From the perspective of probability, the longer you live together, the higher the probability of not being able to get married. This is not because living together for a long time the feelings become diluted, but living together for a long time, will prematurely consume the passion, revealing the shortcomings, which causes the probability of breaking up is also greatly increased. But in your case, the conflict between you is not only limited to “consuming passion and exposing conflicts”. The bigger problem arises in: the way you get along. A, why you are good to him, he still want to break up with you? Girl, not to mention cohabitation, any way to get along with please remember one of the most important rules: high cost and low efficiency of the commission, in exchange for any benefit. And in your cohabitation life, you do everything to pay, is the typical “high cost inefficiency”. Laundry and cooking and cleaning up the house, you know that these bits and pieces of household chores add up, will waste most of your personal time in addition to your daily work – if you are a full-time housewife, it is even more excessive: just graduated should go out to gain experience in the age of life, you squander a lot of their young lives, in exchange for each other home from work. The other side of the home from work in exchange for a hot meal. You think it’s worth it, it doesn’t matter. But you have to admit that you are consuming your own personal development time and even future development opportunities, is this cost high enough? But the efficiency is very low: you do all this, can he feel lucky beyond compare? Can he feel sorry for you and make some compensation to you in his daily life, at least to be nice to you? No: he feels that you do these inefficient chores, not at all as hard as running around and earning money yourself. The unequal relationship, so it came. The most taboo in the process of getting along with two people is that the relationship is not equal. The more you are silent to take care of everything, the more he is bullying to develop a habit. He will be this gain, attributed to their hard work than you, than you pay more and get compensation – yes, he will not really think in your perspective you are in a different place, how difficult, after work to cover everything, only to better love him, better to maintain the relationship. He will only think: this is their own money to support the family, after a hard time socializing, you deserve to give the comfort. Once you have this perception, he will not only feel that you pay more, but also feel that you have not paid enough. If you are too lazy to cook one day, you are at fault; if your own clothes have not been washed for two days, then you are at fault. This relationship will turn you from a role of active giver, into a passive person “waiting to be judged”. Not waiting for your own endurance, he first endurance to eliminate you. And boyfriend living together for a year, is not living together for a longer period of time the lighter the feelings? Second, two people living together, what should be noted? What advice is there for reference? The matter of cohabitation, and marriage is not the same – two people married, with material and family support, even if there is friction, will be forced to choose to reconcile the reality of the correction, and continue to the right track. But living together is a voluntary relationship without any realistic support: love together, as long as a person feel bored, then separate. There is no cost anyway. So, from an objective point of view, I do not recommend couples to live together too early. If you encounter not mature enough or not responsible enough for the other half, it is easy to let the one who is sincere to pay for all the suffering, but nothing to gain. I’ve been living with my boyfriend for a year, but the longer I live, the more my feelings fade? If you have to live together, forced by the pressure of reality or want to try to marry, then please avoid the following misconceptions: 1, always stick together two people living together, the most likely to make a mistake, that is: do what is together. Two people do not have relatively independent space, do anything in front of each other exposed. The two of you are the only ones who have ever been in a relationship. 2, overexposed themselves Some girls feel that they are living together anyway, so their personal image, spiritual morality or whatever is not that important, right? Big mistake – attraction is a constant proposition in long term relationships. You want the other person to be with you willingly, you can’t give up the good image of yourself in his mind. Think back to those days when you put on makeup for two hours before you went out on a date with him and his eyes lit up with heart. Then think about your sloppy hysterical look, which is easier to be liked? So if you really want to live together, not only can you not be more relaxed, but you have to do more careful than usual in some aspects. 3, always rely on the male expenditure if both sides have financial resources, try to achieve financial independence. It is best not to rely entirely on the male side of the expenditure for a long time. Don’t think it’s too realistic to talk about material, which actually has little to do with material – human nature, it’s hard to let go of the payment completely by yourself and easily. He can raise you for a day or two, but raise you for life must have a heart. The problem is that you can’t communicate with your friends. The boy said you “increasingly do not understand him”, is also essentially fighting this thing. He naturally does not want to stay by your side. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are getting into. Chinese traditional knowledge, there is a particularly bad standard: virtuous family, wholeheartedly give, sacrifice themselves to do behind the man’s woman, is a good woman. From generation to generation, by ear, this leads to many girls are born with a sense of “responsibility”: to wash the boyfriend’s socks and underwear, sweeping and mopping, cooking and washing dishes, the nitty-gritty work are done by themselves. There is no energy and no time to expand their own friendship circle, the development of their own career planning, resulting in a growing lack of personal life, the value of charm also randomly reduced. For normal couples, I actually recommend living together for a short period of time to get to know each other gradually and completely, without interfering too much in each other’s personal lives, and without moths to a flame to pay.
