After marriage, the passion and freshness of the love period is worn out by the life of the wood and salt, the romantic mood is also endless crying and naughty tossing by the children to get no interest, the marriage becomes bland and trivial, at this time, the couple began to quarrel, there is a detachment, “itch” followed by the occurrence. So, why do middle-aged couples have emotional weakness? How to effectively break the marriage itch? The first thing you need to do is to take a look at it!
Why do middle-aged couples experience emotional weakness?
One, the arguments over trivial matters of life make the couple drift apart emotionally.
In a sea of people, it is a rare destiny to meet, get to know each other, get to know each other, and hold hands. It seems that it is ‘destined that I love you’ for two people to get married and have children, yet it is precisely the accumulation of cockamamie events that lead to mutual boredom. The more you are in love, the lonelier you will be, because that forgetful love carries with it nagging, questioning and nonsense, although the starting point is the concern for your loved one, but often in exchange for the results of the effort.
When love ceases to be romantic and becomes a burden to each other, the couple’s emotions drift apart.
Second, the scale of tolerance is getting wider and wider, making the couple lack cohesion.
Before marriage, women are ‘aunts’, after marriage, men pretend to be ‘masters’, the change of emotional role, so many women are difficult to adapt to for a while, and even difficult to find a balance, for this reason will lament ‘really blind , on the ship of thieves ‘, with a complaint, in the unwilling, upset, anxious, remorseful state of mind do not know how to love. So, often their own I comforted to own to pretend that they do not care, making the scale of tolerance to the lover more and more, the result will be to become more and more do not care about all the behavior of the lover, thus making the lack of cohesion between the couple.
Many people who have been in a walled city for a long time have this feeling: our marriage is like chicken ribs, eat is boring, throw is a pity, for this reason, the man more ‘casual’, the woman less ‘pampered’, let the marriage into the state of the pass and pass.
Three, the impact of multiculturalism has stirred the loyalty of the couple.
Comparing cars, careers, and houses; lovers, second wives, and mistresses. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
The embodiment of coal material about extramarital affairs does not seem to have taught people to cherish the rare marriages, but instead has taught some people with evil intentions how to stray between lovers and lovers. People should have been able to think rationally and independently as a group, but more people are happy to speak with their lower bodies. Under the night sky, it seems that everyone feels like a lonely game, facing temptation and stirring up marital fidelity.
Teaching you 8 tricks to give the “marriage itch”
1. Don’t bring your work emotions into your family life.
In addition to the 8 hours of work, plus overtime and time spent on the road, counting up, there is little time at home with your significant other, the pressure of work is great, but do not bring into family life. If you meet to complain about the pressure of work, or even work emotions to anger at the other half, a long time, who will not be able to stand, I’m afraid the seven-year itch will become three years on the itch.
2. Create a good atmosphere for couples to have sex.
How important is sex life for the development of the couple’s emotions, I am afraid that only sexually happy couples can really appreciate, therefore, middle-aged men should not let themselves to the room can not, middle-aged women should not let themselves to the room is not interested in sex.
3. Hold hands and remember the vows of the year.
When the passion has faded and life is more of a woodsy affair, try to find a relaxing time with each other to reminisce about the vows we made to each other on our wedding day, and not forget the original intention of being together after years of marriage, but also to give each other a reminder: don’t be blinded by the swelling of your heart.
4. Share the housework.
Shared housework is not about doing the housework itself, but about allowing both spouses to participate in the household chores, so that each can experience a sense of family presence.
5. Take a fresh look at yourself.
One slap on the wrist doesn’t make a difference, and the marriage itch varies from person to person, and some people don’t need to stop itching for the rest of their lives, so calm yourself down and take a fresh look at yourself: Dressing too casually? The most important thing is that you have to be careful. Life is not interesting? These are enough to frost the passion after marriage.
6. Treat each other’s parents as equals
Each other’s parents are not the nucleus of a new family, but they can affect the couple’s feelings because of the way they treat them. The ‘poor’ parent should not be belittled because of the ‘wealth gap’ between their parents.
7. Be open-minded about your children’s education.
Don’t squeeze your children’s play space with all kinds of ‘remedial classes’, tell them the importance of knowledge, leave the book knowledge to the teachers, and give them more reason to behave by example.
8. Release him for 100 meters and swim.
The woman in the marriage does not have to worry about the sky, appropriate to give the man freedom, but not indulge, so he does not have the difference between inside and outside, her people, even if you want to “itch” will have their own measure, let him a hundred meters away, he has a psychological balance, will inevitably measure the moral bottom line between husband and wife to behave. The woman control him naturally will be comfortable. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Of course, the best way to run a marriage is for both spouses to put some thought into it, to be more creative and conscious, and to try to create new romance and passion. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. If not handled properly, a small illness will become a big illness and a small itch will become a big pain. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the public.