Healthy anger is a mechanism that must ensure that you do not allow yourself to be hurt and that you do not hurt others. Anger is actually often not comparable to aggression. Anger is a normal psychological response, whereas aggression is an overreaction that often has unpredictable consequences.
1. Identify your anger
Sometimes we may reflect symptoms in our bodies, such as a stomachache or dry mouth, or we may show deviations in our behavior, such as tailgating in a car or dropping the ball. One possibility is that we are angry or suppressing anger. So, the first thing to learn is to know if you are angry. When angry, we may express it directly, we may modify it to make it less direct and hide it with resentment, nitpicking, resentment, etc., or we may express it in a more indirect frustration.
2. Analyze the cause
When we perceive anger, we need to calm down and analyze what is making us angry. The reason to look for is not the specific event, but the details underneath the event that alludes to what offended your bottom line. Is it because someone else has damaged your rights, your self-esteem? Or is it frustration because things didn’t go the way you expected? Or are you fighting for your rights in an angry way?
3. Think about what anger means to you
Next, you need to think about these two questions – “Why am I (not) angry?” “What is the benefit of (not) getting angry?” Men who are unable to express their anger often have emotions that burn like fire, and such a state hinders the process of self-analysis and self-awareness.
4. Find the reasons why you can’t express anger
We are often influenced by underlying ideas that prevent us from expressing ourselves, so it is necessary to pull them out and sort them out.
5. Choose appropriate expressions
Drinking, racing, and provocation are some of the anger expressions that are distinctly masculine, and such expressions often result in harm to others or to oneself. Exercise, or watching sports, is a preferred form of expression for men, and transferring anger to sports or sports opponents can rationalize the expression of anger. There are, of course, many ways to express anger, but the most respected is direct expression. When anger is expressed, the threat is gone.
Healthy venting of anger
Healthy venting is a mechanism to make sure that you don’t get yourself hurt and that you don’t hurt others. Anger is actually often not comparable to aggression. Anger is a normal psychological response, while aggression is an overreaction that often has unpredictable consequences. The easiest way to do this is to see a therapist to fully communicate your vulnerable psychological feelings and let them calmly show you how you can deal with the problem without aggressive behavior.