In this increasingly realistic world, who else is painfully hiding their feelings, and who else is only kissing the bride for the first time on their wedding night? Many love affairs have passed long ago, and the unforgettable remains the feeling of parting. However, a new life has begun, what are the chances of a do-over? And how much should you pay? The love in marriage seems quite simple, but the old love again certainly can not refresh the yellowing page. When an old flame suddenly appears in front of a man, the surprise is certainly easy to understand, pick up the broken red thread what is necessary? Our advice is for everyone to be friends and that’s all. The following is nothing more than telling you how to kindly reject your feelings and how to stay away from the temptation of an old flame.
Dating taboos for old lovers
1. Reminiscing about past love: the most The unforgettable past love, young lovers like a cloud. The romance and warmth of the past will always bring you sweet memories from time to time. But you just have to remember the experience you had is enough, there is no reason to endlessly immerse yourself in it with old lovers. That will only make you further lose the ability to judge things. The only way to see what was good and what is bad is to hold a magnifying glass, and your life could become a mess from there.
2. Be all about showing sympathy for her situation: Women can be especially desperate for sympathy, and men show a lot of generosity when it comes to exuding it. The question is whether your sympathy is what she really needs, and what kind of situation your sympathy will take you to. It is most often seen that men gradually fall deeper and deeper into it, suffering and unable to extricate themselves.
3. Casual promises of help: Men seem to have an innate urge to think they are the saviors, especially when it comes to a woman, and there is literally nothing he can’t promise that he can’t do. The truth is, they either simply can’t do it or they make a big sacrifice after barely finishing. The danger of casual commitment is that you can break another commitment that is close to you in order to keep your promise.
4. Skin-to-skin: From holding hands to hugging and kissing, the consequences of the development are clear to see. When the dream wakes up, many things to say and do will not be said and done, and trouble will ensue.
5. Arriving early or late: Arriving early shows that you value past relationships more than the other person, which will allow the other person to catch your weaknesses, and don’t get emotionally involved when dating old lovers. The late arrival indicates that you simply do not take the date as a matter of course, from the other side’s point of view you are very contemptuous of her, arrogant and rude. Even if you no longer have feelings for her, there’s no need to hurt her.
Things you can say to your wife
1. Although marriage is honesty, but sometimes many things should never be said. Not to retain any personal privacy, but these things are very easy to trigger a series of unexpected trouble, affecting the feelings of both spouses. So in the matter of meeting with old lovers men should pay more attention to the principle of keeping their mouths shut. Some things can be said, some things should never be said. Compliment old lovers before or now beautiful, elegant. The wife will think that you have been unforgettable old love, married himself because he could not catch up with her. The wife will think you’re too old and ugly for her now.
2. The details of the relationship. Women love to get to the bottom of things, but men must insist on not revealing a word. To paraphrase a common saying, every word you say will become future evidence in court on the family. If you accidentally slip up and say things like cooking smells good or looks good in high tops, you’ll be in for a treat in the future.
3. Addresses and phone numbers of old lovers. Wars are fought when you find the best opponent. If you want to see a great tearing fight between the women you used to love in this century, then you quickly give them your phone number and address.
4. Give old lovers the help they need. Whether you entrust someone to do a job for an old lover or borrow money for an emergency, you should never tell your wife or let anyone else know about it. If she must return the favor you let her remember it well, and you can call her later if something comes up.
5. The specific time and place of the date with the old lover. Men are actually not cunning, women are the hardest to deal with. They say they don’t care, they say they trust you, and God knows how they will do everything they can to monitor your every move. Although you don’t even have any illusions about your old lover, how can you talk to people calmly with an extra pair of watchful eyes around you?
6. The purpose of the old lover’s meeting with you. The best way to give your wife the perfect answer sometimes takes some thought.
Safe getaway method
1. Phone call method; set a time in advance with your wife or co-worker. Wife or colleagues set a time, and then let them call at that time, and do not tire of calling all the time. You can intentionally adjust the distance between the phone and your ear so she can hear it faintly.
2. The hint method; make the most of all the opportunities and set pieces in the dating scene. When you decide to go home, you can get up and hand the neighboring child a piece of candy, and then full of fatherly love to say: for the child I can give everything. Or whisper after a couple is out the door: I’m asleep by this time every day because my wife won’t go to sleep until I do.
3. Move the scourge method; find a man who knows both you and her, arrange a time and place for him to show up unannounced, then you excuse yourself for a bit of urgency and leave first, and then go home and make a phone call saying that you really can’t get away and get together another day. The first to throw the baggage to him, anyway, an irrelevant person off is easy.
4. The unexpected event method; be good at seeing opportunities and making decisions on the spot. If there is really nothing to happen simply create their own. For example, deliberately spill the vegetable soup on yourself while the waiter is serving the food and go home under the name of changing clothes.
5. The official business method; what better excuse than an immediate business trip or going abroad? Unfortunately it can only be used once and it tends to leave an aftermath. Because you are only using it to temporarily avoid some real problems and buy you some time to solve it, unless you never see her, then you have to face it again.