There are two “hopes” before reading:
I hope you don’t do this.
I hope you don’t meet someone who does this to you.
1. Be the closest person to him, deny him at important moments
Get close to him, get to know him, get to know him, figure out his habits and hobbies.
Get close to him, get to know him, get to know him, get to know his habits and preferences, and gain his trust by giving him advice on the little things in his day-to-day life.
When this kind of intimacy is established, he will become very obedient and will care about your approval. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have the right attitude and he will be happy. At this point, as long as you deny him, consciously or unconsciously, in his life events, his mood will be unconsciously a hundred times worse than others, and such emotions are conducive to his falling into self-doubt.
After that, he will continue to look to you for help, which proves that you have successfully pinpointed every turning point in this person’s life. You can make the person who trusts you, go downhill with your own hatred and jealousy.
2. Hold up the altar and then fall into the mud
If God will bring about their demise, he will first make them mad.
First find a good thing about the person and praise it, creating the illusion of “you are the best, you are the most special”. If the person is not self-aware, he or she will get carried away and the outsider will just keep raising his or her arousal threshold, sending him or her into a state of arrogance and giving him or her a surprise blow to the head.
People who are drowning in flowers and applause are most likely to be disoriented and confused in the face of such a blow. And we’re receiving news faster and faster now, unlike the old days when there was still a chance for redress, when he was at the altar in the morning and could be in the mud in the afternoon, in a mess.
3. Labeling and defining
Nowadays, people are very smart, they don’t label explicitly, they hide in their words, for example:
“And yes, you don’t have much of an opinion, but you can …… “Define the other person while quickly giving personal advice to appear more assertive.
“You’re more timid, let me do it.” In the name of defending, the other person is afraid to take the first bold step.
“You’re selfish, but you’re also better than me, unlike me, who has a lot of things I can’t let go of.” An explicit compliment.
“No opinion,” “timid and cowardly,” “selfish,” etc., are labels that take a lot of time and effort to put on any person to The majority of people are stuck with the label for life.
Labeling gives a strong psychological implication, repeatedly telling the person that you are such a person, and such behavior can create a stereotypical, unvivid person. The labeled person, when trying to behave outside of the label, feels abrupt and embarrassed without being attacked and ridiculed, and has to retreat into the shell of the assigned label.
Being afraid to change oneself, one is left with “I’m just like this for the rest of one’s life.”
4. Exclusion and isolation at the same time
The easiest way to do this, without direct conflict, is to huddle.
Do not create common topics, do not give eye contact, deliberately be especially warm to people other than him, but be polite to him, as if he were a stranger.
Psychologically, he will feel baffled and will also think he is not interesting enough and thus have low self-esteem.
When a person is isolated, the feeling of loneliness is multiplied, as if the whole world has abandoned him, and he can burst into tears if others give him a single point of kindness, which is a sign of humility and powerlessness.
5. Internet violence
01) Take what happened between you and him and edit it into words and post it on the internet, with some rumors mixed in with the incident.
02) Bring up the topic, cause confrontation, and inspire the netizens’ angry emotions.
03) You have to pretend to be the underdog, because the world is generally biased towards the underdog, even if you are the one in the wrong.
04) If public opinion reverses and turns in his favor, don’t worry, the crowd will blame the victim for not fighting back.
05) And if the victim fights back, you don’t have to worry that the crowd will find fault with him elsewhere, because they want a “perfect victim”.
Before that, you have to understand social psychology and communication. If you open the door to online violence, the internet will help you with a series of actions that can easily destroy the person and cause “social death.
Even when the truth comes out, some people will pretend to be innocent, and even defend themselves for blindly following the trend and not having the ability to think independently: “What’s the difference between you being violated online and us being consumed with goodwill and compassion?”
Regardless of the final outcome, one thing remains the same: the person you want to ruin is already as you want him to be.
6. Crush their heart and squash their dreams
Some people are so resilient that they can pat themselves on the back for even the biggest setbacks.
This leads to the conclusion that the torment and abuse he receives from the outside world is not even on his mind. Sometimes the way to see if a person has been really hit is not to see if he has gotten back on track, but to see if he has any heart left. Mindfulness fills a person’s whole soul with power and allows them to create work that is spiritual and gives them a sense of being “alive.
If you want to break this kind of person, you have to start with the “heart”.
01) Repeat and brainwash him: What you’re doing doesn’t make any sense, so don’t waste your energy doing nothing.
02) Convince him that he has lost his value and that no one will buy it, even if his heart is in his dreams.
03) Give him a little hope and then block from it, over and over again, so that he completely loses the fearlessness to pursue his goal.
When the heart is disturbed, the soul is gradually depleted and will be like a pool of stagnant water, with no energy to do anything. It is very difficult to revive a person whose essence and roots have been destroyed.
These are the moves that destroy a person, so please don’t do them. If you use these methods to destroy others, the end result will surely backfire on you. The only point you have to make is to be alert to whether someone around you is doing this to you.