Know which is the scariest kind of mistress? The little white flower? Green tea whore? No! The most horrible triad is around you, she is your best friend. The most important thing is that you have to be able to get the most out of your life.
A recent survey shows that up to 63% of Chinese men have been attracted to their girlfriends’ girlfriends, and if three girlfriends bring their boyfriends to a party, two of them will be attracted to them. Then, 35% of men will take all sorts of flirtatious actions after their heartbeat – 23% play flirtatious and 12% play confessional.
The saddest part is that a whopping 10% of men actually managed to confess their feelings, and only 2% of other boyfriends were rejected by their girlfriends. This is equivalent to one out of every ten girls in love are luring their “girlfriends” into their own boyfriends’ arms.
What to do when something like this happens around you? The most important thing is to be able to believe in friendship again, what bosom friend, what die-hard party, are false, defending love is the most important. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
So, are we going to give up on BFFs? Only keep in touch with your bestie when you are single, fall in love, get married, and abandon your bestie. The most important thing is that you have to be able to find your best friend again. The main problem with this is the confusion between BFFs and pseudo-BFFs.
Because a real BFF is not going to sabotage her love, if she is the mistress of your love or marriage you are being pitted by a pseudo BFF. The first thing you need to do is recognize if she is a pseudo-bestie around you before tragedy strikes.
How is a BFF
The word BFF has been given too many meanings. meaning, and many not-so-great friendships are hardwired to be called BFFs. So you feel like you should treat her according to the standards of a bestie. You go online and look at twitter, and people say that BFFs talk about everything, so you think about it and decide to tell her your little secret. You see people wearing couples’ clothes with their BFFs and think you want them too, so you buy the same dress – even though you don’t really like the style.
But in reality, the quality of a friendship doesn’t depend on what the model of that relationship should be, it’s about you actually having fun and genuinely wanting the best for each other.
“A true BFF is someone who can give you timely warmth and comfort no matter what difficulties or setbacks you encounter along the way.” This quote from “Girlfriends” is probably the footnote to true BFFs.
What is a bestie? In simple terms, the role of a bestie is to come out for you when you are about to get hurt, to send a loving hug when you are injured and bleeding, to kick your boyfriend twice when he is cheating on you, and to earn you a lot of eyeballs and a surge of face at the wedding. The most important point is that a true bestie will not see you well, and even for you to live better, she can give a lot.
How about a pseudo-BFF
Among BFFs, there is a Pseudo-BFF. It means that you think she is your BFF, but you are just a person available in her mind. The two sides are not on equal footing and tragedy is inevitable. So, we need to learn to identify pseudo BFFs. Pseudo-BFFs include but are not limited to the following characteristics:
1. First of all, your relationship meets most of the requirements to be a BFF. For example, you can talk, hang out together and spit together, have common likes and dislikes, have deeper feelings, etc.
2. You have an inner rivalry that usually only the two of you can feel. It could be study or work, and you feel the pressure to compete with each other anyway.
3. She never wants to admit that you’re good, that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and that your strengths that 90 percent of people see are not worth mentioning in her case.
4. You will always be special to her, she won’t get mad at others, but she will at you, she won’t say no to others who need her help, but she will to you (in the name of “I only get mad at the closest people, I only say no to the closest people), nevermind, I don’t want to be so close to you. I don’t want to be this close to you, okay?
5. When you are sad or in a difficult situation, she will not take the initiative to comfort you from the heart and help you.
How to prevent your BFF from stealing your boyfriend
Especially in front of those girlfriends who are still single, you have to keep a low profile at all times, don’t flaunt your romance, don’t flaunt your happiness. It is easy to arouse the envy of your girlfriends at first, but then, it will gradually evolve into jealousy.
Jealousy burns, a truth that has been true for ages and a major factor in the tragic occurrence of love triangles for thousands of years. So, if you are happy, just steal your happiness, don’t think, only the happiness that the whole world knows is happiness.
Two, when dating, don’t bring your bestie as a chaperone.
Remember, you’re going on a date to enjoy everything in your two-person world with your boyfriend, whether it’s happy or sad, it’s just for the two of you, and you’re embarrassing him by bringing your girlfriends along.
But if you ignore this awkwardness for a long time, he will get used to the idea of having your bestie as a date companion, and it will set him up for being seduced and then logically getting into your bestie’s bed later.
Three, whenever possible, talk less about the good things about your boyfriend.
If it’s a good man, what woman wouldn’t fall in love or even fall in love with it? This is also the common sense. So, in front of your girlfriends, don’t always talk about the merits of your boyfriend, about how he loves you, how you take care of you, how considerate you are. It’s easy for a single woman to think about it and even have thoughts of why you would have such a great guy and she doesn’t.
Once this thought takes root, she will pay extra attention to your boyfriend, and when she meets a more conscientious BFF, she may fall in love with your boyfriend but can’t bear to hurt you, but begins to distance herself from you, and eventually withdraws from your circle of life. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Fourth, don’t let your boyfriend go alone to help when your bestie has something to do.
Whenever, no matter what, once your bestie has asked for help, and this kind of thing is not something you can do, but is something your boyfriend can do, such as repairing a leaky water pipe, such as fixing a light bulb and so on. You are embarrassed to disappoint your best friend and think that you are a big fan of sex and do not help with this little thing. Then, you follow your boyfriend to help her and don’t give her a chance to have time alone with him.
It’s not about being mean, but in today’s society where there aren’t a lot of moral constraints, you have to be on your guard at all times, so you don’t have a cooked duck in your hand and have it taken away by your bestie.
It is better to take precautions before such a tragedy occurs than to toss in the end and lose your love and friendship. As the saying goes, first the villain then the gentleman, so is the way to deal with the world.