I’m Yo Yo. For the first 29 years of my life, relationships have been the second line of defense in my life. Although not completely blank, they were basically intermittent temptations. After a long empty window, I didn’t even think relationships were important to me. However, whenever I catch up with a drama, I get envious when I see the sweet love of the protagonist. My teenage heart, bland and uninteresting, often sprouts just because I knock the cp sweet enough.
Earlier this year, because of two N95s, I fell in love with my boyfriend Xiaoguang. Everyone else is very enthusiastic and willing to share. Although they are 2 years younger than me, they are not childish at all. I think it’s a sweet sister-in-law relationship, but they are not that exciting when they get together, but very tiring.
When we were together, many of his habits were different from mine. When we eat together, he watches TV and doesn’t interact with me.
After eating, he started to do his own thing, and it felt like there was no communication between the two people together.
But isn’t there supposed to be a lot of “interaction” in a relationship? He seemed very cold. He doesn’t seem like he’s just in a relationship at all. Instead, he seemed like an older couple.
I really wasn’t happy with the way we were getting along, so I said, “Since we have different habits and ideas, let’s break up!”
The first few times he tried to cajole me, nothing started, and I broke up again. I actually just wanted to be angry, but this time he really agreed and didn’t contact me again for days.
I realize he’s really mad at me and realize he really can’t keep talking about the breakup, but on tiktok he keeps ignoring me and answering the phone cold. Are we really not together?
I don’t know why it has come to this. I’m also reflecting on whether I did something wrong. Xiao Guang is very nice to me, but he is very slow and passionate. I don’t want to break up with him. I even thought of marrying him before. I don’t know what to do, and no one told me.
Fortunately, when I was listening to the radio, I found the Love Growth Association. I just wanted an assistant counselor to spill my guts. By talking to Sweet, my boredom was relieved. And her dedication made me look forward to a counselor teacher, so I signed up.
Cognition and reflection are the “love bible”
After understanding Yu Yu’s difficulties and needs, Tian Tian Tian’s assistant recommended the “one-hour targeted analysis” service of Sunrise Teacher of Warm Heart for her, and spent one hour to let Yu Yu understand her problems and the direction of compounding.
Sunrise’s assistant recommended Sunrise’s “One Hour Targeted Analysis” service.
Sunrise pointed out two problems: the lack of relationship experience and the misalignment of relationship thinking.
Lack of relationship experience leads to having you. In fact, all the “love bibles” are seen in idol dramas. She thinks the sweetness of sibling love is like “and Ho.
But in real life, throwing out those movie and TV treatments means two people with different personalities and habits coming together, trudging along, slowly grinding together, and eventually being able to make a positive outcome.
Relationship thinking is misaligned, in fact, couples have this problem, two people with different emotional thinking and different habits of getting along, resulting in both parties not being able to understand each other in doing many things.
YoYo’s boyfriend tends to have his own life and habits, while YoYo believes that interaction between two people is essential. When we are together, we must always have “contact”.
Also, YoYo’s breakup to get the other person to compromise and change is actually a “threat”.
In the eyes of guys, the subtext is “if you don’t listen to my instructions, we’ll break up”, which is both a form of bondage and oppression for guys.
A man can’t resist such a fairy
Mr. Xi told you: the breakup of a relationship is always a process from quantitative to qualitative change, and you can’t rush to repair your feelings.
In a long-term intimate relationship, it is normal to encounter problems, but it is not normal to have no problems. The key is how we face and deal with the problems.
Step 1: Don’t dig deep into the details, get to the point and be an emotionally stable fairy
Emotional stability in psychology refers to a person’s ability to maintain emotional stability in response to stressful situations.
And only good emotional stability is the fundamental source of security between ourselves and each other.
We should learn to relax, which not only allows us to relax, but also allows each other to relax.
If you call him back after the breakup, he will feel more pressured and make him more sure that the breakup is the right choice.
It is important to remember that the only way a relationship can become stable is if you are emotionally stable and the aura you are conveying is calm.
Step 2: Communicate openly and be a mature woman
Open communication builds a channel of understanding.
Be quiet and think carefully about your problems and how to get along in the future, and look at each other’s previous concessions and difficulties so that you can sink your teeth into a deeper conversation with him.
Let him know you understand him, don’t force him, and don’t make him what you want him to be, let him “breathe” and feel warm in this relationship.
Many girls feel that only their boyfriend’s unconditional concessions are a sign of their love for them and the basis for maintaining their relationship.
In fact, what men want is a partner who can be accommodating and understanding.
So a little bit of maturity on your part at the critical moment is the greatest support for the relationship.
Step 3: Identify the “fake breakup” and learn to show weakness
Survey shows that 80% of breakups are fake breakups, and most of them are because the other party thinks that the mode of getting along with each other is unacceptable, so they take the form of breakup to “strongly reconcile”.
Compounding a “fake breakup” requires some skill.
A lot of girls misjudge the fake breakup, which leads to miss the golden era of compounding, and finally the water to the bridge is naturally straight.
During the breakup, the boys did not hack the tiktok and cell phones of their friends. Although they are cold, they will answer the phone.
So this is the time to learn to subtly show weakness and make each other feel that we will continue to give enthusiastically and freely in the relationship and will not force any commitment from each other.
It is important to know that in all relationships, the absence of calm and the absence of control is the most comfortable way to be together.
In fact, if a man is willing to face problems and prove that he still loves you in some way, then everything still has a chance.
After talking with Ms. Xi for an hour, Yoyo understood her problems, how to get along with her boyfriend, and found her way back together.
Soon after, Yoyo told Xi that he had resumed contact with the boys and chatted and talked every day. The boys also said that Yoyo seemed to be a different person.
After that, Yoyo wanted to “warm up” his relationship with his boyfriend and contacted Xi.
Sunrise teachers customized the “30-day Goddess Program” for YoYo based on her personal and emotional situation to improve YoYo’s temperament, personality, and mindset.
Recently, Yau Yau said that two people feel more comfortable together than before, and the boy said Yau Yau wanted to make up, but Yau Yau remembered the words of Mr. Sunrise, “Show your unavailability and let him take the initiative to come and pursue”.
Now Yu Yu is not the little girl in the idol drama, but a proper “variety goddess”!
In fact, every girl is a surprise and can only be met once in a lifetime.
Every girl is a surprise that can only be met once in a lifetime. Knowing yourself is a lifelong lesson, a lesson in finding surprises.
What our consultants do is to lead you to sit at the table and open your own “treasure door”.
Counselor’s Assistant Summary:
You have improved your “relationship thinking”, distinguished “fake breakups”, understood your boyfriend’s real thoughts, and had a sweeter relationship experience than before.
So girls must have a clear “relationship mindset” in order to win relationships.