Some time ago, the case of the missing woman in Hangzhou was solved, and the husband of the murdered woman was the real murderer. Meanwhile, several cases of husbands killing their wives occurred in other parts of China, causing people to discuss and think about it. Very often, women are in a vulnerable position in the whole marriage, vulnerable to harm. Psychologists have summarized the danger signals in intimate relationships, and when husbands have these signals, it’s important to hurry up and stay away.
What are the red flags for men in intimate relationships?
1, controlling
It is normal to be possessive in love, but possessiveness is not control. Possessiveness is a reaction out of fear of losing affection, while control is treating the other person as an object, as a personal item for oneself. If a husband is always controlling his wife and has to give his nod of approval to do something, this is a very common red flag to consider carefully.
2. Take your wife’s sacrifices for granted
For the sake of family, many women sacrifice their careers and time for things big and small that require a woman to fix. If the husband takes it all for granted and resents not doing enough, it’s more dangerous,
3, easily angered
A bad-tempered person will not get angry for no reason, nor will he or she punch or kick because of a wrong word. If there is such a tendency to violence, especially irritable and irritable, are going to have to think about whether the existence of marriage is still valuable. The most important thing is that you have to be able to live a life of fear and trepidation, which is not a long-term solution after all.
4. Always sulking
There is also A dangerous type of husband is the husband who is usually silent, always sulking when he is angry, and is very scary when he really breaks out. The first thing you can do is to talk openly and honestly about it and let him voice his discontent. Don’t let his heart build up resentment, which builds up more and explodes out and is likely to act irrationally.
5. Restrict your wife’s movement
Under normal circumstances, the wife is an independent individual with her own ability to act and think and needs to socialize. If a husband restricts his wife’s movement and does not allow her to go out and interact with others, even with her family, this is beyond a necessary limit and must be alarmed. It is also a dysfunctional pattern for couples to get along and is prone to problems over time.
Since two people are a couple, they are the most intimate of unions and should respect and care for each other. If there are these danger signals, as a woman must think well, do not wait until after the tragedy has occurred and then regret.