Some people think that divorce is just a matter for two people and has nothing to do with children, but in fact divorce has a very strong psychological impact on children. As long as the divorce is inevitably hurt the children, but as parents to do as much as possible not to hurt the children. So, how can you minimize the damage to your children after a divorce?
Explain slowly to your child
Explain slowly to your child. Don’t lie to your child, there is a price to pay for cheating, this is the truth, teach your child to solve problems in a positive way, despite the divorce. Parents should understand how each child copes with change. If your child takes a few days or more to adjust to change, give them that time. If your son grabs you when you leave, hug him and tell him what you’re going to do with him when he comes back.
Tell your child that his parents will always love him
Children need comfort. They are very sensitive, and if they think their father or mother will be distraught and lonely after they leave, leaving will be very hard for them. This is true in all families, not just divorced families. Be sure to tell the child that the love of mom and dad is constant and that mom and dad will always love him. And then the one with the child must think of ways to make the child broad-minded so that maybe the child brought up without any shadows!
Protecting the image of the parent in the child’s mind
Because both parties The main purpose of this is to protect the image of the father and mother in the child’s mind when they can no longer live together because they no longer love each other, or because they are moving in different directions and at different speeds, etc. Tell your children how their future life will be arranged and relieve them of any worries. Do not speak ill of the other in front of the child, nor argue about his support in front of the child, let alone force the child to choose his or her position.
Keep the habit of being there for your child
No matter what divorces don’t See each other as enemies, but also continue to each maintain the love of the child, care, take a few days a week to spend more time with the child, although away but together with the child to the park to eat just for the child.