[Introduction]If you are significantly better than the guy you want, you can take a form of respectful self-presentation in your relationship by demeaning yourself in front of him, exposing your weaknesses and belittling your accomplishments. This creates proximity and intimacy.
Secret Weapon #1: Softness
Time to apply: Early in the relationship, any time you need help.
Reason to use: Guys love to be heroes. When you give a girl a hand, the guy instantly feels heroic. The first thing you need to do is to get a little bit of help.
He will love you more when he helps you. Only a girl who needs a guy is attractive.
Two tips for using this weapon: First, don’t add your opinion blindly, it will discredit his manhood and turn him off. The second is to be grateful. The first is to be able to use the same kind of technology as the other.
Secret weapon number two: let him spill the beans
Applicable timing: when guys run into frustration and disappointment.
Reason for use: Heroes get tired too, and guys work hard too. Don’t let them take on too much pressure. Boys want someone to love him and take care of him instead of his mother, and they all love the kind of girl at heart who lets herself be pampered in front of her. When a boy is down, he needs protection from you with a maternal touch.
Tips to use: Never laugh at a guy in a tough situation, he needs your affirmation and your warmth to relax and rebuild his confidence.
Secret Weapon #3: Keep the mystery alive
When to use it: When the relationship is uncertain.
Reason for use: Guys are very curious, and when faced with a girl who is difficult to understand her inner thoughts and motivations for her behavior, this mystery is the attraction, drawing them to explore and discover her secrets.
Boys have an innate desire to conquer again, and the more reserved you are, inexplicably and unmanageably, the more you fascinate them; don’t let guys think you’re within reach. A guy once complained about girls who were all submissive, “I haven’t even raised my gun yet, she’s down.” So then, no matter how much you’re calling for him, you can’t act too pushy.
Use the key: keep some distance to be beautiful. Instead of feeling hard work, boys will find it enjoyable to be with you in order to finally conquer you.
Secret Weapon #4: Give him room for flexibility
When it works: When the relationship is strong, but you get burned out over time.
Reason for use: There is a saying that “men need respect and women need attention”. The best way to respect a guy is to give him a flexible space where he can breathe fresh air and show off his skills. Boys are reluctant to be “tied up” in love, often phone calls asking for whereabouts, filtering his friends and hobbies, etc. …… This is like imprisoning them in a cage. From time to time, guys get burned out on relationships and want to “run away”.
Tips to use: Smart girls need to cut back on their control, let them go out and blow off steam, and not treat guys like private property at any time or place.
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Secret Weapon #5: Stay Silent When Appropriate
Timing: When guys brag to you; when guys have something on their mind.
Reason for use: Guys always like to show off themselves to girls, so just listen. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. Boys bragging in front of you is often nothing more than a lack of self-confidence. If you can’t listen, his self-confidence will crumble if he has trouble building it. Many times, guys seem to be preoccupied but won’t talk about it. Girls take the trouble to guess and end up complaining. It’s best to keep your voice quiet on such occasions.
Tips to use: Maintain appropriate silence even when guys aren’t trying to be aggressive. It is rare for a guy to be able to go all the way forever in his life, and most guys will always have periodic mood swings and behavioral adjustments. Whipping a fast cow is often counterproductive, and guys don’t always need motivation.
Secret Weapon #6: Stay forgiving
Timing: When a guy indulges in something trivial that doesn’t make sense to you; when he’s having an affair with another woman.
Reason for use: Guys expect tolerance from girls, and this is often his best motivation is a real, moment-to-moment need.
You need to allow him to play computer games day and night sometimes, or to play puzzles as a hobby, to let him play cards and drink tea with his buddies to kill some weekend when he should be shopping with you, because guys need to go back to their youth from time to time, which is a reproduction of the teenage mentality of escaping the excessive love and attention of their mothers.
Tips to use: Boys naturally like to look for and appreciate beauty in the opposite sex, and you need to be tolerant of his normal interactions with other girls. Boys don’t see each other as much as you think, in fact if he has a good appreciation, he will most likely love you well.
Secret Weapon #7: Devalue Yourself to Retreat
Applicable Timing: Girls who are in a good position to get along with their usual guys.
Reason for use: If you are clearly better than the guy you want, you can take a form of respectful self-presentation in the relationship, demeaning yourself in front of him, exposing your weaknesses and devaluing your accomplishments. This creates proximity and intimacy.
Tips to use: It is an indisputable fact that the yin and the yang are in decline. The boys’ confidence is sometimes very shaky, and when the girls are strong, the boys are timid and inferior and stop.
Secret weapon eight: the right amount of jealousy and jealousy
Applicable time: the sensitivity of love decreases, seems to have the feeling of an old married couple.
Reason for use: A girl who doesn’t know how to be jealous is like a ball that doesn’t bounce when you shoot it down – as boring as it is. The right amount of jealousy and jealousy at the right time can prove your love and attention to him and satisfy a guy’s vanity. To let him feel that you are very good coaxing, coaxing a jealousy on the past, so he will be reassured that you, boys want to know whether the girl has love for him, but out of male pride is not good to say it directly. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Tips to use: Be careful with jealousy to maintain the sensitivity of love: do not dwell on the same thing each time and try to say it in a sappy tone.