Life will always have some stumbling, but also with the next person will have some spat, and every day live together in the couple, the one will also have conflicts and quarrel. Although the quarrel can sometimes solve the problem, sometimes can promote feelings, but beyond certain bottom line, the problem not only can not be solved, but also affect the couple’s feelings, so the following advice hope that you look carefully Oh.
Don’t fight when you’re not conscious
People tend to act impulsively when they’re not conscious. When people are not conscious, they tend to do impulsive things, such as drinking alcohol, being extremely depressed, getting hit, etc. If a conflict arises at this moment, even in the face of a loved one, he or she may see him or her as an “enemy” and may even become violent. So, don’t fight in this situation.
Couples should not attack each other’s “soft spot”
Everyone has their own weaknesses, and lovers are not the enemy, so when you fight and quarrel, you should only “take things personally” and not be aggressive, not to mention “expose the shortcomings” as a means of spreading anger, otherwise minor conflicts may turn into hostility.
Be focused and don’t get involved in other things
Some couples escalate minor issues and fight. The most important thing is to make sure that you have a good understanding of the situation. This is often more than a quarrel and can lead to a clear-cut adversarial situation, which can cause a rift in the relationship.
Don’t “punish” each other by separating or running away
After a fight, one spouse will “punish” the other by running away from home or separating. This is a very good way to get the most out of your life, but it will only deepen the divide between you and your partner, and may even lead to a new crisis.
Fighting without fighting
Fighting is good for bonding. The first thing you need to do is to get in touch with your friends and family. Therefore, it’s better to argue than to fight.
You can’t have a win-lose mentality in a fight
Conflicts in a marriage can’t be determined by “win-lose. “If it is used as a tool to measure the status of the family, then fighting does not promote the relationship, but rather allows the couple to “draw the line” and confront each other.