Giving vent to our emotions appropriately
Don’t let the grief, frustration, and anger of loss keep piling up and gnawing at our minds and bodies. It’s called one gain, one loss. When God closes this door, He will open another one for you.
The first one: stare ahead, don’t look back, keep your dignity: don’t go to him, don’t contact him, don’t get attached to the past. Although I will make mistakes (people make mistakes), although I have flaws (people have flaws), but I still have my dignity, I want to maintain my dignity, look forward and move forward!
The second one: to cry, the sound of water in the shower, you can cry as much as you want. To scream, find an unoccupied place to hiss hard. The second one: to cry , the sound of water in the shower, you can cry as much as you want. The actual fact is that you’ll be able to find a good friend to talk to. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Third: Acting like you don’t care: It’s impossible to really care, but saying and doing so in action affects the heart. Think of it this way: “If he doesn’t care, why should I care?” or “The way to deal with a negative person. Or “The best way to deal with a negative person is to live your life to the fullest.” Or, “If you want to see me sad and miserable, I won’t let you have your way.” These thoughts can help keep us from falling into the vortex of bad feelings.
The fourth one: Clearing his trail: Filter through all the things he gave you. You can keep the things that work well, and throw away anything that will remind you of the past, so you don’t upset yourself and get angry. You can also avoid going to places you used to go to, so you don’t get emotional and get depressed.
The fifth: Get out a pen and paper and list his good and bad points separately: If he has more bad points than good points, then why do you care about him? If your heart aches for the feelings you’ve given, then forget it! Spare yourself. If he’s equal parts good and bad, then don’t worry, you’ll meet someone else who’s more attractive to you than him. If he has only good things and no bad things (or very few bad things), then you yourself will have to circle one of the following: He is perfect. You are blind. Either you don’t really know him, or you are in love with a false ideal image (your own shape or his fake). This kind of relationship is not real, not solid, and not sustainable in the first place, so it’s better to break up early!
The sixth type: attending events, being with others, talking about funny topics: parties, gatherings, outings, dances, watching shows, playing ball, and other dynamic and crowded events should be attended with an open mind and try to join others’ conversations, discover humorous and funny topics, laugh along with everyone, and your mood will turn cheerful.
Type 7: Leaving to travel: Join a travel group or go to a foreign country or place with a group of friends to play or do research. The humanity of the foreign place will refresh you. The old worries shrink, go away, and fade away as your horizons broaden and new feelings arise inside.
The eighth type: contacting old friends: When you were in love, you were “sexually oriented” and didn’t ask your old friends if they were alive or dead, but now that you’re “single” again, don’t take this opportunity to “confess” to your old friends. The “confession” is a confession. Who will be like old friends and understand you, and not blame you, and tolerate you, and love you? With them, you don’t have to hide, you’re comfortable and at ease. There is no self-denial or doubt after a breakup, which helps restore your true colors.
Type 9: Focus on work and research: You were easily distracted when you were in love, but now you can finally focus on your work and schoolwork. Turning grief into strength and working hard will lead to unexpected achievements, and other accolades will follow. This is what is called a gain and a loss: God closes this door and opens another for you.