Love is a tug of war, marriage is a compromise, and sex is a conquest. The reason why men and women get married and divorced, the issues on the table are not the real issues, the real issues are always hidden from the conversation because they are things that cannot be confessed. Divorce is certainly not a good thing, but instead of living in a failed marriage, it is better to break free from the cage of marriage, but also each other’s freedom, so in a sense, so divorce is not necessarily a bad thing. If you’re thinking about divorce, think about these three questions.
Why are you getting divorced?
Marriage is not child’s play, and divorce needs to be justified more than anything else. Sometimes it’s because you didn’t take the time to think it through, but just acted on a hunch, and often regretted it afterwards because of the lack of thought. What are your reasons for divorce? The couple’s feelings are light and tired, the couple’s personality does not match, the affair of a third party, one or both of them have unbearable bad habits or violent tendencies, the affection with family members and relatives is not compatible, sexual life problems, fertility problems, children’s education problems, or economic problems, etc. These may be your reasons for divorce. Then you must think specifically, not just based on feelings, not without reason, without reason only means that you do not think. No matter what reason you want to divorce or propose divorce, you must come up with very good reasons, so that at least later you will not regret the choice you have made. Perhaps after you have really thought through the reasons for divorce, you may feel that they are not reasons and you may give up on the idea of divorce.
What innocence is involved in divorce?
One thing to think through before marriage, especially for those with children, is who will raise the children after the divorce. In addition, divorce will have an impact on the children in one way or another. You need to understand the impact on the physical and mental health of your children after a divorce. Divorce will prevent the child from growing up in a sound family, and the child may realize that he or she is different from other children and may be teased and ridiculed by other children of the same age. Marriage is primarily a two-person affair, but there are many people involved, both families as well as children, and we all live surrounded by family and friendships, and divorce is such an important life event that we certainly can’t just take into account ourselves, but also the people around us.
Is it better after divorce?
This is an issue that many people tend to overlook, or don’t want to think about. After divorce, it doesn’t mean the complete end of emotional life. It’s just that the emotional road for divorced women isn’t necessarily smooth, for which women should think clearly before divorce. The emotional life after the divorce may not be smooth, you may not dare to take the initiative to pursue even if you meet the object of your choice. Divorce is not for divorce and divorce, you give up an old thing, of course, want to get a new thing to replace it, but can the truth really be so? When someone takes the initiative to pursue you, you may have all sorts of concerns and fears that people will look at you through tinted glasses. So think clearly before you divorce, your personal emotional problems may not be settled for a while after the divorce, and you will not get effective relief, you need time to settle down slowly.