We are happy to share our thoughts and act as so-called “relationship experts” for those who come to us for marriage or relationship advice. We say things like “to lock a man’s heart you must first lock their stomach” or “impulse is the devil” and so on and so forth. But we don’t think about the fact that while we’re acting as angels, we’re also inadvertently giving bad advice. Here are 6 pieces of bad emotional advice.
No. 1, “You can still get divorced if you can’t.”
Generally speaking, I’m afraid it’s not appropriate to say to a friend, “Don’t worry, divorce is not out of the question. You may think you are standing up for your friend, but conflicts between couples are often short-lived, and when the problem is solved and the two of you are as good as ever, how can you face the advice you once gave?
No. 2, “Keep an eye on the women around you.”
Don’t give your friend advice like, “Keep an eye on your female friends around you so your husband doesn’t get snatched up.” You should help your friend with good advice that will enhance their relationship as a couple, rather than giving them negative energy. If your friend can have an intimate partnership, then external temptations won’t be a threat at all.
No. 3, “Don’t marry a woman who makes more money than you.”
The idea that a man has to be the breadwinner of the family to keep it running is no longer appropriate in today’s society. Both spouses find their own comfortable place in life based on their characteristics and abilities so that they can better sustain a marriage.
The fourth one, “For a marriage to be happy, it is important that the wife is a virgin.”
Virginity absolutes are not quite in line with the marriage values of today’s society. In contrast, having the right sexual values and a harmonious sex life are the cornerstones of a strong marriage.
No. 5, “Look to Japanese women and send slippers with tea and water when your husband walks in the door.”
While it is a woman’s duty in marriage to raise her children, the details of how to “serve” her husband and raise her children are The details of how to “serve” your husband and raise your children are different from person to person. Sometimes the problems of each family can’t be solved by popular methods.
No. 6, “Chill him out for a few days and don’t talk to him.”
Marriage needs to communicate, to be honest with each other and to compromise with each other when problems arise. “The road to happiness will not be easy, and if you encourage your best friend to have a “cold war” in your marriage, that’s the worst emotional advice you can get.