50 details to make your interpersonal interactions twice as successful
Introduction: The attention modulation method. The question is which part of the thing to focus the lens on. There are good and bad things in themselves, and focusing on the good side is cheering, while focusing on the bad side is frustrating. Examples of this can be found everywhere in everyday life. Today, InspirationalStories.com shares 50 small details that will make your interpersonal interactions twice as successful.
1. The problem of being tongue-tied when you get a little closer must be changed.
2. Replace “Did you get it” with “Did I get it?
3. Always reply to messages you get from people, and use emojis or punctuation to politely express that you don’t want to talk.
4. Don’t try to trade your secrets for another friend.
5. Words are often fake, what you experience together is real.
6. Don’t say what you shouldn’t say in front of people, and don’t say it behind their backs.
7. Don’t judge people by their appearance.
8. Replace “thank you” with “thank you”, which is just one more word, but much more sincere.
9. Smile more often, people who are optimistic and positive are always more likable.
10. Know how to be quiet when others are sleeping.
11. Don’t look at people’s phones without their permission.
12. Don’t slide down a picture when someone shows you a picture on their phone.
13. Don’t wait for the other person to understand something, because they are not you and don’t know what you want.
14. Most people say “what’s up” to satisfy curiosity, not to help you.
15. It’s rude to break someone’s joy.
16. When it comes to rejection, the simpler the better. The first thing you need to do is to explain that you owe it to someone else, and that you can help if you can, or refuse if you can’t.
17. The eternal law of human relationships is to balance the deal.
18. When someone is telling you something he likes, don’t contradict it.
19. Most people don’t like “straight talkers”.
20. Don’t talk to people about their problems, there are very few people in the world who can relate to them.
21. When you are angry, don’t bring negative energy to others, and don’t vent your anger.
22. Never turn your nose up at someone else’s efforts.
23. Don’t make excuses for doing something wrong, just admit it.
24. Don’t speak harshly to your friends, evil words hurt the most.
25. Please be nice to people in the service industry.
26. Try to remember people’s names when you first meet them.
27. Hold back the most hurtful words when you are most angry.
28. People can laugh at themselves, but you should never echo them.
29. Always use “you” when texting strangers, and add “I’m sorry” at the end if you’re the one who initiated the message.
30. When you go to someone’s house and they let you watch TV, it’s time to go.
31. People are all different in some way, so when you run into a tough problem, find out what your common goal is first.
32. When you’re talking to someone and they take a deep breath, that means they don’t want to listen and are forcing themselves down on you.
33. Don’t joke around with people you don’t know well.
33. Don’t joke around with people you don’t know.
34. Don’t show that you hate the person in front of the person you hate, and don’t talk badly about the person you hate in front of the person you know.
35. Praise each other more for their behavior than for the person.
36. Don’t feel free to offer criticism unless you have some basis of friendship or trust.
37. Don’t always dismiss someone’s words, such as “That’s not right,” “It should be,” “That’s not true,”…
38. Avoid small gestures when talking to people, and posture and demeanor are also important for interaction.
39. Think differently when you act, put yourself in the other person’s shoes, and imagine how you would feel most comfortable.
40. When a lot of people are talking together, take care of the person who knows the least about you.
41. Threesome. One person ties his shoes, and you two wait for him.
42. Don’t force yourself to be nice for the sake of relationships.
43. Resist the urge to tell someone when you’ve made a sacrifice or suffered for them, and don’t try to make them feel guilty. This is hard, but it’s good to be patient.
44. Refusing to answer personal questions with a smile doesn’t make them look bad, and it keeps your boundaries intact.
45. “Say one thing” is different from “think one thing”, and don’t be rude.
46. Be sure to keep your jokes to yourself and keep your time and place to yourself.
47. Even if you disagree, don’t be quick to argue, but let the other person speak clearly first.
48. Never mention taboo matters and avoid talking about others’ taboo points to avoid causing misunderstanding and hurting others’ self-esteem.
49. Try not to engage in gossip.
50. Comb your hair, straighten your collar and cuffs and pant legs, and be clean and generous to show respect to the other person.