The age of 30 is becoming a “psychological threshold” for the urban white-collar population, and some people over 30, for various reasons, have become pessimistic and negative about their ageing, fading face and unfulfilled career, and have developed ” Age phobia.
■ Explanation of terms
Age phobia refers to the pessimistic, disappointing, and negative emotions that people in the workplace over 30 show about their growing age and lack of significant success in their career achievements. For many middle-aged men, the most important thing is the achievement of the career. People in mid-life, there is no special outstanding achievements in the career, or encounter difficulties, bottlenecks, will be their age, the career of the situation has not become pessimistic, negative emotions, this is the so-called “age phobia”, which is what psychologists call the “mid-life crisis “
These are the symptoms of age phobia.
Symptoms: The biggest sign of age phobia is a sense of depression, accompanied by insomnia or drowsiness, decreased appetite, and a general feeling of discomfort. Troubling life events often exacerbate this sense of depression and can begin to question everything about life, and the person’s attitude becomes more negative than before, adding to the feeling of being middle-aged and weathered. These people often choose silence and escape to deal with it, and in severe cases, they may even choose suicide as an escape method.
The main factors that trigger white-collar “age phobia”
“How long can I eat my youthful meal when my face is getting old?”
Some service and entertainment industries are jokingly referred to as youthful industries. When youth is fading, many white-collar workers have a sense of crisis about their future. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
“I don’t want to face the reality of being over 30 because of the pressure of my career and family.”
This is a kind of escapism. Middle-aged people are under tremendous pressure in society and often imagine themselves leaving the competitive workplace and nursing babies to go back to their childhood or to the tranquility of a small mountain village. But reality is reality after all, so middle-aged white-collar workers have to fall into the strange circle of depression and depressed state. The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product, which is a new product for the company.
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“If you haven’t done something by the time you’re 30, you’re not likely to succeed in life.”
Human intelligence is divided into fluid intelligence and crystal intelligence, with fluid intelligence decreasing with age, but crystal intelligence increasing with experience even in old age, and there are many people who are “late bloomers,” as long as they give themselves a chance and don’t beat themselves, plus the experience and life experience of middle age. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the results of your work.
“It’s not that I’m afraid of getting older, look at all the employers who want young people.”
It’s a social phenomenon because younger workers don’t have the overwhelming problems of health care, retirement insurance, etc., and can save money. Success is possible at any age, and using social issues as an excuse may subconsciously be an attempt to find pretexts and a rationalization for oneself. White collar workers need to face up to the age issue and not always use some rationalization to justify their avoidance.
“I got into the wrong line of work when I was young, and I can’t change it when I’m 30.”
Career maturity is a concept that includes career knowledge, career attitudes, career decisions, and career planning. Before young people have developed good knowledge and attitudes about a career, blindly following the crowd can lead to a lot of trouble once they are on the job.
Support: How to deal with “age phobia”
As you reach middle age, it is critical to reorient yourself. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem of the problem. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the market.
People instinctively raise their life expectations. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. Unrealistically high expectations to treat life, it is some people every day in the depression and sadness of the psychological dilemma to spend precious time, can not enjoy the joy of life and happiness of the psychological roots. It is a conclusion of social psychology that the higher the expectations, the greater the emotional conflict in the psyche.
Also, no matter how busy you are at work, you should retain the habit of reading and studying every day. The easiest way to combat impatience is to find great strength in knowledge. People who are strong within themselves are less likely to be influenced by their environment.
If a depressed, frustrated mind has affected the body, it would be good for Damien to schedule a long vacation to visit his hometown as a teenager, or to take a break to an exotic island to adjust his state.
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■Three tips to deal with “age phobia”
You should improve your self-cultivation as your youth fades away
Some service and entertainment industries are jokingly referred to as youthful industries. When youth is fading, many white-collar workers have a sense of crisis about their future. In fact, even in these industries, there are still many places that require personal qualities and endurance, and learning to improve one’s knowledge and cultivation and other “internal skills” may be a better choice for white-collar workers who are worried about their age.
After 30 years of stress, you should redirect your psychological attention
Middle-aged white-collar workers are under tremendous pressure in society, and often imagine themselves leaving the competitive workplace and their babies waiting to be fed, going back to their childhood, or returning to a quiet mountain village. But reality is reality after all, where can people escape to? So middle-aged white-collar workers have to fall into a strange circle of depression and depressed state. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the actual situation.
