Happy lives don’t need to be deliberately grasped. Peter Salovey, dean of Yale University and founder of emotional intelligence theory, tells you that there are three elements of family happiness that are rare.
Keep some distance. Family members, especially couples, should not take it for granted that everything has to be done together. It is possible to create some artificial distance in space, as appropriate. For example, use weekends and short vacations to “go home” and spend time with your friends and family, or take advantage of group activities to travel separately. Even within the family, you can also create space, such as doing something you like in the evening, etc.. In terms of psychological distance, on the one hand, don’t always nag about yourself or get to the bottom of things your family doesn’t want to talk about; on the other hand, have clear tiktok outside the family.
Find common ground. Common views, interests, etc., resonate easily. These commonalities can be activities like singing, exercise, etc., or opinions, comments, etc.
Get to know each other well. Trying to get to know others starts with respect, including respect for their habits, personal privacy they wish to keep, etc. Only then will others spill their hearts. Second, share your mood with your family in a timely manner, and communicate in sharing.