“Recently he has no time to see me at all”, “phone calls and text messages are not a few”, “I feel that he is always avoiding me intentionally or unintentionally”, etc., these are actually signs that love has become cold. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want. Indeed, the distribution of love in a relationship is not even, there is always a party to pay more. When the payment did not get the expected response, the heart resentment feel their love “was cold” is not only normal human feelings. In this psychological drive, it is easy to become suspicious and anxious. It is this critical moment that you should not let yourself panic, what you need to do is to calm down and analyze the problem. This issue is about how to deal with love when it gets cold.
One, understand his feelings
First you need to think about “Why did he become cold?” You can imagine the answer yourself. “Does he like someone else?” “Two people are separated by something?” “He changed his mind about his future plans because of a job transfer?”
If he’s just become cold and detached from you, but hasn’t initiated a breakup, you should look at the right time to ask him tentatively. Instead of venting your frustration and putting on a reasonable attitude, create an easy-to-talk-to environment with a gentle breeze and take a wishy-washy offensive in order to get him to spill his guts without fear. The first to strike always prevails, aggressiveness can only bring the end of the breakup. He may have fallen in love with someone else, but considering you, and caught in the choice is difficult to extricate themselves. It is also possible that because of certain things, there is a gap between you, and you can not avoid arguing when you meet, so that he is upset. Many times, you can not get the real answer from his mouth, the argument can only let the truth buried in his heart forever. Paying attention to the wording and guessing his mind is especially important when talking. And you need to set up possible situations in your mind before you talk about them.
Situation 1: “If he doesn’t love me, then I won’t ask for it anymore, and it’s goodbye.
If you’re not willing to know why, you might as well ask him, but you can also take this as a valuable experience and use it in your next relationship.
Situation 2: “He’s just a little lost right now, and I want to give him a chance and myself a chance to get my love back”
Actually, it’s pretty hard to do that. But if you really want to be brave for once, then all you have to do is adjust your mindset first. For example, even if you know he’s lying, but don’t rush to chastise him, leave everything to time, and after a while, chances are he’ll come clean with you himself. You should always think that such a conversation is to improve the relationship between the two people, and shouting and screaming can not solve any problems. Instead of releasing your feelings, it is better to give in to each other and better to find a compromise.
2. Understand when his heart is no longer in it
This is the time when distance is important. The first is that the company’s business is not a business. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. If he still feels good about you, he will naturally take the initiative to contact you. If you don’t hear from him from now on, then you can let go of the emotional baggage and find new happiness.
You can also use this period to take an objective look at your old self. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem. The first thing you need to do is to think about what you are doing. When you are with him, you are radiant and energetic? It is this constant self-reflection that will allow you to change and grow. This is because these changes in your growth may save your love for each other. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at yourself, and when he sees these changes in you, he may come back to you.
And don’t think he’s the only man in the world. Humans are much more resistant to emotional stress than you might think. You may think he is the only one for you, and that losing him takes away your ability to fall in love. But no matter how much you used to love that person, you are still able to like someone else, that time and then look back at their former selves, do they also think that their own silly cute back then? The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.
Three, a must in life – relationship troubles and breakups
Good women are built through the hardships of relationships. Every relationship experience is a valuable life experience for you. Reflecting on the reasons for this failure plays a good guiding role for the future. If you are just sad and sad, choose to deliberately forget, not to explore the reasons, insight into their own shortcomings, then you are likely to fall again on the same issue. Take stock of the lessons learned so you can discover a better version of yourself.