For second marriage couples, many people have the impression that second marriage is easier than having sex, and think that second marriage will be the life because the hope and fantasy ended with the first failed marriage.
With the divorce rate rising year by year, there are more and more divorced women. So after a divorced woman reorganizes her family, can the second married husband be better than the original husband, and then can he start a happy life again? What is the difference between the “original husband” and the “second husband”? Three women who have remarried tell the truth.
1. Ms. Liang, 33 years old, remarried for three years, very happy
My first marriage did not bring me any happiness. If I hadn’t asked about this topic, I wouldn’t have mentioned it again. My ex-husband was an alcoholic and very lazy. Other men in the village either went out to work to earn money or planted vegetable barns. But he would rather work odd jobs in other people’s sheds than grow his own sheds.
He not only likes to drink, but also likes to play with alcohol.
He likes to drink, but he also likes to play with alcohol and hit me. I put up with it for the sake of my children. But I put up with it for five years without seeing any hope for him to change.
The parents finally couldn’t take it anymore and agreed to divorce me.
After the divorce, I was discouraged and the children were not awarded to me. I wanted to go out to work. But my parents said I was 30 years old, my second marriage couldn’t be delayed, and it was important to find a man to marry first. My current husband met me when I was afraid of marriage. I didn’t expect him to be very nice and patient with me. Although he looks very ordinary, he is very sincere with me. He doesn’t let me go out to work. He just said I can enjoy my happiness at home. If you ask what is the difference between the original husband and the second husband, I can only say that the original husband is not a person, and the second husband is the man I rely on.
2. Ms. Xie, 46 years old, remarried for two years
To be honest, a woman of my age would not consider love. To remarry is to find a man to live with, preferably a man with good financial conditions. This is the first consideration I commented on.
I didn’t have a good relationship with my original husband. I didn’t expect to have any feelings, so I didn’t think about divorce when I knew he was cheating on me. But he went too far and took the woman out to dinner at his house. Really can’t stand it. I felt it was an insult to me. I finally got what I deserved and got divorced.
Now my husband is an honest man, but ten years older than me, with a good income. I don’t believe myself if I say how deep our relationship is. What’s the difference with the original husband? I think my second husband is the kind of man who is suitable for a family life. Maybe he doesn’t have much love to make people feel safe.
3. Ms. Lee, 32, remarried for 1 year
When my ex-husband and I divorced, I was 30 years old and my daughter was 5. I didn’t want my daughter to be angry with her stepmother later, so I won custody of my daughter in the divorce.
Probably because I had a daughter, no one cared about me when I remarried and a lot of people came to ask me to marry them. One of my requirements at the time was that the man should like children and I didn’t want my daughter to suffer because of my remarriage.
The second husband is also a divorced man with a daughter by his side. His daughter is three years older than my daughter. At that time, I thought it was good that he was not a son, older than my daughter, and should know how to let my daughter go. Also, the two girls should get along better.
However, to my surprise after the marriage, his daughter wasn’t worried at all. What disappointed me even more was that when the two kids were in conflict, he was indiscriminate about my daughter and I had many fights with him about it.
Ah, now I finally understand the saying that married couples have their hearts in the right place. But it’s only been a year since we got married, so we can’t divorce again. I think the biggest difference between the original husband and the second husband is the children. It’s just not the same really and not really.