1. You are the main character, and all the others are accompanying you.
(1) Be open and honest and have principles.
Be clear about your own heart, respect yourself, don’t hide, don’t hide, express your preferences to others, exchange hearts for hearts, if you are true, he will be true, so that you can show your bright and open image, but also reach efficient communication with others, killing two birds with one stone.
(2) Make it clear that you are yourself.
Do your own thing, take responsibility for your own decisions, don’t blindly judge yourself by others, don’t put yourself in the hands of others, and don’t sink and float in the court of public opinion.
(3) Discern that others are others.
Listen more and take less of a stance on what others say or do as long as it doesn’t hurt you, don’t judge until you see the whole picture, don’t make overly negative assumptions, don’t ridicule others, and don’t be a “life coach” to others.
On the other hand, if you are overly empathetic and turn yourself upside down, it is easy to “destroy the forest for the trees” in social situations.
As long as one recognizes one’s role in the social scene, one does what is right, one does what is right, one has the right spirit, and one has the right temperament, one is sure to have the right time, the right place, and the right people to fit in.
2.
(1) Protects the calf.
Firmly defending life comrades, such as loyalty to the boss, with the teammates, for subordinates to do their duty, no matter what, not in front of outsiders to say its right and wrong, but all the words out of their own, the other side is always the best.
(2) Not to climb a third person to endorse for oneself.
You take responsibility for your own words and actions, and don’t try to shirk them by:
“So-and-so said… …”
“So-and-so thinks that ……”
“So-and-so thinks ……”
This is both unrighteous and uninspiring and pointless.
(3) Start with one and don’t look left or right.
Now that you have chosen your social circle, you should avoid swaying from one side to the other and be a wallflower, instead you can protect yourself and get a good fit by having a principled love/hate relationship, because your teammates will always be there for you and your enemies will respect you as a man of your own.
On the other hand, being all things to all people is a beautiful way to say that you have a high level of emotional intelligence, but it doesn’t translate into genuine connections and lasting benefits, and when it comes to core secrets and important interests, you will be ostracized and scorned by others.
3.
(1) The fruit of a thousand years of remembering someone’s kindness, when a drop of water should be returned to a spring, if someone has helped you, you should not tear down the bridge, but always remember and give back.
(2) In cooperation, on the basis of protecting your own rights and interests, you should give up your benefits to others within a reasonable range.
(3) To help others after you have made yourself complete, not only can you pave the way for your own future journey in the jungle, but you can also harvest people from the same path in the process of good energy circulation.
If you do the above, others will know that they have the benefit of helping you and will not lose out, so they will be more willing to help themselves in the future.
Some giving is a loss and a foolishness in the moment, but in the long run it is a constant source of gain and gain.
4.
(1) Chasing light and heat, sharpening together.
Treasure those who:
l Give pleasure to those who wish to make you happy;
l People who have a good outlook and excellent character;
l People who work together to help each other;
When you walk with the light, you will also tend to the light.
(2) Remove falsehoods and keep the truth.
Don’t let the so-called halo, title, endorsement, status, and pretty words of others blind you.
But to see their:
real character
substantial results
past History
See with your eyes, see with your heart, hear with your ears.
(3) Be humble and tolerant, and use others as a mirror.
Everyone has their strengths, so it’s important to reduce prejudice and be overly subjective in your social life, and look at the key attributes of others that have led to progress and success.
5.
Doing things without logic, priorities and positioning is easy to waste time doing useless work.
So understand:
(1) Customers are customers, colleagues are colleagues, friends are friends, partners are partners, and distinguish between what is a working relationship, what is a fun relationship, and what is a supportive relationship. (1) A client is a client, a colleague is a colleague, a friend is a friend, and a partner is a partner.
(2) Focus on the big and the small, but for socializing with a purpose (e.g., talking about projects, talking about business), focus on the quality of the people you know rather than the quantity, and concentrate on getting the approval of the core protagonist.
Do the above and you will avoid 80% of the people problems.
The above is shared in the hope that we can work together.
Love you and cheers.