Falling in love is a process for women to come out of the world of emotions and into the world of two people. Because having a relationship gives women more opportunities to learn about men, romance, and marriage, it also prepares women for life after entering marriage.
The growth curve of a woman is not fundamentally different between a woman before she falls in love and a man. But many women enter relationships and especially after marriage, and the growth curve of women changes intrinsically compared to men. These changes are dangerous for women, because many women see marriage as their home. This, then, requires women to make rational choices about their future marriage during the relationship.
1. How to choose a man
Choosing a man is what opens the floodgates of marriage, and women must go through this process.
Meeting and understanding men is the first step in marriage. In this process, a woman should not be easily emotionally invested, and can completely let go of getting to know men, so that she can not only expand her exposure to men, but also, by comparison, understand what kind of man she really needs.
A real man is not something you can tell from his appearance. In addition to choosing a man’s appearance, women need to understand a man’s upbringing, stories about growing up, types of friends, hobbies, attitudes about handling problems, and a man’s future dreams to fully judge a man’s character, will, and potential. A man who has the will character and at the same time hard work, even though the conditions at the moment are not very good, such a man is very potential, just like a potential stock, such a man should become a woman’s first.
Choosing a man who loves you is more important than choosing a man you love. Men are naturally inclined to be hunters, and making a man an emotional captive is something men will resist from the bottom of their hearts. There is no need for women to do such a silly thing, but many women just do it, and there are many sad stories. It’s not necessarily the man’s fault, but the woman’s foolishness.
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2. How to accept a man’s family
It is an ironclad rule that the world of in-laws and daughters-in-law is a world full of conflicts from ancient times to the present. Some women may say that they have a good relationship with their mother-in-law or something like that, but statistically speaking, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law fights are common and normal. The woman has to learn to deal with the man’s elders while getting someone else’s son. The kind of accusation of how others can only make the woman fall into the emotional mud pit, and in the end it is always the woman herself who gets hurt.
Wise women should learn to put an end to such mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflicts, because they may become mothers-in-law themselves one day. The woman who learns to respect her mother-in-law can also eliminate conflicts like aunts and sisters-in-law. In short, learning to respect a man’s family members actually creates a good environment for the woman herself. Of course there will be women who say: why should women be required to accept a man’s family? Because the reality is that many men are pleasing women and their families, and men rarely do this.
3. How to deal with marriage and work
Love is beautiful, marriage is dull. When the wedding is over, love comes from heaven to earth, and romance is gradually replaced by reality.
A realistic marriage requires realistic pillars to maintain emotional stability. The woman’s insurmountable pregnancy, child-rearing, and household chores are faced, and the woman devotes more love and energy to her family and to the man. Men are more likely to seek and practice development.
So there is a contradiction between men’s development and women’s stagnation, between the boring life and the seductive world men face. The woman’s conscience may be a dog, but such a compassionate outburst of emotion will not bring back the man’s cheating heart. The woman’s heart is not in the right place.
When in love, if women would consider this question, I think many of them would choose to work to support their potentially miserable lives. This is sensible and what women should do. Work is not only the backbone of a man but of a woman. Of course, many women expect to realize their dreams of wealth and prosperity through a rich husband, which is not wrong. It’s just that women need to bear the consequences of that choice.
4. How to accept a man’s personality
Accepting a man means accepting the man’s personality and accepting many things about the man’s existence. Although what exists may not be reasonable, it is very difficult to change a man’s characteristics through love. A woman with a cleanliness fetish, asking a man to wash his hands many times a day, the man is very tired of it, and more born to complain a lot. It is selfish to demand a man by his own standards. Men who really love women will take the initiative to change their own, but completely change themselves to cater to women, can only be a woman’s delusion. A woman must be prepared to do this before she gets married.
5. How to give up your own personality
Like the question above, this question is only about how to make the couple’s life more harmonious from the woman’s point of view. Everyone will have their own personality or characteristics, but women should learn to modify their own personality as they interact and live with men.
Imagine if men and women ask each other to adapt to themselves, it is impossible for such men and women to live together. In fact, marriage is to some extent a matter of men and women giving up their own characteristics to find common intersection, the more intersection, the more harmonious the marriage. However, this is not to say that women completely abandon themselves to cater to men, but women need to amend themselves to win a stable and harmonious marriage. This is true for women, and certainly for men.
Reminder: Marriage is realistic and in many cases cruel. Have women thought about this when they fall in love? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.