When men and women are making out, verbal communication can bring intimacy and help stimulate sexual desire. Especially some of the love words that you would normally be too shy to say can make sex passionate and make the sexual experience even better. However, it is not an easy task to speak well, too vulgar will be offensive to the partner, too subtle and the other party will not be able to understand. Recently, two well-known American sexologists told you some of the right ways to talk about love.
1. Go step-by-step, from “vegetarian” to “meat”. The partner can not come up and say very revealing words of love. The experts say that when making out, you can start with a small, short sound, such as a gasp when kissing, or a simple “yes”, “I like”. Then slowly say something a little “meat” according to the progress of your sex. Of course, don’t spend the whole night talking dirty, but normal praise and affirmation is necessary.
2. Be straightforward and avoid organ names. When referring to the intimate parts of the other person’s body, a clear and concise statement works best, such as “I want you to enter me.” It is important to note that it is best not to use very formal organ names, such as penis, testicles, uterus, etc., because overly specialized terms can make people think of medical treatments, which can quench the fire of desire. If you want to have more fun, you can come up with a nickname for each other’s body organs that only two people know.
3. Lower the tone of your voice. Whatever you say in love, be sure to make the tone of your voice lower, softer, and huskier than normal. Research confirms that men are more likely to be attracted to such vocal tones in their female partners.
4. Give clear instructions. Instructions are easy to understand and can enhance each other’s sexual skills. For example, when men and women are making out, try the following directives: caress me here, kiss me there, take off your clothes, close your eyes, turn around, put your hands here, etc.
5. Ask appropriate questions. Another way to talk about love is to ask questions, such as “How does that feel?” “What do you want me to do next?” “What would move you?”
6. Praise your partner. Everyone likes to be praised, and since you are attracted to your bed partner, you might as well praise each other more often. You can compliment each other’s bodies, praise each other’s attractive looks, alluring body odor and unique voice, etc. You can also give a nod to the good feelings you have together.
7. Say what you really mean. Be sure to say what you really mean, and not say something false just to show your poise. The body speaks the truth, and if what you say doesn’t match what your body expresses, then your partner will realize you’re lying.
8. The more specific the compliment, the better. A specific compliment will look like you mean it. For example, instead of saying “You’re beautiful” in a general way, say “You have beautiful eyes.”