After a breakup, your phone, your hard drive, your email are full of memories. These are things you once cared about, but they make you sad once you see them, and what do you do if you still want to keep them?
Breakups are really gut-wrenching. I don’t have the courage to spit when I think about the desperation that comes with a breakup, whether you’re a loser, a high roller, or a fat, rich white guy. Simply put, this user guide is: after your breakup, you are surrounded by the traces of love left behind – your cell phone, your hard drive (definitely refers to the hard drive of the movies and TV shows we watched together and listened to the album it …), your email inbox. These are the things you used to care about, and you still do. These things make you sad once you see them, but you still want to keep them. What should you do at this point?
In the highly industrialized country of Rice (which is actually pretty much everywhere), it’s impossible to talk about a pottyu without leaving a ton of digital/internet records behind. The first thing you’ll want to do is to have an instant messaging record with your girl; you’ll have photos of your girl on Facebook and Renren, and maybe both of them are circled; as a literary young man, your SLR is full of your girl; you and your girl just met when you sent each other emails, bean mail; tiktok records; screenshots of Tencent chats; SMS messages. -The first thing you should do is delete them all.
Don’t be embarrassed, everyone wants to do it – you certainly don’t want to stare at your ex’s picture while “licking your wounds in the dark” (which is really sad, but I can’t help but gag). …), you also do not want to read the previous text messages, each other’s little emoji, and then again outline the good image of ex, right. This kind of thing happens when people are more sensitive and vulnerable than usual, and we live in an era of information explosion. To take the analogy of sprinkling salt on the wound, modern salt is much more than the salt of the past era, it is really everywhere, a grab is a handful. It is indeed hard to get through this painful time – but let’s give it a try.
Wait
Wait a month. Maybe even longer. Wait until you can sit calmly at your computer and look at her facebook, tiktok, twitter and not feel bad and not feel the urge to “I’m going to fucking slam my computer” deep down. When a breakup seems like yesterday to you, it can take longer than a century. But during this time, you may be a little brain-dead and hysterical, so don’t make any major bad decisions because of emotional outbursts, like setting your ex’s stuff on fire or something – remember the story of the fragile and broken Ruping who set the curtains on fire while burning photos in her bedroom in “Love is Deep and Rainy”? This is really a bloody lesson learned from the past. And don’t really look at it and drop your computer, I guarantee you on my life, you will really regret it.
Photos
Don’t delete them, really. Otherwise you’ll regret it later. It’s not because there’s still a chance you’ll make up, and then when you do you’ll be glad you didn’t delete them. After a serious breakup usually two people don’t get back together. But these photos don’t just represent a failed love affair, they’re also wonderful moments from your life (#ad…). They are documented and never fade away. These photos are not just “I miss your smile”, “I wish I could see her smile again”, “I can’t take it anymore I’d better go get a drink” – it’s when someone presses the button. –This is when someone presses the shutter, the photo, the past moment of you. Your family’s woof, your apartment, your hair at the time, your wonderful vacations, your job, your old bike – there are so many things that belong to you, no matter who your girlfriend was at the time. In a few years, a decade, two decades, these photos will be your precious memories. Don’t be so reckless and reckless, you’re not as fragile as you think you are.
The right thing to do is: skip them. Take those photos you don’t want to see for a while, save them to a backup system, or find a removable hard drive, paste them all over, and delete them from your computer. You can hide this drive in your sock drawer, put it under your bed, or give it to your friend to keep (remember to keep it secret). In any case, put it somewhere where it won’t draw too much attention to you. But when you’re ready, you’ll look them up again and see your past self. Don’t let a moment of sadness ruin your memories.
Playlists
Delete them. These playlists will only evoke sadness and tarnish songs that you would have loved. Remember, you know full well that you made this playlist for your ex alone in the first place – you cut the audio files yourself and put the songs you both liked in the order you liked them, to make your ex happy, to make her think of you when she’s out, to make her want to have sex with you when she’s around you. The purpose is to make your ex happy, to make her think of you when she’s out, to make her want to have a go with you when you’re around. This string of simple MP3 music can only make you fall into the past memories of pain. So it’s better to delete it. But leave those songs you like behind.
Emails may sound a little old-fashioned, and they’re not as easy as texting. But think about the situations where you could do without texting: long letters to you from abroad, long emails while traveling, emails with attachments, shy emails expressing longing, and breakup letters. Instead of going through them one by one, it’s better to archive them all. Search for all of her/his emails, select them all, and pack them into a separate folder. Remember: these emails are an important part of your life. Long after the breakup, you may not be able to remember some of the details of your past, and these emails can help you when the time comes.
Texting
Texting can only be bad for you, not good. Delete all but the very important, non-ex-related messages that you remember.
Social networks
This is the hashtags, photos you put on Facebook, RenRen, tiktok, etc. These are things that are literally shortcuts to depression for you. Think about it rationally, what percentage of your friends and neighbors, followers, etc. will think you’re an infatuated, wonderful man after seeing a picture of you and your ex together? The new guy, who has a new girlfriend (no surprise you’ll both have one), will see your social network full of memories with your ex and how will he feel?
Whatever those circled photos are, or whatever. Download them, choose the same treatment as the photos, and save them.