Is your busy life affecting your sexual relationship with your partner? Who is taking away your desire?
Is your busy life affecting your sexual relationship with your partner?
Do you feel like you are spending less and less time together, cuddling less and less, and as a result, feeling detached from each other?
Dr. Stephanie Moore, cardiologist at Massachusetts General Hospital and medical director of GalTime Magazine, joins nationally renowned fitness and nutrition expert JJVirgin to help you get your desire back.
Major libido killers
1. Exhaustion
Quality lovemaking requires that we get a regular 7 to 9 hours of quality sleep each night, because lack of sleep causes us to have no energy for bedtime activities.
So we need to make good sleep a priority so that we have energy for romantic activities.
2. Tobacco and alcohol
Quit smoking and control alcohol consumption
“Regular alcohol consumption can lead to a decreased sex drive, often adding to stress or frustration in your life,” warns Dr. Moore.” These negative effects do nothing to improve the quality of your sex life.”
Smoking is also an important factor in low libido.
“Smoking can affect blood flow in the blood vessels, and that directly affects the quality of sex,” said JJ. “Good blood flow and a healthy blood pressure profile are critical.”
3. Stress
Stress currently ranks first among all libido killers.
How can you possibly focus on anything else if you have worries, big and small, bouncing around in your head?
“Stress affects hormonal production. When we’re stressed, levels of important substances like testosterone and estrogen are lowered,” says JJVirgin.
The most important thing is to find ways to release stress whenever you can, try yoga, a sauna, music, or a hot bath (maybe a lovebirds bath).
4. Endless arguments
Eliminate the rift.
Even small and insignificant things in both genders can seem as big as mountains.
Also, Dr. Moore says communication is most critical, and these small incidents can create disagreements and failures in intimacy.
For women, the gender relationship that produces intimacy is spiritual, and there is no intimacy without the feeling of heart touching.
5. No time or no time alone together
Scheduling sex sounds very odd, but it does help many couples in the JJ experience. You can’t enhance your sex drive if you don’t schedule time for it, and that’s the bottom line.
Lovemaking is usually disconnected from life; we often go out, make dinner, lie in bed, feel tired, and fall asleep.
Dr. Moore says this problem is most pronounced among many couples who have children. The amount of time and energy you spend on your kids can be exhausting.
With a child in the middle, it can definitely affect sexual behavior. In the mind of a parent, who always doesn’t want the door to be suddenly opened while they are having intercourse, the solution is to do it at night and never give up the night!
6. Lack of confidence
It’s really hard to love someone else if you don’t see yourself and love yourself. Sex without true love often leaves people feeling ’empty’.
JJ says that whether you need to lose weight or not, going to the gym has a lot of benefits.
Strong stamina, good endurance, and a good look, and a good mood. That’s sexy in itself.
If your partner has body image issues, you should learn to understand.
Sometimes communication is more helpful because “sex starts with the head and the heart,” and then comes physical contact.
7. Health conditions and medications
Erectile dysfunction is very common, as is the fact that partners are getting older and their physical and mental health is declining. It is recommended to maintain a healthy lifestyle, with medication if necessary, and also the understanding and support of your partner.
For women, menopause means a decline in estrogen, testosterone and growth hormone.
This affects sexual function in many ways, even if one holds an excited and thrilled mind, but also shows an inability to respond due to decreased libido and vaginal dryness. It is important to ask your doctor for advice on ways to prevent these symptoms.
High blood pressure, diabetes, thyroid disorders, and high cholesterol can also affect a woman’s sexual desire. This condition can also affect blood flow, hormones, and nerve signals, among other things.
Depression can affect all aspects of life, including sex. If you are sad, empty, or tired and it takes a long time to settle down, it is time for you to seek professional consultation with your doctor.
Some medications can also decrease sex drive, such as some antidepressants and medications for high blood pressure. Talk to your doctor about any health conditions and medications that affect your sex life.
Remember: Practice makes perfect
“Do everything you can to defend your sexual relationship, and don’t give up at any time. It is the strongest relationship you can have with another person you cherish,” says Dr. Moore, “and choose happy, healthy, fun sex.”
But remember, it has to be a commitment that you and your partner develop and work on together.
As JJ says, “Remember, nothing can change dramatically overnight. So practice, practice, and practice again!”