While every woman wants to be able to hold hands with her partner for the rest of her life the moment she puts on the wedding dress, the reality is that many marriages do not end as we would like. The most important thing is to have a happy marriage. The most important thing to know about this is that it’s not just a matter of how long you’ve been married.
1. Say “I love you” every day
When married for a long time, many people will be stingy in saying “I love you”. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing. If you find it hard to say it, why not use a different way to convey your unchanging love in a non-verbal way?
2. Keep the habit of dating
Many couples give up the habit of dating after they become parents, as if it happened in a previous life. It’s true that work is busy and children are too young to care for, but keeping the mood of love and sharing is the foundation of a happy family.
3. Recall funny scenes
Once funny scenes and funny stories are happy elements to remember. French psychologist and sociologist Doris Barzini once said that having fun and recalling happy scenes with your partner at a later time will make the marriage relationship last longer. This is because sharing past joys is a form of generosity, a willingness to give laughter to the other person, and a sign of love. This joy can stem from someone else’s joke, a playful moment between you, or a fun experience.
4. Treat his family like your own
In China, in-laws are the “stumbling block” in almost every marriage, but are there really that many bossy, unreasonable mothers-in-law in the world? The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to take care of themselves, but you can’t call yourself a smart woman if you only blame others for everything. First of all, please learn to treat his family as you would your own, and your husband would like to see a good wife who is reasonable and understanding.
5. Give him enough face in front of outsiders
Have you noticed his embarrassed expression on the sidelines when you are talking about your husband’s embarrassing stories in front of him or your friends with an excited face? This kind of damage is often invisible, but the killing power is extremely huge.
6. Never mention “divorce”
A happy marriage requires a good mindset. If you bring up divorce often, or use it as a threat, it only means you are admitting to yourself that the marriage is failing. Your spouse will also see this as a possibility. Remember, divorce will never solve the problems between you.
7. Have a separate social circle
After marriage, do you drag your husband to girlfriends’ parties? Especially if the other party goes to the date alone? If you don’t want to lose a friendship, I advise you to come to your senses sooner rather than later! You don’t have to share Facebook. A solo party with your best friend not only allows for more open and interesting conversation between you, but also gives you the opportunity to step out of the role of wife for a while and enjoy a nice afternoon of relaxation and pure enjoyment.
8. Argue about things
Many women have a problem: rehashing old scores. This is especially true when it comes to arguing with your partner. It’s not uncommon to have arguments and conflicts in a marriage, but hopefully you’ll be able to face it on its own merits and not let those old stories, or grievances you’ve built up in the past, be the trigger for an argument.
9. Make surprises
No one doesn’t like surprises, and in a marriage, surprises are another expression of romance. After all, for most people, life is always the same, and it’s time to make it fun with surprises!
10. Get back to childhood games
Turn back into a naughty big kid once in a while and get the most pristine and exciting joy from simple games. Take off the shiny suits and dazzling jewelry and have a competitive game with your partner, such as a water gun fight, a fight over a small toy, a sticker note for poker, etc. In a happy atmosphere, get rid of the day’s fatigue and worries, and give the green light for more intimate behavior between the two of you. But note that the games are for fun, not to be divided into winners and losers, and avoid those that create a tense atmosphere.
11. Don’t compare yourself to other people’s marriages
Just as people’s appearances can be deceiving, so can marriages, and you never know if someone else’s marriage is happy, even though they may seem like the perfect couple. So instead of comparing, take the time to work on this happiness of your own.
12. Humor in a fight
Try to make a face when the other person is angry, imitate his expression, or say something funny and smile, remembering that your original intention is never to make fun of the other person, but to entertain yourself and lighten the mood. The first thing you need to do is to make yourself happy and make the person you love happy.