Myth #1: The only way to make sex is to work hard in bed. strong>perfect.
Perhaps, this is the most common mistake we make. In fact, sex life cannot be made truly physical and mental if it is deliberately run. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
On the other hand, if you’re busy thinking about how to move your body, how to touch each other, how to observe each other’s feelings, you’re not going to have much pleasure yourself. The experts say that the best sex is when there are no distractions, when the mind and body are fully engaged.
Myth #2: Prolonging foreplay or afterplay can make sex less interesting.
Many people think that sex should always be impromptu. In fact, in our busy and stressful lives and jobs, it’s hard to have the leisure to wait for the eroticism that comes naturally, so waiting for it will only make the good times we should have slip away. Although many experts do not advocate pre-determined sexual behavior, but advocate for good sex to set aside time. Imagine how long it takes you to make a dish?
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While sex that satisfies you isn’t about how long it takes, it’s about how much fun it is, if it’s too short to share the sensations, then sex is just a mechanical act. Foreplay is especially important to increase “sexual” interest. You can shower with your husband. When you help him apply bubbles all over his body, he will certainly have a different kind of feeling. The beautiful Ming said she asked her husband to help her flush every time she took a shower. There is always a joy and excitement that rises in the heart of Minh at that time.
Myth #3: Women who are too independent will make men sexuallyunavailable.
Lanxin is not only charming and beautiful, but also a successful female white-collar worker, and her career is booming, but their originally loving married life has gone wrong. The husband became frustrated after several failed attempts in bed, and one night he even proposed to Lan Xin to sleep in separate beds. The first time I saw him, I thought he was too strong and that was the reason for his husband’s sexual impotence.
But that’s not the case. The man’s “failure” may be due to a number of factors. A woman’s independence is an attraction for men. The most attractive women, from a man’s point of view, are those who are passionate and active in their sexuality. The woman who doesn’t put any thought into sex, but only passively performs obligatory sex, will make her husband sexually impotent.
Myth #4: Sex should always be the most perfect and passionate communication between the minds and bodies of two people.
In real life, sex can be all kinds of things: mild, wild, long-lasting, short-lived, good, and bad. So to be frustrated and distressed that what we experience is not as good as we thought it would be, only robs us of the pleasure we already have and leaves us with a never-ending sense of impotence and failure. Therefore, accepting and facing our sexuality with a normal mind is the only way to not be surrounded by pain and confusion.
Myth #5: Being upfront about your feelings can make the other person think you are too open.
Many women have this inherent misconception, and it takes a lot of the fun out of sex for themselves. Think about it are you also shy about how you feel? Rong is a ladylike woman who has been married for 5 years and her sex life with her husband is as logical as a weekend.
But one night, her husband suddenly told Rong that it would be better for everyone to spend some time apart. The first time I saw him, I was so angry. The first time I saw it, I was very happy. The husband mumbled for a moment and lowered his head and said: We lack communication, including in bed, you are always silent, I …… feel bored.
Experts agree that sex can only be fresh if both partners are honest about how they feel. Many women who have trouble in their marriages always assume that men move on mostly because they get bored of themselves over time.
But the truth is that only a lack of understanding of you, a lack of commitment per se, and a lack of enthusiasm for each other’s relationship are the main causes of sexual burnout. Most couples follow a certain pattern every time they have sex because they know to each other what is most likely to make each other feel happy; but once sex becomes routine and you don’t have to put in the effort to be creative, it can make people feel bored.
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Myth #6: Women are never as interested in sex as men are.
Much of this misconception comes from the traditional education we were raised with, which is that girls are expected to suppress their sexuality while boys are encouraged to let it out. Many experts believe that women are far more responsive to sexual stimulation than men. In addition, if they are healthy and have enough time and energy, women are generally more sexually active than men ever were.
Myth #7: If you use contraceptions, it will be unpleasant for him.
Women who think this way tend to be forgetful, thinking only about making their husbands happy and content, but forgetting that they have to endure pain and helplessness. When my best friend Aki told me she went to the hospital for another abortion, I couldn’t help but sigh. I had nothing to say, but I wanted to tell Aki: Can you take some responsibility for yourself? The first time I saw the film, I was able to see it.
Myth #8: If you’re always dealing with one sexual partner, you’re going to get bored over time.
Most couples follow a certain pattern every time they have sex, but once sex becomes a routine, it can become tiresome. That’s why experts suggest that the only way for both partners to keep sex fresh is to express their feelings honestly. For example, when sad and frustrated, the speed of sex is slower, you can also add some hugs and touching action; and if purely to meet the physical needs, simply engage in it. The actual fact is that you will be able to get a good deal on your own, and you’ll be able to get a good deal on your own.