Choose a spouse “evolution”: “rich and handsome white rich and beautiful” sought after

“Nowadays, many girls around me are amazingly similar in their view of choosing a spouse, regardless of their own superior conditions, and they are dead set on the bull’s eye.” The company’s main goal is to provide a more comprehensive and efficient solution to the problem.

The survey showed that 72.1% of people confessed that they are surrounded by young people who are looking for “rich and handsome” and “rich and white” when choosing a spouse.

“Are people’s high demands really the result of ‘reality’?”

The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.

Why do many young people chase after “rich and handsome” and “rich and beautiful” when choosing a spouse? 67.6% of people prefer “due to the social climbing culture”; 64.9% think the reason is the proliferation of materialism. 61.0% think it is because many young people are unrealistic and fall into fantasy; 57.4% think it is the fashion created by idol dramas and advertisements; 36.2% attribute the reason to the pressure of reality, and it is more secure to find a superior other half; another 33.1% choose “a single standard of happiness and success “

Expert Analysis: It is not feasible to compare the selection of a spouse

Hao Yuzhang, an associate professor of sociology at Huazhong University of Science and Technology, pointed out in an interview with China Youth Daily that there is nothing wrong with young people aspiring to an ideal marriage, but some of them do have a problem with the current view of marriage. Compared to the previous generation, young people’s view of marriage is now more materialistic, both in the way of life and values have become more utilitarian. In addition, the current idol drama also influences the values of young people to a certain extent, they are more likely to consider the characters in the idol drama as the standard for choosing a spouse. In today’s society, young people have to work hard to get a happy life by themselves. Relatively speaking, young people hope to be among the rich class through marriage is impractical and more difficult than through their own efforts to achieve their dreams. If the conditions of the two parties in love are too different, the chances of success will be smaller. Even if they succeed, it will bring some hidden problems to the future life. It is best for young people to choose their significant other according to their own conditions. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.

Senior counselor Xiao Xueping believes that some young people are pursuing “rich white women” and “rich high men” because they are in fact caught up in the myth of face and comparison psychology. They feel that the pursuit of such people can improve self-confidence. Some young people do not go into relationships to pursue their own happiness in marriage, sometimes it is more like looking for a partner to meet the perceptions or expectations of people around him. This is a misconception. She was once approached by a lady in her 30s for counseling. The woman was very determined to find a “high-flyer” and later found one, but after six months of dating, she found out that the man was married. “The pursuit of external conditions will ignore the psychological needs and communication, easy to lose themselves.” Xiao Xueping believes that if young people overly pursue the so-called “rich white women”, “rich and handsome”, will exacerbate the problem of leftover men and women in this society, but also let people miss a lot of good marriage, and ultimately affect their own lifelong happiness. In today’s society, young people have to make their own efforts to obtain a happy life. Relatively speaking, it is impractical for young people to hope to be among the rich by marrying, and it is more difficult to realize their dreams than through their own efforts.

In the survey, 32.0% of people think that many young people prefer “rich white men” and “rich high men” when choosing a spouse, which is a fashion created by advertisements and idol dramas. However, more respondents (60.3%) believe that this phenomenon is real, and 98.6% believe that too high a standard for young people to choose a spouse will have a series of negative effects. Specifically, 73.1% are concerned that this will make society more materialistic and utilitarian; 66.5% feel that this will exacerbate the problem of leftover men and women; 66.2% believe that this will intensify the trend of social comparison; in addition, 40.4% believe that it is easy for young people to waste their happiness by choosing their spouses with too high a standard.

He Mingsheng, director of the School of Social Development at East China University of Political Science and Law, pointed out that in today’s society, young people have to make their own efforts to achieve a happy life. It is relatively unrealistic for young people to hope to be among the rich by marrying, and more difficult to achieve their dreams than by their own efforts.

Extended reading: the “evolutionary theory” of choosing a spouse

In April 1950, the Marriage Law of the People’s Republic of China was promulgated in Beijing. The first national law of the new China, it announced the abolition of forced marriage, the implementation of freedom of marriage, the establishment of a new monogamous marriage system, completely overturned the traditional marriage of “parents’ orders, matchmaker’s words”. This time I’ll find my own in-laws. …… “Liu Qiaoer”, which refuses to be arranged and boldly pursues marriage autonomy, sings out people’s aspirations for the new marriage. The new Chinese female model, Liu Qiaoer, also sang out the sisters’ choice of spouse – the model, “to fight for a model couple to establish a family” was the highest marriage ideal of the people.

In the next two decades, faith and class composition were the dominant forces in marriage. The first time I saw the company, I was able to get to the top of the list. The ideal object for choosing a spouse. At the beginning of 1980s, it was already enviable to have “three revolutions and one sound” (bicycle, sewing machine, watch and tape recorder) when getting married, but at the middle and late stage, it was decent to have “three big things” (TV, refrigerator and washing machine). People have the desire to live a good life, and occupation and family status become important factors in choosing a spouse. The “state” does not marry the “collective”, “large collective” does not marry the “second collective”, the city can marry a disabled boy The hierarchical order of rural beauty is rapidly being washed away by the market economy. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the market.

In the 1990s, the term “millionaire” was replaced by “big money”, and career, income, and household registration were all deciding factors in choosing a spouse, with phrases such as “those who can’t settle their household registration are off the table. “and other words nakedly appear on the marriage advertisement. Stepping into the new century, women’s demand for marriage quality is increasing, and the ability of the economy to influence marriage continues to rise. Do you have to have a house and a car to get married? This proposition has been discussed over and over again by countless confused young people. Whether the answer is yes or no, the indisputable fact is that most people are willing to bend over backwards to become “house slaves” for the sake of lifelong events. But compared to the past, now is clearly the most tolerant era. The fact is that the majority of people are willing to give up their lives for the sake of lifelong events.