Cohabitation is a couple living together, where are the three people? In addition to each other, there is a third person in the cohabitation, the third person is a reconciliation of two people’s mode of getting along with the formation of the – “third me”. The only way to learn how to get along with three people is to live together so that the relationship can heat up rather than cool down.
Cohabitation, also known as trial marriage, is a trial period before marriage, and if it’s right, it’s not too late for the two of you to move into marriage. However, many people find that after cohabitation, the two people’s feelings do not rise but fall, so there are arguments that cohabitation will make two people a sense of boredom. This sense of boredom comes from too close, because day and night relative, equal to tear open in the love of the layer of mystery, each other frankly, see like people will also pick boogers scrape leg hair, there is a kind of God into mortal feeling. If one party is not so firm, the mistress will take advantage of the situation.
There are pros and cons to cohabitation, so many people are hesitant at the intersection of choice. How can we learn more about running a relationship in cohabitation? Let’s start with an analysis of the two main reasons why relationships are affected.
Basically, there are two major reasons why relationships are affected:
(1) Novelty: two people who have been together for a long time fall into the “take for granted” mode, boring, uninteresting, respect each other like “ice”
( 2) Suitability: After spending time together intensively, we realized that their life patterns and values are like starving monkeys without any “intercourse (banana)”.
In cohabiting life, we divide them into three categories:
I. Getting Alone
“Getting Alone” in cohabitation means that in the mode of interaction between two people, it’s often all about The “one person” mode of thinking, for example, one party is always in line with the other party, catering or compromising. Or one person’s decision is the biggest, the other person does not have any room to decide, like an autocratic emperor who is in charge of the world, the people’s job is to “obey”, the minister is not allowed to disobey, and it is impossible to appeal or change, the emperor is happy, you are happy, the emperor is not happy, you suffer, the most consistent is the traditional The most consistent is the traditional “machismo”.
This is the case with many “one-person cohabitation” romances, where daily life is like running a schedule, moving your body, and being extraordinarily “”intense”” because you live together. The “great love” structure has become a dysfunctional form of the cliché, and the tail is not falling off!
Two people living together
The “two people living together” model of cohabitation is like a “self-guided trip” where both people have a certain degree of autonomy and freedom to act on their own volition, disperse after a set point, and then meet at the end of the day to catch a flight together, talk and share their travel experiences. The two of us have a certain amount of autonomy and freedom to act of our own volition, to meet at the end of the day to catch a flight together, to talk and share our travel experiences with each other, which sounds great, respecting each other’s ideas and actions, but too independent, so it’s probably hard to have heartfelt memories together, living in the same space, living like we’re “single together”.
The truth is that real cohabitation is hardly like a self-guided trip like this, where you separate after a set point and meet when the time comes, because “living under the same roof” has limited space, so you have to The fact is that real cohabitation is hardly like this self-guided trip, separated after a set point, with the time to meet at the end of the day, because “living under the same roof” and with limited space, it is basically an impossible task to keep two “whole, separate selves” in life.
Three people living together – a profound and timeless honeymoon
If we’re stuck in the “one person, two people model” mentioned earlier, it’s mission impossible to have a good experience.
What is the third person
But love is not a binary of yes and no. But love is not a dichotomy between what is and isn’t. To have a good living experience, you have to learn the “three person model”, where you have to create a relationship that is made up of two people in addition to the “me” and “him”. The “third me” is formed by reconciling the two.
The “third me” may come naturally, but if it’s intentional, it definitely adds a bit more romance to love. For example, you may not be a person who can write a small note, thinking that it is not only nauseous and disgusting, but one time you quarrel with your partner, you wrote a small note, or one day you came home late to the next day will be late, you wrote a small note of good morning, so the behavior of the “third me” for love added “freshness
The third me adds “freshness” to love and naturally becomes more romantic.
Let’s say you don’t like to share your feelings, but your partner loves to share and makes sharing a necessary part of his life. If the original “two selves”, this characteristic may become the crux of the “unsuitable”, and lay the cause of the breakup. But if one of them is willing to make a third me, to do a little balance, the original crux may become “considerate”, love is not a little more often together, quite sweet, will make people cavity of that kind! Learn to “three people get along” cohabitation, like a daily honeymoon, even after the breakup for other reasons, is still deep and timeless, unforgettable, such a cohabitation relationship is definitely not a pre-training before going to the grave, but a “journey towards true love”.
In the journey of cohabitation, “one person” is like traveling with a group, going with the flow, without oneself; “two people
The most immediate purpose of cohabitation is to make our love come true and allow us to enter into marriage. At the very least, it will allow us to have a sweet love that, when we think of it later, will not create a feeling of regret and having to do it all over again for this time, this relationship and this man. The love of one and two people can make each other’s feelings hit an unknown reef. Only the love of three people, you, me and our common third me getting along well together, can make it possible for each other to find the best way to get along and for the daily friction to turn into a relationship heater rather than a cooler.
Getting along with three people is more of a relationship practice than falling in love and living together as one or two people. You can practice your own feelings and each other’s feelings between the two of you. The two of them are like wine, which gets better and better as time goes by.
If you want simple love, you can go for a one-night stand, it couldn’t be simpler. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of the situation.