May this article help to re-establish a proper understanding for all couples who have gone into misconceptions, and may all couples benefit from the communication.
Mistake #1: Now that we are married and a family, we don’t need to be careful about what we say.
When they are in a relationship, they are very careful about how their words arrive, both audible and silent, tangible and intangible, and they are always “thinking about speaking”, afraid that their words will be inappropriate and unpleasant for the other person. “Thinking about speaking” is how the other party is pleasant, how they speak. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.
But after they get married, they think they’re done, they’re relieved, and they no longer speak with art and skill, but become indulgent and uninhibited. For example, when in love, they said: “Honey, please close the door, okay?” But when they get married, they say, “Hey, close the door!” It’s particularly “terse,” not wanting to say one more word, and with an unpleasant tone.
In this way, the sweetness of love gives way to the stimulation of unpleasant messages, and family conflicts and marital rifts arise. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
A large number of facts show that the lack of attention to the art of verbal communication after marriage and the failure to create forms of verbal communication is one of the most important reasons for misunderstandings, conflicts, and even antipathy among most family members.
Misconception No. 2: Marriage is about two people spending time together, there is nothing to communicate, and talking more is a waste of time.
They think that when they get married, their relationship is already strong and they don’t need to spend too much time talking about love and exchanging ideas.
In fact, the relationship between couples is not fixed, but changes frequently. The reason is that any emotion is a product of time and specific conditions, there is no eternal and unchanging emotion, the only way to keep the tree of love evergreen is to constantly create new content and new forms of emotional life between husband and wife. Love exists in the non-stop creative activity of both parties. With creation, there will be love, without creation, love will wither and die. Language communication is an important content and form of creation.
Without communication, there is no understanding between husband and wife, and without understanding, there is no consensus, and it is difficult to have mutual loyalty and support, so the so-called “sea is dry and stone is rotten, and the sky is long” is difficult to achieve. Back home to talk less or do not talk, the couple is to eat together, sleep, so the life of the couple, how will have high quality? The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are doing.
Myth #3: The verbal communication between couples is limited to talking about family matters, not about the unit.
They think that communication between couples should be about the couple, about the family, and not about anything outside the family. They feel that talking to each other about their own unit is unnecessary and might get them into trouble. The other party does not work in their own unit, and therefore do not know the situation in their own unit, it is not easy to tell each other a thing, or not to say it is better. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
This view seems to make sense, but a closer analysis reveals that this is not right. We love someone for their personality, intelligence, talents, etc. How can we have a comprehensive love without a comprehensive understanding?
Talk to each other about the affairs of the unit, talk about your own views on these matters, and exchange your work experience, which is in itself a kind of learning, a discussion, and an improvement. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. This is the embodiment of mutual support and trust between husband and wife.
Myth #4: There is nothing to worry about between husband and wife, everything can be talked about, and the more the better.
It is reasonable to say that there is nothing to be afraid of between husband and wife, and that they should be able to talk about everything. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
But, if that’s the case, it’s not. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
One is not to harp on it endlessly, repeating it over and over again, from morning to night. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The endless nagging is a noise disturbance to the other party, destroying the other party’s living environment and psychological peace. The other party ignores you, you will be upset and affect your mood; the other party pays attention to you, it is really a waste of time, day after day, it will naturally get annoying.
Second, don’t say too many irritating things. Even if the other party has some faults, don’t dwell on them and talk about them endlessly. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.
Three, do not feel free to reveal each other’s privacy, do not deliberately touch each other’s sore spots, everyone has their own weaknesses, and all have their own dignity. The first is to understand and respect each other, so that love can last.
Fourth, do not be suspicious and do not speak without basis. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing. These words have little basis, will make the other party feel wronged and angry. The reason for this is that a good part of the conflict between husband and wife Since they are a couple, why can’t they have more trust and less suspicion?
Fifth, don’t make wishes and boasts. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.
Sixth, don’t speak foul language and don’t make fun of the other person’s character.