While watching the TV series “Spicy Mother-in-Law”, it is about the old topic of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship. The first time I saw it, I had to go to the hospital to get it.
Reminded of the marriage to the Xie family, the news of the new marriage was accompanied by the gossip that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were blatantly at odds.
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The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult, in addition to the difference in life backgrounds and concepts, a very important reason, this is a dark war between two women. It is said that women are petty, and that the man who contacts these two women today is the love of their hearts.
Although it is said that children should be let go when they are older, there are really not many women in China who can see the child they raised wholeheartedly devoted to another woman and not lose their heart.
Also, it looks like this woman doesn’t know how to take care of her son at all, and is 100 times more uncomfortable, so she can’t help but interfere in her son’s life, in case she runs into this man who can’t handle it, or an overgrown Oedipus complex, things will get complicated.
As someone else’s daughter-in-law, you are troubled if you encounter any of these situations. The ideal sweet life of two people after marriage, how can it be entangled with so many branches, and that is the husband’s closest mother.
It seems that it is better to practice some mother-in-law PK strategies to be prepared.
One: mother-in-law is not your own mother
When you get married, legally speaking, your mother-in-law is your mother, and many girls logically treat her mother-in-law as their mother really after the initial warm-up. But it must be clear in your mind: a mother-in-law is not a real mother.
That is, you can’t be as capricious and pampered in front of her as you would be in front of your own mother. You shouldn’t have the same expectations of your own mother, expecting her to care for you like she does, knowing that she is being nice to you, probably for the sake of your son, hoping that you will be nice to him, or fearing that he won’t have face.
You don’t expect much from your mother-in-law, and you won’t be disappointed with some of her eccentric actions. Distance creates beauty, and keeping some distance from your mother-in-law will be good for the future relationship.
2: Daughters-in-law should be sheepish
Some girls will be sheepish when they arrive at their in-laws’ house in order to leave a virtuous impression on each other. If you encounter a powerful mother-in-law, she is immediately made a rule.
In fact, in a family, only one person can have the say. Even if you are meek, you should still stick to your principles on key issues, so that your mother-in-law realizes that you are the mistress of the small family who says no.
Lesson 3: Rural Surrounding City Strategy
Cherry Zhang, in order to please her mother-in-law, Raghu, first made a good relationship with her younger sister. The daughter-in-law in “Spicy Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law” first made her grandmother (her mother-in-law’s mother-in-law) a happy mess.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may easily be in an adversarial position, so it may be easier to go ahead and fix the people around the mother-in-law. Of course, the most important thing is to make sure that your husband is on your side.
Some girls will say that their mother-in-law is bad in front of their husbands, which is actually the stupidest way. You know, in the mind of your husband, most mothers are inviolable images, even if the mother is now old, a little paranoid and confused, but he is not willing to admit it.
So it is more important for your husband to realize that a mutually supportive couple relationship with you is what will make him happy for the rest of his life
Lesson 4: Put yourself in your mother-in-law’s shoes
Some girls find their mothers-in-law particularly unreasonable, interfering in the internal affairs of the young couple and being picky, when in fact you can put yourself in the shoes of
Some girls feel that their mother-in-law is unreasonable in interfering with the internal affairs of the young couple and is picky, but you can put yourself in her shoes and think about it.
I have a girlfriend who, after having a son, sometimes says she is depressed to think that in a few years her son will be doing everything for a woman he doesn’t know, and her words will fall on deaf ears.
The mother-in-law may feel that her daughter-in-law’s approach is not taking good care of her son, or she may be worried about her son’s daughter-in-law’s unhealthy habits.
In her eyes, the son will always be the one who needs to be taken care of. The poor girl’s heart. Maybe when the girls become mothers, they will better understand the heart of a mother.