The man is at his wits’ end. Whether he is crying and kneeling begging for mercy, or fiercely pulled over a kiss gag, let life has long been boring women feel the excitement of turning into an idol drama heroine. The “love value” full tank when the sour, can not believe; that tear lit love spark, wonderful.
Brickbuster: Break up! This mantra for the preservation of uninteresting love completely fulfills a woman’s fantasy of being the protagonist in her life. Tears, heartache, flowers afterwards, a breakup to wake up these props, women tsk tsk tsk acting romance, men are terrified to play the thriller. Three or two heart can still bear, periodic reruns? You are still measuring the performance of the man this time should score how many points, he has long been unable to withstand the sense of panic, the timely end of the horror show. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
3. Women think: love object = marriage destination.
Men’s thinking: girlfriend ≠ wife, relationship ≠ marriage.
“Women” is always coupled with “hating marriage”, “men “This can probably be used to explain why men and women have different expectations for the same love. Women always complain “why don’t you xx”, “look Wang Er Ma Zi will xxx”, because she is tuning her life home; men are indifferent to anything, because they are really just in love. The most direct result of these two very different expectations is that – break up, muddy feet of women crying their eyes out, while men are geared up to embrace tomorrow.
Bricklayer pat: What to do, the world is a distressing place! Spend 100 yuan of buffet money, may not be able to eat enough 100 yuan of food; with 100 points of brain power, may not be able to get a perfect score; consume the golden time of the twenties, may not be able to return a perfect lover to stay with each other until old age. The world is so naughty. So it must be in love to get back the capital? It seems really unlikely ah. Men’s minds are always inscrutable, the end of love often flickers unclear, in addition to careful input, there is really no other way to reduce the loss of strength. How about we learn from men’s “low expectations”?
With the mindset of enjoying love with MR.WRONGs, meeting the ultimate MR.RIGHT.