The harmony of a marriage is in the daily lubrication, do not ignore the seemingly small things, and do not take for granted what your lover does for you. Marriage, it is so bad to grasp? The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are getting into.
1. Learn to express gratitude
Don’t think you can let go when you get married. Stepping into marriage only shows that you have a longer, harder road to travel in life. After marriage, do you still express gratitude to your husband in the face of the big and small things he does for you? Don’t take it for granted! Men really like to get emotional feedback from the woman they love after they give.
2. Treat his family like your own
In China, in-laws are the “stumbling block” in almost every marriage, but are there really that many bossy, unreasonable mothers-in-law in the world? The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to take care of themselves, but you can’t call yourself a smart woman if you only blame others for everything. First of all, please learn to treat his family as you would your own, and your husband would like to see a good wife who is reasonable and understanding.
3. Have an independent social circle
After marriage, do you drag your husband to girlfriends’ parties? Especially if the other party goes to the date alone? If you don’t want to lose a friendship, I advise you to come to your senses sooner rather than later! You don’t have to share a tiktok, a single party with your best sister not only allows for more open and interesting conversation between you, but also gives you the opportunity to step out of the role of wife for a while and enjoy a nice afternoon of relaxation and pure enjoyment.
4. Argue about things
Many women have a problem: rehashing old scores. This is especially true when it comes to arguing with your partner. It’s not uncommon to have arguments and conflicts in a marriage, but hopefully you’ll be able to face it on its own merits and not let those old stories, or grievances you’ve built up in the past, be the trigger for an argument.
5. Give him enough face in front of outsiders
When you were talking about your husband’s embarrassing story in front of him or your friends with an excited face, did you notice his embarrassed expression on the side? This kind of damage is often invisible, but the killing power is extremely huge.
6. Control your emotions
No man will like a woman who is good at picking holes, nagging, and triggering negative emotions at any time. When you want to vent your frustration at him for some trivial things, please control your emotions first and express your views in other ways in a gentle manner.
7. Make surprises
No one doesn’t like surprises, and in a marriage, surprises are another expression of romance. After all, for most people, life is always the same, and it’s time to make it fun with surprises!
In fact, two people can’t become one person even if they are in love. Everyone has their own mind, and if you want to be happy and permanent, don’t try to transform each other, don’t try to turn each other into another you. This is foolish and will hurt each other’s self-esteem, causing each other’s resentment and rebelliousness. Even if the excuse is to love him or even for her good. Really love a person will do for that to change, and be asked to change, is uncomfortable and difficult to achieve. Do the above 7 points, I believe your marriage is not too far from happiness.