As the saying goes, ten fingers are sticking out differently. Parents with many brothers in the family may favor the oldest or the youngest, or the most talkative and ass-kissing. Although the other sons are sometimes a little uncomfortable in their hearts, they are all on their own, not so when they come to the daughter-in-law. If their in-laws are too eccentric, their hearts will be unbalanced and their accountants will be more sensitive to injustice.
Tang Jie found that when she got married, her mother-in-law was not as good to her husband as she was to her big brother. The reason is that the older brother and sister-in-law are very good at pampering and kissing ass, because the mother-in-law is a school director and usually hears a lot of flattering words from her subordinates. When she is a leader, she does not like people to praise themselves. But my husband is a science student and an engineer, and is not too attached to this kind of stuff.
When we all get together for dinner on New Year’s Eve, whether we cook outside or eat at my husband’s house, the moms just choose according to the preferences of the older brother and sister-in-law, and will please the older son and daughter-in-law by saying, “What you make is what you both love to eat. My unit is also issued to the big brother and sister-in-law. At this point, Tang Jie was embarrassed, and his sister-in-law was smart enough to hurry up and say that his brother, daughter-in-law, and brother also like to eat.
For this matter, Tang Jie is very uncomfortable, but after all, if she doesn’t live together, it’s okay just for the New Year holidays. Tang Jie and her husband work well, better than her big brother and sister-in-law, and they are hungry and don’t need their help, so it’s okay.
However, one thing that forced Tang Jie to contact her mother-in-law often was when Tang Jie had a family meeting and decided that her mother-in-law had to wait on her for the month. Unfortunately, it happened to be summer vacation, and the mother-in-law still had two months of vacation, so she was too embarrassed to find an excuse to ask for a new moon. The mother-in-law wants to live in her house. Although Tang Jie had 100 reluctances, there was no way out.
Usually Tang Jie and her sister-in-law are very close. When her mother-in-law wanted to live in the house, her sister-in-law gave her three tricks. In the process of getting along with her mother-in-law, Tang Jie made her sister-in-law’s three tricks, and her mother-in-law and her became good sisters who talked about everything.
One, praise your mother-in-law more
In the process of getting along with your mother-in-law, after all, she is not a real mother, so praise her appropriately. It can both ease the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and enhance the relationship.
When Tang Jie was in her first month of life, her mother-in-law was from the north and Tang Jie was from the south, so there was a big difference between the northern and southern “moon meals”.
There is a big difference between the northern and southern “moon meals” because of the difference between the northern and southern “moon meals”.
Mother-in-law does work quickly, cleaning up the house, not at all like a moon ovary, no odor. She just added a layer of white to the curtains so they wouldn’t be impermeable at night. She can open the normal curtains at noon so Tang Jie can absorb some sunlight, but no wind comes in. Tang Jie praised her mother-in-law for her thoughtfulness and said she could be elected as a good mother-in-law in China.
When Tang Jie praised her mother-in-law, she would be happy. Originally she was a carefree type and worked harder. Tang Jie prefers to sit on the moon and not have to do anything. Only then did I understand that it wasn’t that my mother-in-law didn’t like her husband, but that her husband was an engineer, not a good talker, and always against my mother-in-law. How could she like her mother-in-law who is used to leading?
People want to be recognized and praised, and mothers-in-law are no exception. It is also important for us to give proper praise to our mother-in-law. If we make her happy, she will be more energetic in cooking and cleaning up the house, and we will be less worried.
Two, learn to pamper yourself like a girl in front of your mother-in-law
In order to get closer to your mother-in-law, it is good to pamper yourself properly. Not only can you get closer to your mother-in-law, but your mother-in-law’s heart will also soften, thinking it’s better to treat her as your own mother.
Tang Jie’s sister-in-law came to visit her little nephew when she was in labor. When she saw such a lovely sister-in-law
That’s when the eldest aunt started to pamper herself, hugging her mother-in-law and calling out for a good mommy. You are the first good mother in the world and the most willing mother for your child. She said bringing up grandchildren does not affect you, but I will want my grandchildren to go to kindergarten. Then I’ll buy a house or rent a room in this neighborhood, and you can push your grandson to pick him up from school. Also said mommy better kiss mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law actually put it down and said to think about it. As soon as Xiao Gu heard the soundtrack, she hugged and kissed her mother-in-law and hurriedly hugged her nephew and said, “I’ll take care of my little nephew when I have time. When Tang Jie saw her smiling mother-in-law, she realized there was no way her child could spoil her.
Tang Jie always wanted to take a bath and wash her hair, but her mother-in-law wouldn’t say anything. Tang Jie followed her sister-in-law’s actions of spoiling her mother-in-law and talked a lot about the difference between bathing facilities and heating in the present times and their times. Finally the mother-in-law had to agree.
For the somewhat eccentric mother-in-law, after you praise her more she slowly accepts you like you, you can pamper her. This way the mother-in-law will also be happy and the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship will get along better.
Three, ask your mother-in-law for more advice on any problems
There are some seemingly simple questions in getting along with your mother-in-law. You can pretend that you don’t know how to ask your mother-in-law. Your mother-in-law will tell you a lot of truths from her experience. Then you compliment her mother-in-law for knowing so much. Your mother-in-law will be more energetic when she is recognized.
After Tang Jie’s relationship with her mother-in-law got better and better, even after she spilled her guts in front of her mother-in-law, she started asking some secrets about being so loving with her father-in-law for so many years, and her mother-in-law would say in Kan; I will also ask you how to educate three such wonderful children, and I will learn from them, so that my mother-in-law will care more about her grandchildren.
Once, Tang Jie’s husband came back from the source of goods, exhausted. After taking a shower and changing into pajamas, he went to sleep in another room. Tang Jie’s mother-in-law spent more than 10 minutes washing and ironing her son’s clothes. Tang Jie asked how to do it. His mother-in-law immediately raised her eyebrows and said, “Throw the machine washable ones into the washing machine, hand wash the socks and heart separately, and iron the jacket. You can do three things at once.
Senior citizens can’t keep up with the times. Information lags behind and there can be some frustration. Especially their own children can be especially impatient with them. This is when their daughter-in-law will be patient and ask them more questions. They will be very willing to explain and will be closer.
In summary, for the eccentric mother-in-law we should not confront her don’t openly question why she is eccentric, so she will be more eccentric, we silently cast her good, slowly her heart will soften. It’s all her son and daughter-in-law, and the back of her hand is flesh. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
[Today’s topic]:Is your mother-in-law biased towards your family or her other son or daughter-in-law? Welcome to discuss in the comments, let’s make our family more harmonious ha!