Nowadays, men choose their spouses, whether it’s a “private action” or a “public declaration”, and they are all on top of a thousand conditions: beautiful and pretty. If you casually look through the newspaper marriage announcements, you will find that most of the men’s courtship statement will have “beautiful”, “beautiful”, “clean” and other words, or at least a
The minimum requirement is “good-looking”.
Beauty is always unique and unmatched in the “love market”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
However, this is not the case, at least not for a significant number of beautiful women.
The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
You may wonder: How can that be?
Let’s look at a few examples.
No one is cute
Some people have “defined” “handsome” and “beautiful” as follows. “A handsome man is not necessarily the idol of all women, but a beautiful woman can be the target of all men.”
However, it doesn’t take all men, just some men, to chase after a beautiful woman around them, and that’s enough to make her a bird of prey, to avoid and reject the waves of “love” that come one after another.
Xiaoxue is a beautiful girl, and no adjective can describe her beauty.
When she was in middle school, she was asked for pictures by her male classmates because she was pretty, and invited to go out with them, and even written love letters by some boys she knew well and didn’t know well, including, naturally, some very good ones. On the way to and from school, there are always boys stopping her in the middle of the road, offering to make friends and fall in love with her. For this reason, her father escorts her to school early in the morning, and her teacher has to accompany her home after school, using the greatness of an adult to stop childish indiscretions and defend her 16-year-old flowering season.
To add to her annoyance, there was a very infatuated and persistent boy in her class who vowed in public that he would woo her. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of companies that will be able to meet the needs of their customers. “The first time I saw the film, I was able to see it.
When she went to college, she thought she would have peace and quiet and be free of those childish boys.
I think it’s a good idea to have a good time in a civilized institution of higher learning, where she can study quietly and undisturbed.
But she was wrong. The college years are the peak time for young people to choose a spouse. The first time I saw the company, I was able to get a letter of invitation to go out and talk alone; I had a class meeting, and a whole bunch of guys would come to inform her; she always got the most letters, and they were all marked with “pro “The first time I saw her, I was able to get a letter from a guy who wanted to talk to her before I could read a few words on the stone bench on campus; and when I got back to the dormitory, a guy would come and invite me to the dance and ask me to go to the movies.
Xiao Xue is really physically and mentally exhausted and overburdened.
The first time I saw a man, I thought he was going to be a good friend.
Xiao Xue felt that she was born with her beauty and had nothing to be proud of. She felt that if a man really loved himself, he should love his talent and character. Unfortunately, almost all the boys who tried to approach her did not mention her talent and character, and some even said, “You’re such a floating shell, you don’t need to study well at all.” So she never had a good impression of these guys who tried to be good with her.
When she graduated from college and went to work, she was still bombarded with love. And she was very disgusted by those who were fiercely attentive. Although she did try to get involved with a few of them, she immediately noticed their shallowness and inability to communicate deeply.
She became more and more heartbroken. Many people introduced her to people, but she shook her head, saying she was afraid to enter a “walled city. “The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product that will be available in the market. This in turn made her feel that she was not wrong about their faces. All men who try to approach her immediately cause her to be wary, and she can’t establish normal communication and communication with men anymore, which means she can’t go on to discover men worthy of her heart’s love, and so she closes the door to her love forever.
Beauty makes her a constant target for men to pursue, and she has to be constantly passive to deal with the chase of the world around her. This consumes her time and consumes her mind, depressing the wistful heart of a young girl and depriving her of the opportunity to make active choices. “The girls who are best suited for love often end up being the most indifferent to it.” Is this a universal tragedy for beautiful women?
Marcella, the shepherdess in Don Giovanni, has a stunning beauty, but she would rather be with the mountains and forgo falling in love. One day, an infatuated poet committed suicide because he could not get her love, so all people blamed her for being hard-hearted. Marcella appeared at the funeral service, and this is how she justified herself: “Beauty is not of my own choosing. Does one who is born with beauty, after being loved by others, have to return the same love? If I love you for your beauty, and I am ugly, and you must love me, this sounds strange. Even if both parties are equally beautiful, it cannot be said that they have the same aspirations for each other. Besides, beauty sometimes only pleases the eye, but does not inspire love.”
From the life experiences of Xiaoxue and Marcella, one gets a sense that it is pitiful to be unloved, but even more pathetic to have no one to love.