Marriage is originally a socially and legally recognized small group that binds two people of the opposite sex together, eating and drinking together, sharing the fruits of their labor, and reproducing together. The most important thing that can be said about marriage is that it is extremely fickle, and so marriage becomes very fragile, and the subtle rules start to come to the fore when there is little that suits you before you get married and much that suits you after.
1, the face grows old
According to such rules, women who marry young can be greatly reduced. When you get married when you are young, you can find a man you like to accompany you in a big way, but nowadays, women have broken this boundary, if the man has money, a car, a house, just no wife, then it will inevitably become the first choice of women.
But men like women also like to be young, especially successful men are more demanding, unfortunately every woman’s youth will age with time, when the charming is gone, replaced by the old yellow face, resulting in a breakup of The woman is the biggest victim of the young and beautiful man who likes you, and will also abandon you because of your bright future.
2, failure to bond
Married couples are like two angular stones. The first time they touch each other will inevitably be chrome, zap, not to say who hurt who, but are not intentional, even after the baptism of love, marriage is difficult to avoid quarrels, with the passage of time, the two people are not in the needle point to wheat, is to adapt to each other, in the chrome place to move position, in the thorny place whisk flat, each other’s mutual humility, slowly smoothing each other’s angles, which The first thing you need to do is to get in touch with each other.
The old man always says that even a big stone can’t crush a crab, which sounds awkward, but it makes sense, because a crab can always find the most suitable position for itself. The only way to get happiness is to have a successful couple, otherwise once two people can’t be as humble as they are in love, they will be incompatible and divorce.
3, self-neglect
The husband is the backbone of a family The man’s status determines the face of human interaction, so in the man’s own efforts at the same time, the woman also silently behind a helper, every woman wants to husband and wife glory, and for this reason exhaustive efforts to promote the husband’s promotion, development, but once the husband after the noble, she began to panic, so constantly torment themselves and their husbands, the purpose is very simple, is afraid that their husbands will be because of their full face
As the saying goes, there are couples who can suffer together but cannot enjoy together. Of course, if the mix is not good, also should be the old saying, the couple is a bird of the same forest, the great disaster each fly. The woman’s neglect of self is a major cause of marital change, and it is important to take care of your own image while helping your husband.
4, the extramarital relationship
Now we often say that the extramarital relationship It is because of the third party’s interference, the third party is the strongest killer of marriage, both men and women after marriage are less this temptation, men look at the wife for a long time will have a sense of disgust, will look for younger colleagues, women look at their husbands for a long time, the same aesthetic fatigue, no longer the handsome man so dashing back then, but the root of the marriage breakup is not those who can see through the external causes at a glance, people to middle age, men The woman loses her natural attractiveness because she is no longer young.
The balance between the two sides of the marriage will almost inevitably be upset as both sides move further and further away from each other’s demands. This time, the intervention of a third party into the undoubtedly breaks the balance of the original family marriage, once the balance is out of balance, divorce is inevitable, so the extramarital is traditionally the great taboo of the military, marriage universal.
5, in-law conflict
Not married before how to hear The woman will not think that the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is bad, after all, it is not yet their turn, wait until you get married, only to know that just conquer the man is not enough, but also to face his entire family, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not fit, is a lot of people mention the problem of shaking their heads and sighing, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is perhaps the world’s most delicate and difficult to deal with the relationship. They love the same man and share the same man’s love. The role of the son is important in dealing with the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Only a level bowl of water that neither disappoints the mother nor leaves the wife with no place to complain can ease the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
When your mother-in-law curses at your daughter-in-law’s faults, your son should try to take responsibility for his wife and ease the atmosphere. If the wife complained, it is appropriate to do more to explain and comfort her, to her on the love of husband and wife, forgive the elderly, so that she eliminated the grievances. The man well buffer work, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict to increasingly better, family harmony is possible, otherwise the woman once the outbreak, preferred divorce.
6, economic disputes
Originally since it has become a couple. The fact is that this is not the case, perhaps men or women and one of their brothers and sisters or relatives and friends a little more, then men and women will use the couple’s money to aid them, which is not wrong, but two people’s money who are not willing to spend with their own irrelevant pain of people, hard-earned money in the end to their own did not enjoy the blessing, but all help The two of them are the same, but they can’t afford to be tossed around. In addition to the common property spending, men and women who once privately save up their own small coffers or without the permission of their spouses, as usual, to give love and service to the public, then the consequences of the discovery is a vicious war, the two sides after the war because of the economic disputes, in your and my surroundings, is not often seen such a final divorce ending?
7, familiar with each other
Love and be loved, both need a The first thing you need to do is to learn how to use your own personal computer.
Lovers, two people can still tolerate each other, understanding and trust, time is the only criterion to test the truth, but also to test the litmus test of a strong marriage, each other’s familiarity will slowly find each other’s shortcomings and shortcomings, such as men do not pay attention to personal hygiene The reason for this is that the woman will not understand her husband’s plight and will have to make a fuss over chicken feathers after work.
8, no sex life
No sex life of the couple is not
No sex life is not perfect, the couple with imperfect sex life is not harmonious, not harmonious couples sooner or later is to produce a marriage change, many people in society nowadays are fully committed to their careers, so that they leave their wives behind and become a veritable sexless couple, men do not think that the rich can let their wives enjoy the wealth of glory, wives should also get happiness and satisfaction from these luxuries that the average person can only dream of.
However, men forget that human beings are superior animals with feelings, and that a rich material life without x-love is still not a perfect marriage.
9, domestic violence
Domestic violence is a social and The violence itself tends to be more biological because it is, after all, a barbaric act, in which the woman has been the victim of violence, hurt, without the tenderness and sweetness of yesteryear when she was in love, and the woman endures it over and over again, hoping to change her husband’s violent tendencies with her own sincerity.
But things didn’t go as planned, instead they got more violent, so they stopped sinking and started to resist, and the reasonable resistance was to force a divorce with the help of the weapons of the law, but anyone who has seen the film “Don’t Talk to Strangers”, which reflects domestic violence, must have a heart for domestic violence. The main character is in love with the heroine, but his suspicious nature makes him turn this selfish love into domestic violence, and finally has to divorce to get rid of the violence.
Summary: Of course, there are many more “subtle rules” of marriage, I just mentioned some of the most common ones, and the subtle rules of marriage are not a derogatory term here, unlike our traditional understanding of entertainment The “subtle rules” of marriage are different from our traditional understanding of entertainment, instead it is about some of the causes and phenomena that lead to divorce in a marriage, and we should thus know and try to do some of the daily norms.