Two 2 get along for a long time, there are always some quarrels, there are many couples is in these quarrels break up, but it is not easy to start a relationship, there are conflicts should be resolved in a timely manner, so how to salvage feelings after a couple of conflicts? The following editorial gives you tips.
The process of salvaging is also a test of one’s patience and perseverance, because salvaging often begins with touching nails. In fact, at the beginning of the recovery, there is no big improvement this is very normal phenomenon, because he (she) on your denial of psychology has not been diluted. It’s normal for him or her to ignore you, and it’s normal for him or her to be cold to you. But the situation is not made worse by this.
I. To win back love, there is a response
At first, to win back. The normal means is to go on the offensive. What happens after a period of proactive offense and you realize it’s not working?
You can try to be passive, disappear from the other person’s sight, and try to see if they will reach out to you. Whether it’s a phone call or a text message, don’t take the initiative again. Because you’ve been active, he or she thinks you’ve been around. So he (she) does not feel that he (she) actually still love you. If you are passive and he/she still ignores you, then you have two choices:
1. There are still things about yourself that the other person can’t accept, so stop being proactive for a while and strengthen yourself by fixing those flaws first.
2. Return to the initiative immediately and try again. When you take the initiative again, he or she pays attention to you and responds to you, then it means there is an effect appearing. Suppose he takes the initiative on you because of your disappearance, then you have two options again: one is, to start taking the initiative to contact him (her) again. The other option is to continue to be aloof, to treat him or her as if he or she were indifferent, to whet his or her appetite.
Two, look at your mistakes and understand the other person’s needs
Relationships are for two people, and both parties have some responsibility for causing the breakup. But since the choice to salvage, then we must first examine the mistakes on their own. Re-examine your relationship experience, whether you did your duty as a lover while getting along, whether there are flaws in you that the other party can’t accept …… you have to reacquaint yourself and start changing yourself. Appearance, personality, attitude towards people, etc., start changing immediately.
Three, give her/him space and time
Even if you’re trying to get back, you can’t just stalk her all day long, you have to give her space and time to think about your time together, and of course, you have to do everything you can to guide her to think about the happy times you had.
Four, face him/her openly and express yourself naturally
The most common question you ask in the recovery process is “What should I do?” This is because you are afraid of doing the wrong thing and taking the wrong step again. You will be nervous to see him/her and your heart will race. Even if you have memorized your prepared lines dozens of times, you will become incoherent when facing him/her 。。。。 Note that you have been completely bound by this fear of psychology, which can not help your recovery at all. You need to get rid of this psychological bondage as soon as possible and face him/her openly.