Age is your excuse to complain about your job
“It’s not that I’m afraid of getting older, look at the employers, they want young people.” This may be a social phenomenon because younger employees don’t have the excessive problems of health care, retirement insurance, etc., and can save money. But success is possible at any age, and using social issues as an excuse may subconsciously be an attempt to find pretexts and a rationalization for oneself. White collar workers need to face up to the age issue and not always use some rationalization to justify their avoidance.
Career maturity is a concept that includes career knowledge, career attitudes, career decisions, and career planning. Before young people have developed good knowledge and attitudes about a career, blindly following the crowd’s decisions can lead to a lot of trouble after taking a job. If you can’t adapt to your old career, you can still change careers after 30, but this should be carefully considered, and it’s best to move into an industry related to your old career to reduce risk.
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■How can women deal with age phobia?
Let time pass while you live like you’re in a preservation box, still looking young and energetic, something women dream about. The first time I saw this, I was able to get to the top of the list, and I was able to get to the bottom of the list.
Sitting up straight
“People who sit well look more confident and energetic than those who slouch, hunch over, or fall to one side.” Paul D’Aliso, a practicing physician in Colorado Springs, Colorado, says sitting correctly can also prevent muscle and joint pain and reduce muscle tension in the shoulders and neck thereby relieving headaches.
He suggests that those with poor posture can improve it by practicing yoga or Pilates. “This strengthens the muscles in the abdomen, pelvis and tailbone, making it easy to straighten the upper body.” If you don’t have time to practice, stretch your body every hour: touch your feet to the ground, relax your shoulders and jaw, and place your hands on your thighs; slowly stretch your shoulders back, squeezing your shoulder blades, and hold for five seconds. Just stretch three or four times each time.
Have a good sex life at least 3 times a week
Studies have shown that middle-aged people who have more frequent sex (about 3 times a week) look 12 years younger than their “sexless” peers. This is because the former had fewer wrinkles and smoother, more delicate skin. Researchers say that during sex, the brain secretes a hormone. It can reduce stress, so that the “time reversal”. In addition, a pleasurable sex life can make people sleep better, and their skin is naturally fairer and more radiant.
Brows
Having two curved eyebrows makes you look younger. “Thinning eyebrows don’t bring out individual features, and even teenagers can lose their youthfulness.” Damon Roberts, a famous American cosmetologist, said, “It’s not hard to fix good eyebrows. First, apply a dark pencil to sparse eyebrows to create a dense look. Then blot the color with your fingers to make it more natural. The key is to follow the natural eyebrow outline and don’t draw the peak too high or your whole face will be full of anger.”
Paint and dye your hair
I use a highlighter to contour your face and a little bit of blush; dye your hair a funky color and you can instantly change your look.
Buy new lingerie that fits
Women know that their breasts sag with age, but few find ways to hide it. Susan Nesro, author of “The Lingerie Manifesto: Fiction and Fact,” believes that good lingerie can make women feel full and protected. “It should be lined with padding and a steel ring with a hold-up effect that lifts the woman’s breasts upward at their highest point. Generally, this point should be right in the middle of the shoulder to the elbow joint.” When there is a significant weight gain or loss, the bust should be measured and the lingerie size should be changed.
Beautify your hands
Shiny ornaments on your nails or tiny rings on your fingers can divert attention from wrinkles or spots on your hands. A British study found that 49% of respondents believed that women with well-groomed hands looked younger.
Quit smoking
The CDC has said that smokers get a lot of wrinkles earlier in the eyes and mouth and a grayer complexion. Patricia Farris, a clinical assistant professor of dermatology at Tulare University, noted that there is no such thing as sooner or later to quit smoking. “Even after years of addiction, once you quit smoking, your body can still repair the damage it has previously caused, your complexion will improve significantly, and your skin condition will be refreshed.”
Smiling happily
People are used to seeing a sluggish, feeble smile as a sign of “old age,” with waxy teeth peeking out from the lips, fine lines at the corners of a stiff mouth, and flaws that are instantly magnified. However, if you are smiling from the bottom of your heart, your sincerity will infect the people around you and can even erase the age tag on your forehead.