Being the master of your emotions – psychology ways to manage bad emotions
Introduction: When people encounter bad emotions, if they cannot self-regulate, they lose the courage to move on. If one is good at self-exclusion and self-direction, one transforms bad emotions into positive ones. Today, the inspirational story network for you to some relief emotions life lessons, I hope it will help you.
Part 1: You should do something
You should “do something, not something”. The first thing that I want to do is to make sure that I am not afraid to say something that is useful to people, and that I am not afraid to say something that is sad or frustrating. The first of these is the “four nots” of life.
First, it doesn’t matter how hard you work. The first is that it doesn’t matter how hard you work, but if you treat your job as a service, you won’t feel hard. For example, the supervisor asked you to work overtime; what several people normally do, suddenly you have to take on alone. At this time, if you are too tired, feel unfair, will only add to the suffering; may wish to change the mood, think of their own ability must be strong, so the supervisor will deliver the heavy responsibility. As for more work, although a little bitter, tired some, but can serve others more, they can also accumulate experience, life is not more meaningful? The first thing that I would like to do is to make sure that I have a good idea of what I am doing.
Secondly, I’m not afraid to say good things to people. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. In fact, a person who can speak, a sentence said, not only to convey their own meaning, but also always hope that the other party can be happy to accept. The first thing you need to do is to learn to say good things, and good things are not afraid of many; people who can say good things can bring joy to others, and they can become popular themselves.
Third, “not to resent” when you are troubled by something. The most important thing in life is the desire, because there is a desire, there is a desire, and when the desire is not available or the desire is not in line with the desire, the trouble naturally arises. People should not be with worries, with worries, to be ashamed of themselves, rather than just blame God and others. As the saying goes, “Thinking about troubles and suffering, rejoicing is bliss”, people should know how to create their own joy and happiness, not to infect others with worries and troubles. The first thing you need to do is to have a joyful life, so that you can live a meaningful life.
Fourth, “do not retreat” from adversity and frustration. The first thing that we need to do is to be able to see what is going on in the world. However, it is said that “life is like a ball”, if the ball can not withstand the beat, it will not be able to bounce, and will lose the value of the ball. The future will affirm our position as long as we stay true to ourselves and never retreat in times of adversity and frustration.
One does not have to live a bright life, but to live with meaning, value and dignity, which is success.
Part II: Make your anger work
Xie Hazi was a literary scholar of the Ming Dynasty. 30 years old, Xie Hazi was appreciated by King Kang of Zhao, so he became a protégé of King Kang of Zhao. Once, while the literati were talking, a protégé named Liang An got up and left in silence and did not appear until lunch. The first time I saw him, I noticed his behavior and went to ask him about it.
The first time I saw him, I saw him lying on his bed, with his eyes slightly closed and his face sullen, seemingly unhappy.
The first time I saw the film, I was in a hurry to leave the room, and I didn’t even eat lunch. Liang An replied in a muffled voice: “They always like to make fun of me, and they are getting more and more reckless, which is not in accordance with the etiquette. I feel violated and very angry.” “What are you going to do?” Xie Hazel asked. Liang An said, “Because I am angry, I will leave the table.” Xie Hazel shook her head and continued, “You left the table because you were angry and then hid in your room to sulk, but what purpose does that serve?”
Does anger need to serve any purpose? Liang An was stunned by the question, not knowing what Xie Hazel meant. Xie Hazel said slowly, “We get angry to express our dissatisfaction. But if you just hide in your room and sulk, your dissatisfaction is not actually expressed, and no one even notices that you’ve left the door open. So although you are angry because of this, the situation will not be changed, and people may tease you next time. In this way, your anger serves no purpose. Except for the loss of a good morning and a hungry stomach.”
Hearing Xie Hazel’s words, Liang An nodded his head frequently. Next he came to the banquet hall and told the crowd that he didn’t like it when people made fun of him and asked them not to do it anymore. The crowd listened to Liang An’s “protest” and realized that they were rude and apologized to him.
Part 3: Don’t spread your bad mood to others
In interpersonal relationships, we will have friction with others from time to time, and getting angry is inevitable. But you have to make your anger work. So, when you feel angry, you should let people know you’re angry and then tell them to stop doing the thing that’s making you angry. Instead, you should be angry in an empty way. That’s how you can help resolve conflicts and better maintain friendships.
There was a period of time when my father was sick, my son was naughty, my work was not going well, my career was not going well, I was stirred up by all kinds of worries and I was very depressed.
The other day, I went to the countryside to do some work, and when I returned, I went to the bus stop to wait for the bus. The first time I saw it, I was in the middle of the day. The first time I saw the bus, I found an old man repairing his shoes at the corner of the road, so I walked up to his booth with my luggage and asked him with straight eyes, “Hey, when is this bus coming?”
“Not sure!” The old man was clearly not very pleased with my abrupt rudeness, and he kept his head down, still concentrating on repairing the leather shoes in his hands.
As soon as the words were out of my mouth, I realized that my tone was hard and I had made a fool of myself. I thought, “This old man is here all day to fix shoes, how can he not know the situation of cars here? I was so sleepy after running for miles that I didn’t care how cold the old man was to me, I just put my luggage down next to his stall and sat down on his bench.
Soon, the bus drove by and I grabbed my luggage and hurried up with a single bound. In the blink of an eye, the bus carried me away from this old man who was repairing shoes. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public, such as the Internet, the Internet, and the Internet. I was anxiously thinking about where the bag might have been left. I thought of this, and rushed out the door to the outskirts of the bus station. When I respectfully approached the old man with a smile on my face and asked him if he had seen my handbag, the old man asked me with a tentative look, “Handbag? What’s in it?” “There are more than 3,000 yuan inside.” I said urgently. Seeing my anxious look, the old man turned around and took my handbag out of the drawer and handed it to me in a pleasant manner. I hurriedly opened my handbag, took out two hundred yuan bills and said gratefully, “Thank you so much, grandpa, these two, as a reward for you.”
Without taking my money, the old man turned around and went back to his shoes. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem. In the future, when you go out, talk to people more kindly, especially when you go out with things, be careful not to lose them.”
After hearing the old man’s words, I seemed to have an understanding. The first thing I did was to take a look at the old man’s face. It was this old man who taught me that at any time, no matter what you are unhappy about, you should speak kindly to others and never throw bad feelings at them.