A man’s pursuit of ambiguity is like a woman’s pursuit of fashion, mostly for a moment of freshness and pleasure. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
1. The female boss praised him
Simply put, just because his performance was better, that high single beautiful female boss gave him a praise, smile, encouragement.
The gray area: he’s wondering if she’s interested in me?
You can think he’s being self-involved, but men often think it’s called male verve. He’s so confident in himself that he may float around in bed late at night thinking that that female boss is lonely and needs to be soothed by him.
Why is it easy for him to be sexually ambiguous with a single female boss? This has to do with the deep-seated “head of the family” complex in men, just as many women have a deep-seated dependency on big money.
This is not only because of the “head of the face”, but it also means: firstly, he is handsome and has sexual value; secondly, other men work hard for a lifetime, and he can get wealth through a shortcut – why not do that?
Sexual fantasies about a single female boss, which the Global Durex Sex Survey reports is basically the top sexual fantasy content for men.
2. Road trip fantasies
The crowd was crowded, and she was right in front of him, with the faint smell of perfume, her white backside, and the hidden cleavage under her thin summer shirt.
The gray area: did she not mean it? But it seemed to him that maybe she just meant to be next to herself.
The Beijing subway is said to be the worst area for “salty hands” and most women have been harassed in the subway. It is not known if there are any women harassing men in the subway, but it is true that the close contact in the subway is a time for men to get excited.
He knows he is not to be rash, but the less rash he is, the more likely he is to start making associations. Maybe it’s a fling, maybe it’s a love affair that came out of nowhere.
While the woman is looking for romance all over the world, the man is also looking for his fantasy romance.
While the woman is looking for romance in the world, the man is also looking for his fantasy romance. Although the train is at the end of its journey, it doesn’t stop him from taking this ambiguous fantasy as his vitamin on his way to work during the long boring journey.
3. With a buddy’s girlfriend
As the saying goes, a friend’s wife is not a friend’s wife. But don’t forget the other saying that other people’s wives are always the best.
The gray area: what makes him able to find such a beautiful woman?
If you can’t get it, you can masturbate to it, or just find a way to take it over.
She was his buddy’s girlfriend, and one day his buddy was away and entrusted him to take care of her. Most of the times when something goes wrong, it’s during this time, and when the buddy comes back, maybe the mountains have changed. The first time I saw her, I thought she was a good friend, convinced that “a friend’s wife can’t be bullied”.
But the more he drew the line, the more likely he was to think about it. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The more he thought about it, the more he longed to replace it.
And as for taboos, a man seems like an adolescent rebellious child, eager to offend and trample – because he has a thrill of offense. The fantasy has something to do with buddy girlfriends, and also with the male sense of competition. Never believe that buddy friendships are unbreakable. History is not short of stories of ironclad allies turning against each other for beauty.
4. He and his soulmate
A rainy night, in a bar, pouring their hearts out for a long talk. He was hurt, maybe emotionally, maybe professionally. She was supposed to be just his best friend, like a confidante, but after the talk, she went home, and his heart was not at peace.
The gray area: she was so understanding, he was like a child who had to have her for himself.
How many deep friendships between men and women can stop at love and be in line with propriety? If it does, it must be a true state of affairs. A friend of mine told me that one night he had a heart-to-heart talk with one of his confidantes, and in the middle of the night they each went to bed. He left the door unlatched and had a sleepless night, imagining all the time that his confidante might push the door in.
He wondered if she was as apathetic as he was. Such fantasies tormented him, and as a result, he had a sleepless night that night, and the next day his black eyes were shocked by his chesty girlfriend who asked what was wrong. He had to answer with a bitter smile. For some time, the media has been speculating about the so-called “fourth type of emotion”, an ambiguous relationship between men and women, and it is often the men who find themselves offside in the end. When he shares his heart with you, he must often want to share your physical sensations.
5. The woman wandering the streets at night
You’re wandering the streets alone like a lonely ghost, maybe you’ve had a fight with your boyfriend, maybe you’re depressed at work and just want to blow off steam.
The gray area: the single woman with no man around, who of course thinks it’s okay to hit on her and even give her a kiss.
In his mind, this seems to offer an opportunity to take advantage of the situation.
The fact is that the man’s heart is in the heart of many men. The reason for this interest in you wandering the streets in the middle of the night is that you make him feel alone and in need of comfort in the first place.
The man is chivalrous – it may actually be sexual desire, but he thinks he is doing a good deed. The second is the wandering girl he meets in the middle of the night, even if it’s a one-night stand, but irresponsible and unattached – the fast-paced modern life has made him too tired to have any emotional entanglements, and such a dewy love affair fits his psychology.
So why is it that when a lone woman comes home in the middle of the night, there are often bold men whistling at her, and timid men have to make associations, because many men feel that this is an easy time to be ambiguous.
6. The boss’s female secretary
The company’s ANN replaced the highly vocal Jian Li as assistant general manager. In the eyes of the outside world, this was a fairly normal personnel change, but rumors gradually spread around the office that ANN was promoted because she had that kind of relationship with the general manager.
The gray area: If she can have a secret relationship with another man, can she also have a relationship with herself?
It turns out that this rumor was all revealed to Jian Li, intentionally or unintentionally, through a lunch break with his colleagues over coffee. Jian Li was originally interested in ANN, but ANN politely rejected him, which made him feel hurt. In some men’s minds, their inner machismo makes them always look down on women who are talented.
Especially when women actually become their bosses one day and boss them around, it makes their male ego even more unbearable.
They think for sure that if a woman is promoted, she must have some kind of ambiguous deal with her boss to achieve her goal.
This is somewhat of a jealousy of not being able to eat the grapes, but also a sense of masturbation. All female secretaries and bosses in fact have inappropriate relationships – a truth that the men’s world firmly believes. Perhaps such gossip will not bring about an improvement in his environment in the workplace, but he hopes to balance his wounded male ego in this way – I didn’t get promoted, it’s not that I’m incompetent, it’s that I didn’t have the opportunity to have that kind of ambiguous deal with my boss.
7. Nurse in white uniform
He was sick, the ambulance came whistling, a beautiful angel-like nurse came down from the sky with a medicine cabinet, he enjoyed her warm care, she shushed him, and the warmth of the world seemed to be gathered in one place.
The gray area: The Heidi Sexology Report – Men’s Volume mentions that for most men, hospital nurses are easy targets for ambiguity.
A novel by a famous author mentions the episode of a man who, because of an illness, enjoyed the careful care of a nurse. She was professional, but he was tempted to get involved and always felt that the nurse was particularly interested in him. From then on, he was looking forward to being sick soon so that he could have the opportunity to get close to that beautiful nurse.
Why is he prone to be ambivalent about nurses? One is that the more vulnerable a man is, the more he needs sex and comfort. Two, because the nurse takes care of him, which is her professional need, but he is prone to be self-absorbed. Moreover, nurses tend to be gentle and considerate, with the potential of a good wife and mother.